Really Need To Ask What You All Would Do...........
Lounge By sweet_as_tisse Updated 25 Sep 2006 , 2:53am by MrsMissey
if someone you know really well, decides that because i decorate cakes so can they. which this in its self is not the issue, the issue is that all of a sudden they decide to join cc and learn all the things you are learning but keep it from you until you happen to come across photos etc.. on the site and wonder what the #$%^ is going on.
then when you ask, they give you every stupid reason and excuse in the world about why they are here and what they a trying to achieve.
i love this site but now when i am here i feel a shadow lurking some where behind me.
kylie
Aren't you afraid your shadow will read this? 
That would frost my a$$, to be quite honest with you. To each their own but why the sneakiness? I am careful not to be specific when I talk about "y'all posters" 
lest my IRL friends catch wind!! Can't have 'em signing on and seeing me complain about their dry cake now can I? 
Not a great deal you can do about it at this point.... pride would prohibit me from showing a great deal of concern or emotion about it. 
I tend to be an open book about how I feel and am working on keeping more of it under wraps... some things are better left unsaid.
The fact that she made up a bunch of lame excuses shows she didn't want you to know. Maybe she is jealous of the attention you get doing cakes or just feels a competitive streak ( if SHE can do it, so can I ) or maybe she just wants to feel included and have people to talk with......
i have raised this issue with this person and it is not worth raising again as i know the response i will get,
to tell the truth i dont care to much if 'my shadow' reads this.
like you said cakediva73 it is a case of 'if she can do it so can i' as this was a response given to a close friend of mine from 'my shadow'.
its just the sneakyness of it all that is really annoying me.
this person is good at taking other peoples ideas etc.. and acting like they are there own, as well as admitting having an attach of the green eyed monster for most of there life
kylie
Hmmmmm.... that sucks to be that unoriginal! Sounds like a SIL to me Just continue your own progress and leave her in the dust. I would do nothing to help someone who is not genuine and who will only take all the credit for herself... I would suggest you keep your favorite recipes and tips to yourself....true, she can come here and learn but it takes talent.
Just like how they say some people will use a recipe and it will be perfect but others use the same one and it turns out terrible every time. It could be ingredients, correct mixing techniques or bake times but it will vary from person to person.... IMHO, of course.
your right cakediva73, i will leave her in my dust and as of today i am not going to let this irritate me anymore.
so thanks for you advise and wisdom, i am a better person than that and do not need to worry about spiteful jealous so called friends.
kylie
Amen Sister!!!! LOL! Yeah, I am terribly wise 
as long as it's not me getting upset. 
Then I tend to get a bit more irrational. I had a friend who was the decorator first (8 years ago) and for years, begged her to teach me the basics... she always found reasons not to. We lived 2 hrs. apart so I didn't think I would be stepping on her feet or anything but still she never acknowledged my requests, so I taught myself and then took classes to cover everything I inevitably missed.
The first time she saw my pictures she quickly classified them as "basic" cakes and took a very "teacherly" tone to make sure I was charging enough... turns out, I had learned more than she knew but I tried to never throw it in her face and always took her criticism with a grain of salt. I'm sure if she realized how determined I would be she would have taken the time to teach me so at least she could take credit for that!
When she said those things, I was really upset. And then I just let it go... she still gives me crap about using dr'd cake mixes but now I see she does that because she is jealous and it makes her feel better to try to put me down. We have been friends since birth so I am unwilling to sacrifice the friendship over this so I let her get away with it. If she is really rude, however, I call her on it! 
For me, understanding doesn't = doormat.
Take Care! What do they say... immitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I guess that means you should be very flattered indeed!
wow... thanks again for your wisdom. lol
the funny thing about all this is that me and 'my shadow' have been friends since we were very young aswell and we live in a very small town so there is not much you can hide around here as everyone usually finds out sooner or later.
i say ' what goes around comes around'.
kylie
i just wanted to add
cc was or is my place to come and escape from my normal world of kids, husbands, friends and family that drive me nuts on accasions.
but with this situation i feel i can't do that now, my "cake world" is some thing i wanted just for my self and to only share when i wanted to with my friends and family.
but i refuse to stop coming over this (don't think i could stop being here even if i tried. lol).
cake central and my decorating were my special thing, now i feel part of that has gone!!!!!
kylie
Put your blinkers on and ignore fairweather friends! We have all been there and know how you feel!
