I Think I Have A Bad Attitude!!
Decorating By melissablack Updated 15 Jul 2007 , 9:28pm by cosmicbear
I'm just venting a little here... a friend/acquaintance was planning her 1 year old DD's b-day party, saw a cool tiered cake at a local bakery that she wanted, but couldn't afford (they charged wedding cake prices). Well I offered to make the cake for her at cost, as a gift. She said ok but then never mentioned it again. I later found out from a mutual friend that she didn't want to get me to make it 'cause it would hurt her other friend's feelings (this other friend just took 2 of the wilton courses). Ok, no big deal, it's understandable. It's probably better that I didn't have to make it anyway since we're still in the midst of moving and stuff .
Anyways, the party was yesterday and she had a sheet cake from the same bakery, since she couldn't afford the tiered cake. She paid 45$ for a one layer cake, about an inch & a half high, with no filling, sloppy decorating, cake was dry... I know it's not my problem but I couldn't help feeling a little catty and thinking how much better my cake would have been if she'd got me to do it.
Oh well... I just need to learn to not let stuff get to me so much 
I know how you feel. Everyone at my church knows that I do cakes. I always "hear" how good they are, pretty blah,blah,blah. Yet, when there is a special occasion, they pay a bakery here in town. This place is sooo expensive. Recenty a few have asked me to do cakes for them, because they can't afford the bakeries prices. I told them, that I'm not selling cakes until I'm legal. Yea, I'm still working on the attitude thing.
Her loss totally but, maybe she didn't want to hurt either one of your feelings by having to pick one of you to do it so she just sucked it up and paid out the $45 to have a neutral party do it. Just a possible explanation. Try not to take it too personally cause you do really nice work - I peeked in your photos! 
A bit of advice - never volunteer to do someone's cake, even at cost, no matter if they are friend or relative. If they want you to do the cake, they will ask. Trust me, my gang asks all the time.
Theresa
I know how you feel. Everyone at my church knows that I do cakes. I always "hear" how good they are, pretty blah,blah,blah. Yet, when there is a special occasion, they pay a bakery here in town. This place is sooo expensive. Recenty a few have asked me to do cakes for them, because they can't afford the bakeries prices. I told them, that I'm not selling cakes until I'm legal. Yea, I'm still working on the attitude thing.
ooh! been there,done that! I was doing cakes for free,church paid for ingredients) for occasions. Then when I stared to charge, they went to a "cake lady". 
They said my cakes were good and pretty to. So much for support. Now, since I am no longer at that church,(my husband and I are pastoring a church) My fame has went out and people from that church are ordering wedding cakes 
from me.
Yeah sounds to me like she didn't want to hurt either friend by getting one to do it. Maybe both of you offered and she didn't know who to accept so she went ahead and bought the sheet cake. Actually sounds like she was trying to "do the right thing" to me.... I wouldn't take it personally at all.
I know what you mean Melissa. I told my Dh's Aunt that I could do a baby shower cake for free for her Sons since I'm still learning and it would be great exposure for other people who haven't seen my work. Well she said no I'll take care of it and ended up getting a sheet cake from some bakery. the cake was dry and very borrowing. I was so annpyed, but hey if she wants to spend her money on a crappy cake I'm not going to take it personally anymore.
But in your situation i agree that she probably didn't want to choose and hurt either one of your feelings ( and probably wanted to brag alittle that this cake is from so and so bakery). Plus be happy that with this heat you didn't ahve to turn on the oven for a cake that you wouldn't make money on.
To be honest, I do not like putting people out. I would be the one who, if I did not make cakes, would be buying my cake from a bakery (or just making a homemade one with canned icing) rather than feeling I was putting out a friend.
I've also had friends who have asked me to make cakes... I don't like to charge friends a specific amount, so I say "Give me whatever you can afford". A few have been tempted to back out because they felt like they were taking advantage of me or felt bad!
So I don't really see it as a cut down or a slam on my cake making, I see it as people trying to be considerate and not put you out. To spend $45 on a bakery cake rather than take advantage of a cheaper nicer one from a friend tells me they felt bad and decided to just eat the cost in order not to feel guilty about putting out a friend.
i sooo understand how you feel. i also found out that a friend ordered a cake from elsewhere. it made me feel bad but i know that it's his decision where he wants to spend his money. i was also thinking how i'm sure i would've made a better looking and tasting cake. it's not a prob but i can't help but feel a little hurt. of course. i think it's only natural. i also know that they're nothing but feelings. it's not like i hate him already or anything like that. it was one of those moments when i was able to apply what someone from here in CC kindly told me, "you will find that there are many people out there that will take you up to the highest mountain and down to the lowest valley with their response to your work." (from angienajjar)
i come here to CC to get baking and decorating tips and ideas. but i also love the support system. isn't it great we can vent here too? thanks for sharing. at least i know i'm not the only one who feels this way every now and then. we're only human.
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