Groom's Cakes? Where Do You Come From?
Decorating By LittleLinda Updated 4 Sep 2006 , 11:09am by lionladydi
East Tennessee, here--heart of the South!
Never been to a wedding without one, either.
Those I've made have had the "traditional" or "old style" filling which is a nougat-style frosting with dried cherries, nuts and liquor or flavoring in them.
They get rave reviews.
--Knox--
Don't believe these myths though; I have never ever in my life seen or heard of anyone sleeping with a piece of cake at all! That is crazy!
And when I see one with saurkraut (however it is spelled; probably the only thing I can't spell!);
www.gailwatsoncake.com/groomscakes.html This site tells about the tradition of the grooms cake. I have always heard about sleeping with a piece of cake under the pillow. My grandmother didn't think it a myth--it was a tradition.
Yes, you spelled saurkraut correctly and I agree--it's nasty. I can't even stand the smell of it.
Diane
Grooms cakes are pretty much a MUST in the South! They are typically chocolate, since typical bridal cakes are white or flavored, and most I've seen are covered in chocolate-covered strawberries (something I optes out of for my husband's grooms cake- just personal preference). I live in Texas, and it's expected that the wedding reception showcase a Bride AND Groom's cake. The Groom's cake is usually next to the bride's cake. HTH! God bless! 
I have lived in Louisiana all my life and just discovered when reading these posts that the Groom's Cake is a southern thing.
People here would think it strange to go to a wedding without one. They are usually chocolate and the groom often decides how it is decorated. My husband's was shaped like a guitar...his hobby. I have been to a few weddings where the groom's cake wasn't chocolate because the groom doesn't like chocolate. In one case they had an icecream cake and at the other one the groom had vanilla cake with strawberries. For that wedding the bride chose not to have vanilla cake and instead she had some layers that were chocolate and some that were italian cream. Once it's decorated white it still has a traditional look (if that's what they want) no matter the flavor. I will say though that there is seldom any of the groom's cake left, especially when it's chocolate!
Don't believe these myths though; I have never ever in my life seen or heard of anyone sleeping with a piece of cake at all! That is crazy!
And when I see one with saurkraut (however it is spelled; probably the only thing I can't spell!);
www.gailwatsoncake.com/groomscakes.html This site tells about the tradition of the grooms cake. I have always heard about sleeping with a piece of cake under the pillow. My grandmother didn't think it a myth--it was a tradition.
Yes, you spelled saurkraut correctly and I agree--it's nasty. I can't even stand the smell of it.
Well what I meant was that it isn't tradition to sleep with a piece of cake; so if it was ever a thing; it isn't something that we do here now. That is just like the myth that us Texans ride horses all the time and wear cowboy clothes. But in actuality it is a not the common thing and a stupid stereotype created by Hollywood. anyways; I wasn't trying to say it never happened; but that it we don't all go around sleeping with our cakes; so it must be the rare thing now. Sorry if it offended you at all!
Diane
I watched Steel Magnolias so I knew about the grooms cake in the south. However, when did the wedding cake become a white cake or whatever flavor as it is now? The Local Historical Society had a June open house with a weddings theme and I wound up making candied fruit /applesauce sheet cakes that were served to the guests. I was given the recipe and told that was the wedding cake of the last century. I believe that fruit cakes are or were traditional for weddings in England.
Concerning the saurkraut on hot dogs, it is better on brats with mustard.
Hillbilly dogs around here have cole slaw and bunch of other stuff.
Cakeswithattitudes, you didn't offend me. It's just that there is a difference between myth and tradition. A myth is something that just isn't true. A tradition is something that was done time after time although it is not done these days (at least not in the USA). Takes way more than that to offend me. I'm pretty easy going!
