My daughters birthday party is in September and I kind of go all out for birthday parties. SO I told my mom whem the party would be and the previous weekend I am hosting a clam bake for a lot of people and things to do for that. My mom wanted to hire me to make a wedding cake and grooms cake for a surprise reception (don't ask) and planned it for the evening of my daughters birthday party! So I said well, I'm going to have a lot going on for her party and I don't know if I can make cake for 300 at the same time. She asked me if I could have her party at McDonald's or something so that I wouldn't have to worry about the house or food at home and I could make the cakes for her!!! Sure, I would be getting paid for them and no offense to people who like them, but I don't want to do a mickey d's party! She said why not do it the weekend of the clam bake in the morning - because my friends aren't going to come out in the morning, go home change, lose the kids and go back out for a clam bake. Basically I'm booked, but she's trying to make me re-arrange. grr. Thanks for letting me vent!
Don't re-arrange! My family always get short-shrift and I've decided, no more! I much more enjoy making cakes for my immediate loved ones than getting paid for them, less stress and more satisfaction.
Julie
I would suggest to mommy that your daughter would love to have a destination birthday party.....at her house!! Let her see how much fun it is to "rearrange" to accomodate others.
I would put my daughter first. It will be something she will always remember and be proud of. You can always do paid cakes, but your daughter will grow up too fast. Enjoy the opportunity to do things for your children while you can.
Is she related to my mother??? Mine does this at times too!! I just have to let her know when I can and can't accomodate her and let her decide when it is and isn't worth getting in tiff over. It ain't easy but it sure is worth it!!! Good luck and I'll be thinking of you!! 
I was wondering if this was my MIL!?! 
Same thing, just worried about her schedule and how everyone can work around it. Don't do it. Family first!
Suggest to your mother that the wedding be held at McDonalds. 
Or that they change the wedding date to accomidate your schedule. 
Seriously I wouldn't do it if you won't be able to do your child's birthday the way you want. She's likely one of the reasons you started decorating in the first place. Stuff like this is why I don't live by my parents.
That sounds like my aunt, she always voluntears me to make a cake. Anyway, here is an idea and you can rid of any tension between you and your mom and no feeling hurt for your daughter., how about the week after the wedding? i once went to a bday party the following month (weird situation but it was the only time that they could do a party- we were all like wasn't her bday last month, but in time everyone forgot and had a great time). So try the weekend after all the parties and it just might work out.
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Vic
First rule: DON'T STRESS!! It is your FAMILY that pays the price.
Soooo, if there is any chance of stress say "I am so flattered you like my cakes, I really wish I could make one for you, I'm just not able to that weekend." And then DON'T feel bad! (I know, easier said than done.)
I have TURNED down cakes because I felt the event would be just as good with a Costco cake. I put in sooo much effort into my cakes, I want them to be appreciated. Graduation parties, little kids birthday parties, those kids don't care that much. If I am not busy I'll do it, but if I have a long week at work or am bringing snacks to church or any little thing then I just bow out of those! They get the Costco cake and are super happy with it! I love Costco frosting, mmmm.
If it was me, I would choose my daughter over the wedding cake. You will possibly feel guilty if you don't do her cake, but paid orders will continue. I am married to an accountant, so he makes me feel really bad if I knock back a cake, so I know how you feel a bit.
If I had to do it, I would maybe bake the cake for your daughter (something really moist like Nati's mud cake recipe on this site) which keeps really well and do it a few days earlier and let it sit 2/3 days preiced in fondant while you do the wedding cake. That is if you can fit it all in. If not, don't let your mum pressure you, just remember it is your cake business, and we are our own bosses, so we make the decisions for ourselves!
Good luck, whatever you choose you will do it well!
Thank you all so much! I've told her it won't work and that's when she offers ways for me to change my life. I haven't sold many cakes so she keeps saying, we'll put your cards out next to it, it'll be great advertisement. She's going to make it into a fight soon if she won't just take no and go to Sam's or Walmart for a cake. I have definitely chosen my daughter first, but she's not taking no for an answer!
Hang in there! I know how frustrating it can be to have family trying to rearrange your life for you. I recently had to reschedule my son's 2nd b-day party because the poor baby had pink eye. I was having a hard time coming up with a new date that worked for everyone. Well my mom and sister discussed it without my knowledge and came up with a whole plan. I know they meant well but it would have been nice if they had included me.
You're doing the right thing!
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