Ok this really makes me mad. Some peopel just have no business being in charge of children.
My sis and her 2 young kids and I went down to our local stadium today to get some exercise- doing laps around the track. The 3 yr old had her tricycle and her 8 year old brother had his bike and some people were training in the middle but we were polite and we stayed out of everyone's way (with the bikes)-sis and I took turns following the trike vs going for a sprint around. Her son was told by both of us to stay on the outside track and be mindful of anyone running/jogging/ or walking- and he did. However there was a group of kids in the stands with a coupel of adults (apparently they call themselves adults) and every time he rode his bike by that section of the track the kids were yelling at him (not nicely) to get off the track with his bike.
Ok first off, there are no signs there saying no bikes. Secondly it was confirmed (later this morning from the community centre) that trikes and wheelchairs and young kids with bikes are allowed (as long as they are supervised). Ok so my nephew was stressed every time he rode by and getting yelled at and the 2 adults in charge of this track group or whatever they were, did not say a thing until my sister went up to them and had a little polite chat about how they dealt with the situation.
Ok 1) if you are a kid and you think the rules are being broken, you take it to a grownup.
2) you dont chase a kid around the track on their bike yelling at them.
So the guy who my sister talked to says things like 'oh well they werent really blablabla and kids will be kids blablbla'-exuse me??? I dont bloodyo well think so. (She went back to talk to the 'adults' ( I use the term usely) to tell them what she found out about hte rules. That's when the guy said oh well kids will be kids.
So well we're going to do more laps tomorrow morning same time 
and we shall see what they have to say about that- I shall have no qualms about asking the guy what his credentials are with regards to supervising/leading children. FAr as I'm concerned he has no business. I shall probably also be compelled to ask if he was ever a bully in school or was picked on.
Bullying is a serious thing and I told my nephew, you dont ever feel bad about coming to a grownup when something like this comes up- it's important in life to learn how to face these issues- but a grownup has to know about this- (you know the kids who say 'oh hahaha go be a baby and run to mommy)- hey if the kid gets scared into thinking they're a woos if they DO tell someone then the cycle just continues. And it has to stop.
So please tell your kids to talk to you about bullying at school. Maybe you already have a bullying program in place. My dad got involved when we were in school- we even had a teacher who was a bully- she was the principal's pet though so we couldnt get her suspended. What really irks me is that he tried to get parents to sign a petition about her because several kids in the class were her target- but nobody wants to get involved. You know, I am pretty easy going about most things- but people who would rather turn and look the other way when something is affecting their own child or anyone 's child for that matter, now THAT REALLY PISSES ME OFF! LOL (And also adults in leader rolls who encourage that behaviour either directly or by not saying anything)
ok whew i'm done my rant now and feel better 
I think I shall go write a letter to the editor of the newspaper now 
I completely agree with everything you said!!! It really burns my butt when I see something like that happening. I am very protective of my kids, do not think I won't say something to a kid or their parent (if they are around, been in plenty of situations at all types of ballgames, where the parents don't even know where their child is, or has left them there with NO supervision) 
. I was bullied a little bit in high school by some girls that didn't like me, they would say things to me in the hall, and they even followed me home one day after school and threw rocks at me (we lived right down the road from our school, so we walked). I was VERY non-confrontational back then!!! So my LITTLE sister started yelling at them and throwing rocks back at them. She really stood up for me back then. Well, fast-foward about 12 years later, I don't take a whole lot of s**t from anybody anymore!!! And I DO NOT want my kids too either. Nor do I want them to EVER bully ANYONE for ANY reason. And I have to say that my boys have pretty good heads on their shoulders. Thank God.
I can't believe the guy said 'kids will be kids'!! Excuse me, yea they will, but that isn't being a kid. That is being a bully and that is in no way right. Those kids are only going to get worse if someone doesn't do something to change their way of thinking now! I am so sorry that that happened to your nephew. I hope things go better, if not, girl, lay down the law!!! 
