(this was on june 10 -- my son's 1 year birthday party)
my cousin tells me the day before the party that I'm her bestfriend and I've always support her when no one else does, tells me she always has looked up to me and that she loves and appreciates me. awwww, isn't that sweet! 
yeah right! The day of the party I made my grandma a small choc. mousse using cool whip because she's watching her calories, and inform her I used the cool whip. My cousin then sneaks my grandma to the side and says " she made you a fake chocolate mousse, the bowl in the fridge must be the real one, she must not love you like I do! Say what? 
I heard this and said "no, it's from the same batch, mama I love you and I just wanted to make something you could have more of." Later on she informs some people that she could do the cakes I decorated and that she has tons more talent then I do, so why is everyone saying "have you seen the cakes Melissa made, they look great!"
well now comes time to cut the cakes.....everyone is talking about how great they taste while I'm out of the room.... everyone but guess who? When I get back into the room she announces " this cake tastes good for once, what did you do different?" 
well it doesn't end there... my best friends and some family members tell me later that she was talking bad about me the whole time and she even pulled my 2 best friend aside to tell them that I will never make it in culinary school and she can't see why I was accepted because I don't even rate as an amature. That I'll be kicked out because they will see that I can't handle being able to cook even semi-quality food and that she can't wait to see what people say about me then. 
I try to avoid her now, but this saturday is my daughters birthday party and I even made it a time that my cousin would be unable to attend. She just gave me a call saying that she's coming with her kids to see what I do, because she knows it will be great and wouldn't dare miss it.
What would you do in this situation? My DH says I should make a smash cake for her. Pray for me, I may be in prison soon.
Maybe your cousin has multiple personality disorder? She definitely is extremely JEALOUS!!! One question....did she get an invite to the party? If she did and is coming, you are in for another roller coaster of a day..sorry. Boy, sure would hate to see you end up in prison!
you have one week to inform everyone coming of a change of location...
well everyone that is except your cousin.
is there another friend who might host after bribing w/ cake?
or a nice park on the other end of town?
some nerve she has, inviting herself it would seem.
jealous barely begins to describe her attitude.
One question that comes to mind is: Why did she even feel the need to tell you all those lies about liking you and you being her best friend, yada yada yada, if she was obviously so jealous of you that she can't stand it. She is only making a big fool out of herself because from what you said your family and true friends love your cakes. If she does show up and she probably will then the advice I have is remember it is your daughter's day and ignore her. Then the next day, shoot her No wait a minute, that would most definately send you to prison so scratch that! Hopefully this will be your last encounter with her for a long while.
P.S. I hope you do exceptionally well in culinary school and show her up big time!
Edited twice because it's late and i'm sleepy and should really be in bed.
simply tell her although the Children are welcome she is not and you have no time for people who bad mouth you behind your back.
Your cousin is just plain jealous, which is a sickness. As hard as it might be for you, keep your cool.... do not bring yourself to her level. Maintain your strength and integrity. Her true colors will prevail. What is the saying keep your friends close but your enemies closer. Your professionalism and maturity will be seen by those who matter. Continue on with your school and make a difference in the culinary world. Good Luck. Pray for your cousin her sickness will eventually eat her.
dale & dordee--watch your mouths----haha 
(& i am truly joking w/ya'll) fire & bullets oh my
i really don't know what i'd do, could you tell another family member to inform her that she shouldn't come, that she was very inappropriate at the last party...like doug said change locations or tell her someone will pick up & drop off her kids but she was not invited!---dang she sounds like my aunt--my dad's sis---my mom just doesn't tell ANY of them when she's having something--heehee
do not be stressed out it your own home!!!!!
I'd make a smash cake and give it to her the minute she walks through the door. Make sure it has lots of pudding and stuff in it though.
Seriously what you do is going to partly depend on your family and how willing you are to upset people if they won't be happy. Personally I'd tell her she isn't welcome in my house because you don't need that kind of stuff and if the family is mad so be it.
I don't think it should matter if she's family or not, if she's that nasty you don't need to make her part of your life. Those comments of hers are rude no matter how your food tastes, you should never say stuff like that if it's going to get back to the person.
I have one question: is anyone else aware of her "antics"?
I mean, do you care what the rest of your family MIGHT think about what she says and how she puts you down?
Or, is she the person in the family that everyone just expects to lie and start things? ( we have someone like this in our family but we all know to just ignore her )
I honestly dont know what I'd do in this situation. You could flat out tell her to get out of your life (and risk even more bad talk about you) or you could be super nice to her and just forget about her and try to get on with your life....one more thing? how old are her children? are they old enough to act like her yet?
Good Luck to you!!!
Just wanted to say thanks for the words of encouragement! I really need them right now. my family know how my cousin is but make excuses because her parents divorced and blah,blah, blah, and the majority says to just forget about it. I'm having the party at the park down the road from my house. I'm just ordering pizza and I'm making the cake with party favors for the little ones.
