Maid Of Honor Dilemma (Long)
Lounge By funkychica1_2004 Updated 18 Sep 2006 , 4:33pm by hockeygirl658
Ok, so this has absolutely nothing to do with cakes, but I really could use some feedback. A girl I went to middle school with, and who I lightly kept in touch with through Mock United Nations sessions, asked me almost 2 years ago to be her bridesmaid...keeping in mind at that point I was talking to her about once a year, now it's not even that! So she called me a few weeks ago saying that she doesn't want me to be a bridesmaid anymore but could I please be the maid of honor? ?!?!?! Ok this girl and I have never really been friends, but apparently I'm the closest girl friend that she has. Her sister was supposed to be the maid of honor but won't be 18 by the wedding next fall (in Maryland you have to be at least 18 to be a maid of honor because you're a legal witness). My dad says I can't get out of this because her mom is a family friend and blah blah blah. I don't think it's fair for me to do all the maid of honor stuff though because I live 2 hours away now with college and I am NOT running back and forth all summer long! Is there a nice way to handle this?
I agree with desireed.
Tell her that you are flattered that she wants you for that role in her life, but you're just trying to be responsible enough to realize that you wouldn't be able to do it.
Throw in a "I would if I could line"
Good luck to you, that's a tough spot to be in.
Because you are so far away she may not expect you to handle the traditional Maid of Honor duties. There might be someone else local to her that can handle it if she doesn't do it herself. I would definately talk to her about it and explain your situation. Maybe all she really wants is for you to be there beside her at the wedding.
JMO
why can't her sister still be the maid of honor & you sign the license as the witness, anyone there can sign it, can't they--they're all witnessing it--heck my MOH was barely 15--haha---don't you just need 2 witnesses--heck call you the LEGAL MOH--lol 
Tell her to have 2 maids of honor. Her sister can be the real maid of honor and do all of those duties and you can be the legal age maid of honor to sign the paperwork as a witness. (I've seen this done at 1 other wedding)
lol--that's what i get for not reading all the down 
I agree, you could still be a bridesmaid and NOT the maid of honor but sign as a witness. Better yet, her mom or another relative could sign as a witness I believe, it doesn't have to be the person with the "maid of honor" title who signs the marriage certificate.
Good luck and I pray you don't end up in an ugly dress! LOL!
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Good luck and I pray you don't end up in an ugly dress! LOL!
Hahaha I think it is going to be ugly because her wedding colors are red and blue, and her sister got a blue dress and red is horrible on my complection
DH's sons (14 & 16 at the time) were our best men. We didn't realize they couldn't sign the license until after the ceremony. Oopsie!
Hubby just grabbed one of his buddies from work that had come to the wedding and had him sign it.
As far as I know we are still legally married! 
Regarding your friend, just tell her that you would be happy to sign for her, but you don't have time to do anything more than show up and be in the wedding.
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