Don't leave us!! 
yes we both know each others user names.
sticky sticky sticky....... lol
kylie
cake central and my decorating were my special thing, now i feel part of that has gone!!!!!
It's gone because you are letting your "shadow" control you. Sure, I would be hurt and miffed at first, but if you quit visiting and continue to feel as if a piece of you has been taken away, you've let your "shadow" win.
I firmly believe in KARMA, because it does happen.
Chin up!!! don't let him/her get to you.
Reminds me of something my "best" friend did to me a few years ago. We both loved to bake, even did Christmas baking together in college. She knew I loved to decorate cakes, cookies, and candy. I moved back up to Ft. Worth, 3 hours away and when visiting her, she said she had been keeping a secret. She and her husband were going to start a cookie delivery service... hot cookies on demand. She said she didn't want me to know because she, "didn't want me to steal her idea." 
I let it go. Her business failed I'm sorry to say. This "best" friend didn't stop there. When I distributed a Christmas flyer at the school where I worked and immediately got orders, I suggested that she do the same in her town. Then when I told her how many orders I got (so she would go to the schools) she told me she didn't want to hear it. She said it was her idea and I had more success than her.
Let me tell you, these are the first signs that she is not a true friend after all. I moved back to her town, partly to be closer to her and things got worse. We have not talked for 3 years! We are better off. And I'm glad she didn't get the schools' business now that I teach in the same schools I told her to go to
I agree with the others, you just keep doing what you are doing 
but definitely watch your back.
thanks guys for all your positive responses.
i feel heaps better now about this now....
this is why i love cc so much!!!!!!!
there is no way i am going to give up coming to cc...
kylie
ok, I just have to say that I looked at your photos and they are wonderful! Maybe your friend is so impressed by all your cakes (because I certainly am) that she wants to really try to accomplish what you have. I can understand how you feel though. Has she ever asked for you to show her what you know? I'm teaching a friend right now what I know (which isn't much) but it's fun to do together. I guess it just depends on the attitude this girl has.
Has she told you that you have squished her dreams by planning on opening a bakery in HER home town- something she has been planning since she was in 8th grade (but ironically never mentioned it until YOU started getting popular)? Has she all of a sudden enrolled herself in culinary school to become a pastry chef?
Has she twisted around words to now make you the baker of her wedding cake which has changed six times in four months... first 90 servings and now over 160 servings for FREE?
Has she mentioned that she doesnt want friends of the family to "work" at her wedding ie- security, but expects you to be there to SERVE the cake?
...oh wait, thats my headache....
I say you make a smash cake for her and SMASH IT IN HER FACE....
thanks puppylovesconfections
thats a great idea, i think i'll go bake that cake right now. lol
by the way i am sorry to here about your headache, what is it with "so called" friends these days.
kylie
They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but this person goes too far. Distance yourself, not completely, but just enough so that she does not find out what you are doing anymore. It will not be easy, but at least you will give yourself a little more peace of mind. They also say that what one does not know won't hurt them. In that case, let her hurt bad!
Theres 
***This topic has been moved to The Lounge***
I think it should have been removed all together. I am sorry you are having these problems with your "friend", but, everything being written here is about another CC member. I think if you have a gripe, then PM her.
If I didn't know it was another CC member you were talking about, I would offer my opinion, but under the circumstances, I can't.
adven68
sorry you feel this way, i have spoke in person to this member as we live in the same town and if you read my earlier post it would be a waste of my time to bring it up again.
the other thing is that this member is only a member because of ME anyway. to keep up with the jones as we say here is australia.
sneaky people really @#$% me off. i know she is not here to be part of the cc family, its just to learn all she can from, not just me but everyone here, which is fine to do, but you don't go and pass it all off as your own ideas.
kylie
jackie
could you please lock this post now, i just wanted to respond to adven68.
i do realise the person in question is a member but there is a lot of history between us, which a lot of you do not know and will never know.
if anyone would like to dicuss this situation further please pm me instead of posting here.
kylie
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