Eeew, store bought cakes can be gross. (I had one from Shaw's and it was horrible.) Yeah, if you're honestly hurt, I think you should talk to them about how you feel. Maybe they can explain why they didn't have you make the cake. (They didn't feel like making you go to the trouble, for example). But I HIGHLY doubt they prefer store bought to what you can make. I wouldn't expect family members to ask me to do cakes. I would ask them if I could make them.
Hoped I helped (although I might be repeating somethings people have said, it's all true),
Alex
I suppose it's like having a doctor or mechanic in the family (or hairdresser, painter, plumber, electrician....). You just don't want to pester them with your own stuff since they have a company to run and shouldn't be bothered with your own small cake.
I agree that chances are they didn't want to impose. But I do understand your feelings being hurt in the process... Sometimes, at least for me, it isn't easy to "let things go" simply without some sort of dialogue (infact, I envy people who can do that) - maybe down the road you could casually offer to make next years cake - but be upbeat about it, not defensive. Most people HATE confrontation.
HTH, and sorry if I became a bit verbose... bad habit.
take it easy 
Oh, I'm so happy when my family doesn't ask me to make a cake!!!!
I thought the exact same thing!!
However, I have had my feelings hurt in the same way! Keep your chin up! I am sure they just didn't want to bother you or they just didn't think about it in time!
I don't expect to get all the birthday cakes in our family. There are times that my mom does the cakes and that doesn't bother me. There are other issues with my brother and I think the reason I got so upset was because this was "the straw that broke the camels back".
I didn't say anything at the party and I don't plan on saying anything at all. I just wondered if it bothered anyone else.
I hope my first post didn't give the impression that I feel like everyone HAS to order from me or I will get upset because that is not the case. I've been to a lot of events to where I'm not doing the cake. I'm just getting starting into the wedding cakes and some people still don't know that I do those. It's just when it comes to family...well never mind.
I'm just getting starting into the wedding cakes and some people still don't know that I do those.
I can relate to that.
When I emailed pics to my sister of a pretty big wedding/catering I did, she said, "Wow! I had no idea you did all THAT!" It was the first time she'd actually SEEN the buffet table set up, all of the chafers lined up, the serving dishes, the equipment, the food variety, my staff working the event, etc. She had no idea.
big ole kentucky hugs to you fabfour (((((((Hugs)))))) I know how it feels...I am so thin skinned if someone sneezed wrong I would think they are making fun of me. It's alright to be a little upset just dont let it consume you or make you think twice about your work!!! chin up hun!!!
My feelings would be hurt too. It's understandable.
My family does this too. They've explained that they don't want to make me feel obligated to doing cakes for them and giving it free. They know how hard it is for me to find time and money to do cakes. I'm a SAHM of 3 kids, soon to be 4 kids.
I'm sure they have their reasons for not asking you.
From my own experience . . .
The people closest to us generally pick up on how much work and love goes into the cake that are created at home . . .
I've learned not to be hurt if I am not asked to bake something for my families parties . . . as my gramma said recently, sometimes they just want me to come and be their guest.
I'm just getting starting into the wedding cakes and some people still don't know that I do those.
I can relate to that.
When I emailed pics to my sister of a pretty big wedding/catering I did, she said, "Wow! I had no idea you did all THAT!" It was the first time she'd actually SEEN the buffet table set up, all of the chafers lined up, the serving dishes, the equipment, the food variety, my staff working the event, etc. She had no idea.
I think I have found this to normally be the case. My aunts and other family members were shocked the first time they would go to a wedding and see one of my cakes or go to an event where I did a dessert buffet. They always come back and say "wow, I thought you just did a cake now and then!"
Your family will eventually catch on and people will start talking and it will eventually get around that you want to do weddings. I am currently in the middle of an in-law drama and feeling very sensitive -- I think if one of them were to just look at me funny I would burst into tears or fly off the handle currently! It sounds like you have had other things going on and this was "the icing on the cake." I'm so sorry your feelings were hurt!!!!
Your feelings are real and valid. I too would have been a bit hurt at first and that is ok. Most likely what had happened was they dropped the ball and forgot about the cake, or put it off too last min, or they just didn't want to impose on you. I am more than sure that they were not trying to hurt you. I do understand why you were hurt and like I said it is OK to feel what you are feeling. However I would most assuredly would let it go as again I am very sure it was not anything personal.
I hope this helps
you might also want to realize that they probably didn't even think about a cake until the day before the party (like I do)....and by that time, they probably felt it was too late to come to you.
For some people, cake is the last thing they're thinking of when planning a party.
Insane, I know.
Since our families don't live close to us, I don't ever get the opportunity to do cakes for them, but when we are planning on going to Nebraska, I offer to bring a cake if I can. I do most of the nieces and nephews wedding cakes since I will be going to the wedding anyway...that is my gift to them...that saves them a TON of money!!
But then there are my lovely step-children...gotta love 'em!! When the first one got married 8 years ago I was told that I wasn't "good enough yet"...right to my face. FINE!! So then the next one got married...still not good enough...mind you, I have been doing cakes since 1987, you would think by 1998 I would have some level of skill mastered!! Then the DAUGHTER gets married....of course I made THAT one. The mother called my husband (her ex-husband) and told him that the cake that Amber wants is going to cost him $600...he said, "the one that Amber is going to GET isn't going to cost me a dime cuz Candy is going to make it"...so instead of "letting" me do the cake, she ordered sheetcakes and cupcakes and of course Amber was bawling...so she finally gave in and LET me make the cake. I got so many compliments on it and it was like a spur under a saddle to her...so NOW the second son is getting married AGAIN and after 21 years I am still NOT QUITE GOOD ENOUGH YET...Fine, let her parents pay $600 for a cake...I don't CARE!!!! Whe people at the wedding ask me if I made the cake I will tell them "I would have if they would have asked me"...
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