I have 60 cupcakes I need to make for Saturday. It's for a lady who's wedding I did (very nice customer)... But she needs me to deliver them for her after a certain time. The location is not far from my house either. BUT my Fiance is fed up with me having to deliver cakes/cupcakes. He says that it ruins our weekend 
I understand where he's coming from...and it's kind of true (having to wait a certain time to deliver the cupcakes 
)..
What should I do? How do you all handle delivery/pick-up situations??
Pls help!
If you're doing this as a business, then this is a job .... the same as HIS job! When he has to work overtime, it ruins your evenings/weekends, too, but I bet he thinks that's ok..... because he has a "REAL" job.
I'll bet he doesn't mind helping you spend the money you make on these jobs, does he?
As I stated earlier today .... men, for the most part, are idiots.
If you're doing this as a business, then this is a job .... the same as HIS job! When he has to work overtime, it ruins your evenings/weekends, too, but I bet he thinks that's ok..... because he has a "REAL" job.
I'll bet he doesn't mind helping you spend the money you make on these jobs, does he?
As I stated earlier today .... men, for the most part, are idiots.
No lying there! But, she e-mailed me already assuming that I would be able to deliver them (which ticks me off even more). I wish I can use that argument with him. He's a Case Manager and gets home at 2 PM everyday
I think I'm going to e-mail her back and tell her that I can deliver them, but in the morning. I also think I'm going to put that as a requirement - if you want delivery, it'll be delivered no later than 11 AM.
sometimes you have to delivery outside of their schedule. It's not like it's hot food that can't sit around for awhile! What if you had 5 deliveries that day and you wouldn't be in her area at that precise moment?
When I managed a Cust Svc Dept, I had a CSR who was married to a guy who was the tennis pro at the local country club, so he thought he was some local star or something. He was always on her butt because she would stay late to get an emergency order out the door and his stance was "at 5:00 you walk out the door!" This CSR was my best and was very dedicated, in addition to being my best friend. As her friend, I told her, "He's never had a REAL job. He doesnt' understand that if that delivery doesnt leave our factory on time, then the mfgr's line shuts down, and the employees get sent home early, and their paycheck is short and they can't pay the light bill or buy their kid the winter coat they need for school. If HE leaves early, then some poor little rich housewife misses her tennis lesson. Boo-Hoo! He needs to get a life in the REAL world!"
I have 60 cupcakes I need to make for Saturday. It's for a lady who's wedding I did (very nice customer)... But she needs me to deliver them for her after a certain time. The location is not far from my house either.
I wonder what she's like when the cable guy comes out to fix something between those hours of 8-6 !!!! I am very considerate of my customers, but am a stinker when it comes to them dictating my time. I agree with the others. I'd tell her WHEN I can deliver. (Why can't she pick them up anyway??)
Just because we're in business doesn't mean we have "WELCOME" stamped on our backs.
It can be handled nicely and professionally. Private family time is to be treasured.
I would try to arrange another time for delivery or she can have someone pick them up, because you too have things to do.
In response to your fiance... It is part of the job. If he wants you to continue making money, then he'll just have to accept that. I understand where he's coming from though. He just wants to spend more time with you. My husband has to work long hours and I wish he didn't have to. But sometimes things just need to get done. That's life.
I don't have a business but i do sell some of my cakes from tiem to time i have more orders each day, luckly for me I have 3 kids and it has always been an issue for me to drive somewhere to drop off a cake when my tank is almost $50 to fill, Walmart doesn't deliver so I don't either if they want me to deliver I will with a $25 delivery fee.
Case manager? For what agency? I've worked in government and never heard of anyone going home before 5pm...let alone before.....wow! Lucky guy!
Anyways, not trying to sound like a "wet blanket" here, but the attitude of your intended, may be just a hint of things to come.....if he's balking now at your chosen career, and the effort it takes to make it successful, then plan on it being no different once you marry.
Take it from someone that's been through it twice....if they don't appreciate your interests or support you in your career endevors, they never will.
And remember, "reasons" however resonable they might sound, are just excuses to get their way. If he really loves you, he'll be supportive and helpful, and realize the by doing that he is spending the best quality time he can with you. This works in both directions of course, but we are talking about supporting you here.
My husband supports my efforts and is more than happy to help me anyway he can. We treat the delivery trips more like a "date" and that makes it even better! Especially if we go to dinner of catch a movie afterwards.
Good luck to you, and keep going with your caking desires if that's what you choose to do.....no matter what! 
Egad your not even married to him?
