How Do You Convence Then That It Will Look Terrible?
Decorating By AuntieElle Updated 18 Jul 2007 , 3:30am by AuntieElle
I am making a shower cake for my sister's upcoming shower. The other two women helping with the shower have some really bad ideas as to what this cake should look like. I told them I would handle it and to trust me. At first they we're cool with that now, not so much. They have both seen cakes I have made before and just ooooooohed and awwwwwwed over them you'd think they'd be cool. My suster had originally wanted her shower to match her nursery decor but has since changed her mind since this party is for her. She now just wants me to use my imagination which I like but these other 2 bats have got their nose in it. Not sure how to say go away I've got this. These women have REALLY BAD TASTE! HAHAHA I want this to be special for my sister without seeming like a control freak! This her first baby, I want her to always remember this. Should I just tell em to jump in a lake or shake my head yes and then do whatever I want? These "other two women" are my Mother and oldest sister. I have to be nice here, I would never tell my Mom to bug off. She'd still slap the taste out of my mouth!
<<<Putting on my blinders>>>
Elle
Sometimes dealing with a family member's bad cake idea is soooo much more difficult than dealing with bad ideas from strangers.
Could you just tell them this is your gift to your sister and both of you would like it to be created from your imagination? In the same way you wouldn't try to control their choice of gifts, they shouldn't try to control yours.
Elle--
I have learned that sometimes, just agreeing and then doing it your way anyway (when it comes to family members) is the best way to deal with this situation.
I would tell that I tried ittheir way and it didn't work so I made an executive and creative decision.
Yep just tell them that YOUR sister has given you creative license and considering she is the GUEST OF HONOR she ultimately makes the final decision. Then give them some song and dance like I am sure you ladies have so much more to think about than some small detail like the cake.
I can not stand people who micromanage, stick to your guns, and remember this party is for YOUR sister.
Im sorry ladies while your ideas sound just lovely I have already decided what I will be doing for the cake, as this is my gift to her Id really like to give it my own personal touch, you know form one sister to another so p*ss off you busy body cows
Are they going to be standing over you watching while you bake and decorate the cake? If not, do it your way. Take their ideas and suggestions with a smile on your face while letting it go in one ear and out the other, unless, they have some awesome terrific ideas that you know your sister would like. Just smile and do your thing. Sometimes saying nothing at all is the best approach to an uncomfortable family situation. 
Are they going to be standing over you watching while you bake and decorate the cake? If not, do it your way. Take their ideas and suggestions with a smile on your face while letting it go in one ear and out the other, unless, they have some awesome terrific ideas that you know your sister would like. Just smile and do your thing. Sometimes saying nothing at all is the best approach to an uncomfortable family situation.
Well, it won't let me delete this double post. Sorry about that guys and gals. 
If your sister is fine with what you want, then go for what SHE wants. You might have noticed that I tend to be a little blunt and direct (no...really! I can! 
) so it's pretty easy for me to tell my family to butt the he** out. ("All those who know anything about decorating cakes, raise their hand!!!! Oh? *I'M* the only one with their hand up? Guess that settles the issue of who the expert is here!") 
I actually had to come up with this policy when I first started doing cakes. Bride wanted one thing .... mom wanted another. Mom telling me on the side to "...just igore her, do the cake this way." I took a stance of "it's her wedding (or shower or whatever) so we're doing what she wants."
I agree with Mac too, just let it go in one ear and out the other. If they confront you after the fact (which I doubt) then just let them know that your sister, the one that the party was for, requested what you did and you wanted to do everything you could to make her happy, but they did have some good ideas 
and that maybe you'll use them if they have a baby shower... 
I guess...it is hard to tell them off since they are family too...lol...but yes, find a way..this is your gig.
And you opinionated debi????? Hmmm....thats like saying meek little moi' is forward...hehe. LOL.....as far as the bridal cake issue..I want to side with the bride...but I always look at the mom and daughter....and do it jokingly...when they disagree and say...well...girlie (to the daughter) you better let mama know what you want unless you wanna accept her choice...cuz I gotta do what the person paying me asks!
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"All those who know anything about decorating cakes, raise their hand!!!! Oh? *I'M* the only one with their hand up? Guess that settles the issue of who the expert is here!")
Debi - love that!!
Oh and definitly yes them to death and make what you know your sister (the guest of honor) will love. 
I have laughed so hard reading through all of your responses. I used the this is my gift to her so pi** off approach. My Mother said. . . "Watch you mouth young lady! I guess that'll be fine. How about you come over next week for a practice run?" LMAOOOOOOOOOOO> She just can't let go can she? Well, I am in the middle of a HUGE kitchen renovation ( I am finally getting the kitchen of my dreams! Many great cakes to come! ) So needless to say I have less time to devote to their whims than they would like. This was a touh one as I was raised in to respect my Mother and I do. It did feel nice to say I've got this! Thanksladies! I love thi site and hate that it took so long for me to find it!
Ms Elle
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