Her kids are soon to be 4 and younger, and I would never be rude or mean to a child because of their parents actions. I plan on just avoiding her and others know to play interferance for me. I usually keep my cool in tough situatioins but I really don't know about this one. My brothers and DH just want to see me b---h slap her, but I told them I don't want to stoop to her level and I prefer to have more class, no matter how difficult it may be. But if she says one remark about my kids....she'll be running for her life! I realize my cousin is just jealous but I didn't think it was this bad, I've never been truely jelous of someone for what they accomplish...I just root them on and try to learn from them. There is actually a lot more to this story but as weird as it is I don't want to drag her through the mud. i can tell you if I did something to her, my large family, my mom included ( except for my dad,brothers and DH) would take her side - as they always do - when stuff like this happens. They just feel sorry for her and make excuses on her behalf. Out of respect for other family memers I have never rocked the boat on this subject, but those times are over. She's an adult and can take responsibility for her actions, and i believe it's time for people to stop coddeling her. Saturday will be interesting 
and I really hope she just doesn't come.
Once again thanks for the words of encouragement 
You all are great and keeping me sane right now. Then again todays monday and the party is saturday, I'll make sure to tell you all how things go....if I'm not in jail. 
I love all of your advice! Now which one to do... shooting her and setting her on fire may make me smile, but the party is close to a police station, so that's out. I've been thinking of changing the local but my daughter really wants it at the park, and I don't want to do that to her. I would love to slam a gooey cake in her face, but that would be wasting a cake, which is a cc sin. The idea of buying one just for her would work, but I have a feeling she'll be bringing one. Which has not happened to me yet but to other people. It really wouldn't suprize me.
and mmdd, yes her kids are young, but her oldest is very crazy and in that mean, your kid needs counceling way.
Once again thanks for the advice you are giving me great ideas.
Wow good luck. You know - it might be awkward & weird - but it might be worth a shot - you might want to meet with her over coffee and ask her if everything is okay. Then if she asks "why?" you could say that you noticed her bad mouthing you at the last party and that she was really mean and hurtful and that you didn't appreciate her comments and didn't believe they were true because no one else agreed with her. You were wondering is she was lashing out b/c of something that is upsetting her in her life - or is there something else you did that you aren't even aware of that has troubled or upset her that the two of you need to talk about?" Then if she refuses, you could say , "well listen, for my daughter's b-day on saturday, your children are welcome to come, but I would feel very uncomfortable with you there knowing that you may be speaking about me behind my back again and saying those kinds of things. If you don't have anything nice to say - then keep your mouth shut. And if you really have a problem with me, I'd like to work through it - but if you can't do that then we need to go our seperate ways or just make plans not to see each other - that's very sad and not what I want, but I can't enjoy myself if every time I walk into the room that you're in, I hear you speaking badly about me."
That's a lot to say.... but anyway it sounds like she has an attention problem - as in - "all the attention needs to be on me". It's very sad but you shouldn't have to put up with her and her bad comments just b/c she's family. Maybe she is really struggling w/ some issue and could use someone to listen to her..... or maybe she's just not even aware of how badly her words & actions can/have hurt others.... good luck with whatever you do! I'll say a little prayer that God watches over the encounter! (And if HE's watching - u don't want to light her on fire or shoot her...... 
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She's brought a cake to other peoples bday parties? Did I read that right?
You might wanna make sure your kiddies stay away from hers, lol, sounds like the oldest is already on the way to being like MOM.
Just hang in there!!! Good Luck to you and your family!! I'll be checking in after sat.....if we don't hear from you in a few days, we'll just wait til you get out of jail, lol!
I hear that!! It's good to have friends in all kinds of professions!!
I just can't get over the bringing a cake to someone's bday party.........a potluck, I can understand. But, I would take it as a huge insult. I hope she doesn't do that to you.
If you need help paying bail......we'll take up an offering from CC and put it into your paypal account!!! LOL!!!! Hope all goes well!
Oh jeeze, we had a (ex) friend like this before. Always the sweetest person with the nicest things to say to people's faces, then badmouthing them when they're gone. It's so annoying and taxing to put up with!
I like the idea someone said about asking her if everything was OK between you. Call her out a little bit and see where it goes. I'd guess she'll most likely say no, everything's fine, or deny things she said or play it off as though someone else was lying about it, or possibly say they misunderstood what she was saying.
But at least then she'll know she'd better watch her mouth because others are looking out for you!
Oi, good luck. It might take a while, but hopefully the rest of your family will eventually just get sick of making excuses for her!
