Fil Passed Away, Need Cake Idea For The Wake
Decorating By sprtd76 Updated 21 Sep 2006 , 11:27pm by jennifer293
Hello everyone,
I sure could use some help on this one. My fil passed away over the weekend, it was quite a shock to all of us. He went in the hospital on Wednesday, told on Thursday he probably wouldn't make it through the weekend and passed on Saturday. What I need help with is my mil has decided not to have a memorial service: however she wants to have a wake at her house on Thursday. First, would it be appropriate for me to do a cake? Second what should I do? I have seen different people do the cross or the open book, but I don't have either of those pans. Any ideas or suggestions would be deeply appreciated. At this point I am struggling just trying to hold it together for my husband and kids. I haven't got a clue one. TIA.
First, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad last July and it is one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I am sue your hubby and family appreciate your support.
Second, I think a cake would be great. Maybe based off a sport he loved? Hobby? A family tree?
You are in my thoughts,
Tracy
Can you borrow a cross or book pan from someone? Maybe you can cut up a rectangle cake to make a cross cross. I would make his favorite cake and use his favorite colors.
Sorry for your loss.
at the bakery I worked at, we would often do a simple white cake with buttercream icing, and a few well placed pastel roses...in light blue for male! It's my opinion that it is nice if it is a peaceful looking cake and not overly done...taking away from the purpose of the gathering. I have a flower basket cake in my photos that might be an idea!
I would do a simple 1/4 sheet or 1/2 sheet (whatever you need), use a nice buttercream and apply 2-3 gumpaste lilies. Or you can talk to the florist and find out what flowers will be on the casket and make a few GP flowers to match that).
My grandfather passed away june 30 and he was so well loved, we as a family decided we were not going to wear black to the funeral but rather made the decision to wear our colors because we were celebrating a beautiful life. Well as the oldest grandchild i was very busy scanning pictures to create a collage and design the funeral program and because staying busy is how i dealt with the reality of it all i decided to do a cake too. Of course this was all a bit much and considering i lived an hour from new orleans and left the house at noon (funeral ws for 1:30) with 2 stacked un-iced layers and a bucket of chocolate buttercream and a bag of cookies and candy, this is what i came up with, afterall everyone knows chocolate is good for the soul.
I got to the house at 1:00, I iced while my kids unwrapped candies, we completed this cake in under 20 minutes and it was a hit at the after-party (yes i said party, we do things a lil different in new orleans, paw paw would have loved it!)
wilton also has a cake in their yearbook that uses that clear plastic stuff to put pictures around a cake seperator. that would be a nice way to remember him at different stages of his life and also a good way to get enough cake in for everyone. here's a picture to clarify.
I am so sorry for your loss. Are you sure you are up to making the cake? It is a nice idea, but you need to mourn too. Don't try to take on too much, this is a difficult time for you & your family.
If you do make the cake, I agree, keep it simple. A scripture verse is always nice. If you FIL was in to music, maybe a line from a favorite song or hymn?
I'm sorry for your loss, my beloved FIL passed away in March and it just doesn't seem right without him holding his grandbabies anymore. I didn't make a cake for his funeral, but I did for a lady I knew who passed last year. I made a sheet cake with blue flowers on it with just specks of yellow and the greenery (it was all pale to med. tones) and I wrote "IN Gods garden now" on top. rosiecakes, on my side of the family we do the same thing to try to celebrate their life.
So sorry for your family's loss..
I did a cake for a neighbor who had a beloved Aunt die a few months back. I kept it very simple with flowers and some butterflies from the craft store. I just thought butterflies seemed appropriate, I don't know why. It was hard to know what the right thing to do was.
Don't overwhelm yourself with this..its a lovely gesture, though..
Cindy
I'm to late for idea, but just had to offer my deepest sympathy on your FIL passing. I know it is a rough time for you now. I'm sure whatever you decided on was perfect, and appreciated by your MILI also have a son and DIL that live in Prospect, Ohio. Take care, Chrysb
so Sorry for your loss. I am sure whatever you decide on will be great. I had never heard of having cake for a funeral until I got on here. I think it is a great idea because everybody loves cake and it is a nice comfort food to curb your thoughts a little.. 
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