Don't let him dictate your time before you are married or you will be so tied to him after the marriage you will not be able to loosen the knots, then you buy a house, next the kids will come and your stuck.
My husband pushed my buttons once to often, love him dearly but he is a terminal idiot. I swear to God that some men were made and one of the important ingredients left out of the recipe - something like baking soda to help them grow into becoming an adult!
Anyway, I then moved, yes moved to the lower level of my home. New stereo, new TV, new bed in my new bedroom and then put together my artist studio. I have been there two years now and LOVE IT!!!!!!!!! I told him "Not" to push my buttons anymore or I'll just move out of the house and let's see him pay for all the bills by himself the stupid dope.....trust me, he is embarrased by this, but I don't care and I tell everyone.
Nobody, and I mean nobody tells me what to do.
Its all about setting the proper expectations up front, clients dont make a fuss (usually 
) if the know your standard operating practices. My pick up time on Sat is from 9-11:30am, or for a fee you can have it delivered in the early afternoon ( I set the time so all deliveries can be coordinated).
Me and my husband are on he same level with our business and he understands that sometimes our customers can't come pick the cake up so we must deliver hence the delivery fee we've started charging.
One a different note... he was kinda ticked off last night when we waited until 7:20 for our god daughter to show up to get an eBay package that she had bugged us about being late for a week now (wasn't late at all lol she's just impatient) and said she'd be here at 7:05 to get since she works only 2 blocks down the road. 6:45 we call Domino's and place an order for dinner (her sister works there and is manager) so we request that it be made at 7 so it'll be ready for a 7:15 pick up figuring we'd be done with the other neice/god daughter by then and could grab dinner come back home and have a great evening... Nope! didn't happen! 7:25 I ride by her work she's not there, so I proceed to the grocery store another block away break the large bill I needed to and grab something desperatly needed lol go to Domino's pick up dinner make two more stops when I finally get a call on my cell from her at 7:39 asking where I was at that she had JUST left my house. Well I told her where I was and asked where she was she said "I'm going past 7-11 right now heading home" well honey ya didn't JUST leave my house because with the 3 stop lights that's 10 minutes away.... so I said fine meet me at wallgreens I'll be there in a second or two. Just as I pull in the parking lot she says she's half way home now so she can't come back can I bring them to her. Against my better judgement I gave in and went 20 miles down to her house and dropped the damn preggo people clothes off to her and left in a very bad mood because now $25.00 worth of dinner was cold.. and unlike when I was 14 I don't like cold pizza and chicken kickers. So her mother tells me I was stupid for giving in and reems her for not coming straight here and letting her boyfriend dictate her life and demand her every free second. (Her bf can't come around her two children because he abused one of them so they have to sneak to see each other after she gets off work or when the girls are with their dad on the weekends) so with that said... he runs her life... she doesn't have time for anyone else but him and doesn't even care to spend time with her kids let alone keep on schedule with someone else...
So basically... don't let everyone walk all over ya just because it's convient for them to have you deliver.... if you deliver/have to deliver charge them at least your gas and time. I charge Free for first 10 miles, $25.00 for up to 20 miles and $1.00 every mile there after BOTH WAYS! So for a 30 mile one way trip 60 miles both ways, they'd get the first 10 free and pay for 50 miles of that traveling, $25.00 + $40.00 makes it worth my time and if they don't want to make different arrangements then they pay it or "NO CAKE FOR YOU!"
[quote="OhMyGoodies"]..........letting her boyfriend dictate her life and demand her every free second. (Her bf can't come around her two children because he abused one of them so they have to sneak to see each other after she gets off work or when the girls are with their dad on the weekends) so with that said... he runs her life... she doesn't have time for anyone else but him and doesn't even care to spend time with her kids let alone keep on schedule with someone else... [quote]
What the ______? I know this is totally OT, but someone needs to have a talk with this girl. She is still seeing the guy that abused one of her children???? I'm sorry, no matter how much I loved a guy, you don't put him before one of your own children. Did I miss something here? 
lmfao yeah I didn't mean to go OT either sorry about that.. but yes she is still seeing him and everyone (mom, step dad, sisters, CHILDREN, other family members... everyone!) has expressed their concern that "if he did it once he'll do it again" and she doesn't care she just keeps saying "you were in an abusive relationship" well the differance was... her mom left her dad because of it to save her girls.... she won't do that... she'd rather live in a roach infested one room hotel/motel/apartment type place and leave her girls with him and allow him to take them to a known drug dealing child molesters house and leave them unattended for hours.... she's STUPID! We've all tried to explain it to her and get her to leave him but she won't....