I know a family like this. The "you" person is my friend, and her family are, unfortunately, sad and dysfunctional. For her sister, it is really all about HER, not my friend. Her evil sister really has nothing, no special talent, no rewarding career, no hobbies, her children are grown and live away....she is just MEAN, MEAN, MEAN. She is so two-faced....I have never met someone who is a bigger lier. She has even told stories about me....anytime that anyone is better than her at something, or receiving more attention than her....she needs to make junk up. And she is really mean to her poor sister....has done things that I can't even mention here. I usually just ignore her when I am in her presence, however it does make me uncomfortable because I really don't want to have a confrontation. I avoid them like the plague. I can have the conversations IN MY HEAD, but I can never actually do it face to face. I'm working on that. So, I feel your pain. I would maybe make an announcement to the group once everyone is there. Whatever you want them to know about your daughter and her happy day.....that way the focus will stay on her. Also, I would try to keep things moving along. Lots of down-time allows people the opportunity to chat. And that is where you may run into trouble. So, if you can keep control of the pacing of the party, maybe you can avoid some of it. Keep people focused on the task-at-hand. They are all related, if they want to chat they can call each other on the phone. This is your daughter's time. Just a suggestion. Sorry so long Good Luck.
I agree with what LukeRubyJoy said - control the party to keep "gossip" down to a minimum. Also, keep in mind that the best revenge is to lead a successful and happy life!!!!! So don't let her get to you (easier said than done) and it will take the wind out of her sails and leave her stranded way way out in the middle of the deep mean ocean full of sharks and other biting things.... sorry, just wishful thinking I guess!!! 
Anyway, I will say a prayer for you to keep your cool and for your DD's b-day to be happy and successful.
Happy Birthday to her!!! 
Girl don't get mad get even. At the party annouce to everyone that you realize lately that your cakes have not been to par and that you love your dear dear cousin for informing you of this horrible travesty that you have been forcing upon her and that just to show that you are really trying make a special cake just for her and in that cake you put as much chocolate e-lax that you can and that will fix her smart mouth all the way to the bathroom that was the poo she is talking can come out the other end
Punch the biotch in the face making sure she has a fat lip- this may help curb the nasty things coming out of her mouth if she cant speak well... and she wont have to subject herself to your poorly decorated cakes if she cant chew properly =)
Boy if it was me I don't know if I could take it having
a family member talk like that about me. Your alot stronger
than me I don't know if I could hold myself back
Good luck with the party this weekend and remember this is
to celebrate your DD its her day don't let that %#@& woman take that away
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Girl don't get mad get even. At the party annouce to everyone that you realize lately that your cakes have not been to par and that you love your dear dear cousin for informing you of this horrible travesty that you have been forcing upon her and that just to show that you are really trying make a special cake just for her and in that cake you put as much chocolate e-lax that you can and that will fix her smart mouth all the way to the bathroom that was the poo she is talking can come out the other end
TOMAY - that is hysterical!! That would be too funny I would love to be there just to see that.
Well, the party went well. My cousin was more than an hour late, YES! Her kids were fine and she was nice 
She even complimented my cake (and it was not my best work) and asked for tips. I'm wondering if someone crushed up some happy pills and put it in her food that morning? I'm sure the comments came once she was at home with her husband, but she didn't do it in my house. (the park got rained out, so it was at my house) The best part is even though it wasn't my best work (things kept going wrong because I refused to quit working at 3:30 am and I only made them worse..got to bed at 4:40 and up at 7:55) Anyways, the cake was a stacked 9 x 13 chocolate cake with strawberry flavored buttercream in the center, regular b/c for the icing, I did a FBCT of Ruby from the cartoon Max and Ruby. Like I said not my best work, because I don't know how to stop when I'm tired and counter-productive. OOH well, the cake tasted awesome. My cousin commented on how pretty it was and asked how to do the FBCT and that was it. She was actually nice She didn't say anything about the way it tasted though but everyone else did. They loved it, only one very small peice was left and one cupcake! You should have seen her face when everyone went on and on how it was one of the best cakes they have ever tasted and told me I should open up my own shop (and they were being serious) I thought she would poop a brick! But she held her tounge and I'm glad because I was waiting! (and my DH held the camera just in case because he wanted to have the butt-kicking of a life time on film) I have a lot of restraint, but a temper. I honestly think my cousin is more afraid of me now and that may be why things went well. She found out more about me I guess recently that I don't really let be known from family. HA!HA!HA! I guess all that training really paid off after all, my sweet girl image that couldn't hurt a fly is now erased by a girl who can kick butt and doesn't have much of a problem doing it. YES! if it kept her mouth shut and me out of jail than I don't mind. Sorry it took me a while to update you all here. I haven't been near a computer for the last few days..thought I'd die without my CC! Thanks for all your support and all of the laughs! (Tomay, I'll make her your special cake if the poop hits the fan ever again--- you crack me up!) Once again thanks for all the support, you guys really did help to keep me somewhat saine in a tuff situation. Wish you all could have seen her face when the comments of the cake came mine way! I'll treasure that look forever!
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