Narie, you can have your brats and the sauerkraut. (Darn. Just as I typed this I remembered how it is spelled. Looked it up in the dictionary and it IS spelled with an "e". Sorry I said it was correct before) I love coleslaw and can tolerate a little stir fried cabbage but when it is made into kraut or boiled--YUK! JMO I used to own a cafe and when we had "weiners and kraut" we always sold out. I tried to schedule it on a day when I was off! 
Diane
Yeah I guess mostly the word I couldn't think of was stereotype; but I figured it out now. Sorry!
The thorax cake is absolutely gross! Especially that entrail!
I have never been to a wedding that had any cookies either. It's the wedding cake and whatever dessert is served by the caterer. Everything is served by the caterer, no tables with desserts for helping yourself ... unless it's not a catered wedding.
I have never been to a wedding that had any cookies either. Everything is served by the caterer, no tables with desserts for helping yourself ... unless it's not a catered wedding.
OMG... "TheVienneaus" you need to go to a MEXICAN wedding, we have the bride's cake, groom's cake AND COOKIES - Ojarascas or anykind of small cookies with lots of sugar, PLUS sweet little empanadas about 2in long made with a cream cheese dough filled with caramel ummmm good good good or any other filling.....Even Quincenera's (a girl's 15 Birthday party to celebrate a young lady coming of age) have the cookies or empanadas on the side with the cake. Even if the event is Catered....we still have the cookies and empanadas or the bride and groom favorite candy to go with the cake. It's a tradition, each family has their own favorite special little something to go with the cake.
Keep on baking!!!
Cindy
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Quincenera's (a girl's 15 Birthday party to celebrate a young lady coming of age) Cindy
Cindy I have always wanted to ask what a Quincenera was! I figured it was a coming of age party; but I didn't know what age it was. Thanks for the info.
Hello "TheVienneaus"
Traditionally in a Quincenera's (a girl's 15 Birthday party to celebrate a young lady coming of age) you have a religious ceremony where we as young ladies give thanks to God and our parents for bringing us this far. In most families it's when young ladies can begin to "officially date". It's like a wedding celebration but with no groom, you pretty much have everything else.... hundreds of guests, food, live music or Dj...and oohh yeah....presents.... 
Keep on baking...!!!!! 
P.s. "Quince" is the number 15 in spanish.....
Cindy
I have to say that I too thought a Groom's cake was something EVERYONE had at their wedding until I started seeing in some earlier threads on here that some people didn't know what they were! I have never been to or heard of a wedding without one. And I have also never been to a wedding where they served cookies. It has been very interesting to follow this thread and see how traditions differ just a few states away!!
"Quince" is the number 15 in spanish.....
Cindy
Oh! I should have figured that out! I'm usually such a "word" person!
I missed the end of Steel Magniolas! It's off topic, so see my post in "the lounge"
http://www.cakecentral.com/cake-decorating-ftopict-37008.html
I am in Iowa, and we do have groom's cakes here!! In fact I'm making my very first one next weekend for a friend's wedding.
My husband and I had one at our wedding 7 years ago, and my husband was able to pick out everything from the cake to the way it was decorated.
They can be lots of fun, and a great way to get the groom's input.
I'm from New England area and never heard of a "groom's cake" until I came south. When I was firsted asked to make one, I just looked at them and said, "You want what?" lol I wanted to know where it came from so I did some research. It originated in England and was usually some kind of fruit cake. Made by the bride (not usually anything fancy-just a sample of her baking skills) as a wedding gift to the groom.
I am so disappointed. Just returned from NC where my nephew got married. Just knew I would get to see my first groom's cake. NOT! They didn't have one. I asked yesterday why they didn't and "SHE" replied that "THEY" couldn't make up their minds what to have. I wanted to tell my nephew to run as I could see she would rule the roost!! I thought it was the man's decision on the groom's cake.
Told my sister to be nosey and find out how much the cake was. Very plain stacked square tiers with fresh flowers and a beaded yellow trim. Not because I do a little decorating, but that cake was tasteless and so simple. I could have done all that if I lived closer!
So I have yet to see my first groom's cake.
Diane
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