But yeah back on topic! lol
Gee i,m sorry i was born a man now because I,m a
"IDIOT". bUT THIS THIS IDIOT HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 37 YEARS LOVE MY WIFE ,2 DAUGHTERS AND GRANDAUGHTERS. We had them over last weekend and let them bake thier own cake and decorate them. But being the idiot I,m now. Gee I even made the icing up so my wife could make a cake for work. Yes men are idiot because I,m one.
He's not dictating, it just upsets him because he doesn't want me "going through missions" on my weekend... I guess I may have worded it wrong...He's just being protective. He doesn't want a cake order/delivery to ruin our weekend. I understand that...
Well, I just wrote to the client and told her I can't deliver 3 PM - going to have to be in the AM. If not, then pick 'em up.
I think we should do a forum on why men are idiots
1- we have to put up with women that think we are idiots- LOLLOL LOL LOL sorry I could not help my self
This discussion has me going through many emotions. First of all, someone needs to call Child Protective Services on the woman who has the "idiot" for a boyfriend. Not that CPS in Texas would do any good, but at least if something tragic happens, you couldn't say you didn't try.
Beetle, your wife is a lucky woman. But you have to also understand most women's point of view. Just think about it, how many husband's are there out there that treat thier wives with love AND RESPECT? Not many that I know. I am blessed with a wonderful husband who would do anything to help me in my business. Luckily for him, the best thing he can do is stay out of it. 
Goodness.. not ALL men are idiots, but I know my fair share of ones who are. I can understand him not wanting you to be bending over backwards for people and holding yourself hostage to their schedules. Good for you for standing up for yourself and for making her pick them up.
And OhMyGoodies.. family or not.. I'd be calling CPS on her and having those kids taken away from her. SHE.. is an idiot.
jkalman- Jinx!!!
I guess I owe you a coke..
CPS is already involved. The children have a protective order covering them, and their grand mother. The judge says the grandmom is on there for HIS protection lol But that hasn't stopped their mom from taking her over there... we found out recently that the youngest, the one abused the worst (left marks on her hiney and started all this crap), was taken to his father's home but left in the car with the mom's cousin for 10 minutes while she was in the house with him....
She filed with the court to have the protective order lifted from HER and him but not the kids and the judge denied it he's hit on the mom, while pregnant, and drug her out of a vehicle by her arm and threw her on the ground... she won't listen at all to anyone! not even the cops. She was told plain out if she goes back to him at any point in time she will lose her children because he is a child abuser and it's in the court records and when he goes to trial (chose a jury trial over the assult) the jury and judge is going to lock him up probably and brand him what he is and make it so she can't have any of the kids around him even if the one she is pregnant with is his kid which we are hoping it isn't... anyway things are in the works with the trial date being in October and he isn't getting away with this one and if she tries to leave she's still married and until the court says she has full custody her husband can step in and take the kids and say who can have them at which time he'll give full custody to his mother in law since she's the one raising them now anyway....
Sorry to go OT again lmfao....
And beetle hun you're not an idiot.... my man isn't an idiot... there are only a few out there like my god daughter's bf that are idiots
He's not dictating, it just upsets him because he doesn't want me "going through missions" on my weekend... I guess I may have worded it wrong...He's just being protective. He doesn't want a cake order/delivery to ruin our weekend. I understand that...
This sounds suspiciously like "defending"...don't get me wrong, if that is really what it is then so be it, but...
Try not to confuse protectiveness, or concern with control. I don't see how your having a productive and profitable day could ruin your weekend. Especially if you love what you are doing. Sounds more like he is just wanting your attention for himself, and doesn't want to be bothered with what is important to you.
You really have to take that into consideration. He may be a great guy, but if he doesn't support your interests as his own, then this is a problem. Wishing it away or trying to justify it just isn't fair to you and it's setting a standard in your relationship. One that says, "I am willing to do whatever you say, even if it's not fair to me." Once they get that message, it's too late.
And just for the record, I didn't say men are idiots...just that they are not the perfect beings that some seem think they are. I've known a few of them in my day. My own DH is sometimes annoying as all get out, and can be stubborn and hard to get through to at times, but he's no idiot by a long shot.
And I definately salute all the men on CC that have their acts together!! Heck you're here arent' you??? That's a big ole brownie point right there! LOL
I guess all of us fellow CC sister's are just saying to our CC sister, be careful and open to advise from those of us that have some experience in the subject. Heck, what have you got to lose by listening?
Good luck to you whatever you decide......
Quote by @%username% on %date%
%body%