I am totally with ya on this!!!
i will admit i was a bit of a bully in school. I am not proud of it and I have talked to my kids and explained to them about how being a bully makes others feel and eventually how it makes you feel to have been a bully.
so now the first week of school my son who is 9 comes how and says a boy is telling him that he is going to fight him. so i tell my son to tell the teacher so that the teacher can handle it. but my son was scared if he told that this boy would get him for getting him into trouble. so then friday of last week this boy slapped at my son and caught his face with his fingernail and my son did not tell.
so i called the school and the principal is so good he took care of it right away. i am so glad because the kids go to school to learn not to fight. i guess it is karma i was a bully and now my child gets bullied.
but just so everyone knows, i have made it a point to get in touch with people i bullied just to say i am sorry, and now i am friends with most of them.
I agree.. Bullying has gotten way out of hand recently. My oldest starts school in a couple of weeks, and my biggest fear is he will be bullied (he is overweight). I wish there were more positive role models in our society/day and age.
You Irish spitfire!!
Atta girl! Where's that little Notre Dame fightin' Irish dude? Time to put him in your avatar!
LOL-
kudos to you, alracntna, for making the admission- and passing the lessons on to your kids through your own experiences. Karma does work eh? lol
I shall update all of you what happens at the track today- OMG I would never let anyone run me off a track or away from somewhere. I got on a bus one day and there was a jampacked bus, one seat at teh back empty- didnt realize empty because a really drunk guy was sitting in the seat next to it- so but I sat down, everyone else had theri chance to sit down lol. I was tired. DRunk guy made some comment about my size (Cause it was a side facing seat- smaller anyway, and I'm not petite 
) ) when I squished in there lol. Then he got up and started saying things and I sat there straight ahead and noticed out of the corner of my eye people observing but doing nothing- the bus driver didnt even step in- but the guy got off the bus, and sorry I pay my bus fare, I'm not letting some drunk asshole make me get out of my seat becuase he's harrassing me , I got off and went to my grocery store to do dinner shopping- some woman walks up to me and says she wason the bus and was really proud how I handled that (well yeah and nobody stepped in- not that I cant fiight my own battles)- but goes to show- Ive heard of people getting mugged in the street and people keep walking or look on but dont do anything- SAD I tell ya lol
After today I shall contact the newspaper- school starts next week- and I shall write a letter to the editor but also tell them they need to do an expose on bullying /information/chain of command/ tips for parents and kids- and keep running a series say once a week as school progresses- (I rather be a shit disturber with pen and paper than fists 
)
I totally agree with what everyone has said. My son was being bullied in school because he was smaller than the rest. I found out through a friends child that several older boys were holding him down and jumping on his stomach. I went to the principle and told him about it, and he was not much help, he siad the teachers never said anything to him. I told him If I hear of it one more time I will call eht cops to the school and have the bullies arrested. That got his attention, and said oh you don't want to do that, I told him I most certainly would do that wether he liked it or not. Then when my son was in high school, there was a teacher / coach that was a bully, and in a study hall once in front of all the kids (boy did I have witnesses) my son got up to get a drink of water and he slammed him against the wall and was cussing him and screaming at him, well he came home with a hugh knot on the back of his head and all the kids from study hall came over and told me what happened. Well I got to thinking about it, if this would have happened at home they would have had childrens services on my a**, so I called the police and talked to an officer about what I could do, and he told me he could arrest the guy on assult charges. I then called and talked to the superindent and told him all this, he of course was like oh no he the teacher wouldn't have done that, well I told him I was going to think about it till the next day and maybe I would call the cops back. Well don't ya know that teacher called that night and just couldn't remember doing that, but was so sorry it had happened.
Don't take that crap from teachers or coachs either. A bully is a bully.
Good luck
Jeanne
there was a teacher / coach that was a bully, ..........Don't take that crap from teachers or coachs either. A bully is a bully.
Good luck
Jeanne
OMG you're right, a bully is a bully- but I think it gets me even more steamed when I see a GROWNUP (again, term used loosely) picking on a kid.
I think I need to go whip some egg whites now- that might be a good channel for my anger
My son had to deal with some bullying last year...of course it didn't help that he sometimes would egg the kid on that he was having differences with. But there was a playground supervisor that was picking on another child in my son's class. The principal I think poo-pooed it and I don't know what came of it, but I don't think he told the child's mom because when my MIL told them and the parents called the school about it the principal was pissed at my MIL.
The principal and my MIL don't see eye-to-eye, in fact my MIL has been banned from the school grounds, she is only allowed to drop my son off and pick him up from school. So this year shall be interesting, because if the same crap happens again, I am not going to let things just sit by.
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