Cake For Teens Finishing A Sexuality Class?
Decorating By berryblondeboys Updated 5 Jun 2007 , 7:15am by lynda-bob
what is wrong with u??
i heard about the bird and the bees when i was eight, the story is for kids who wouldn't understand the real idea of sex. I like the idea of the boy and girl were sitting on the couch. It's way more realistic, otherwise the kids will think u c them as babies, and then they'll b offended.
reapergrrl
Hmmm.... interesting way to talk to someone?
Anyway, I think you need to know my audience. We had 3 girls and 4 boys in our class - pretty small and we don't talk about just the "bad" side of having sex, but also how it's a great part of life, but to MAKE it a great part of life, you have to make good decisions about it and that's what we are aiming for - no reference to when it should happen or with whom, but just to protect your heart (rumors and abuse) and your health...
Now, with that said, FIVE of the seven in the class are EXTREMELY shy and introverted - like painfully shy. Always before we have sent this year of class to the local Unitarian church but we thought it would be better for them to have our class taught by us this time. So, I had the training for it...
I "could" have the couple on the couch, but what does that symbolize really? Do I want to show them groping? hmmm... might be embarassing... Do I want to show them sitting awkwardly? Well, that doesn't go with the "let's be open about talking about it".... Do I want to make it "her or him gesturing "no"... again, no, because we aren't teaching abstinence (though the hope is that if they have all the information and know how to make good decisions is taht they'll DELAY having sex)...
The birds and the bees is an innocent "everyone knows what you are talking about"... I can put it with a saying like "congratulations OWL class, we learned so much more than the birds and the bees" or something like that... Or "Human Sexuality - so much more than the Birds and the Bees.."
Melissa
Melissa I love the curiculum of this class. It is realistic in it's goals, some of these children will have pre marital sex, no doubt about it. And thank goodness they will have the training in their background, let's hope they remember to use it in the heat of the moment. To respect and care enough about themselves and their partners to not expose them to STDs, or unwanted pregnancies. To not be so embarrassed to talk about sex that they end up inhibited and can't talk about it at all. Brava to you for being a part of this very important educational tool. Is it alright to lighten it up and have a bit of fun and a little laugh? Absolutely!!! Kids today are bright enough to realize the inside joke about the birds and the bees and I doubt very much they will think you are talking down to them or treating them like babies.
reapergrrl is still in hs. I guess you can tell by her mannerism. Rudeness like that should not be tolerated. If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure she would be offended. You all made very good suggestions. It's not like you could make a naked lady and man on it, or body parts. As a mother I would scold such a comment from my 5 year old.
Well, it's done. I was in SUCH a rush to get it done. We had a really busy weekend, so I started it at 8 am this morning and needed to be out the door by 10:30 am!!! RUSH it was, but besides the grass being a little rushed/sparse and in some need of some landscaping, it turned out pretty well. EVERYONE loved them. I think the bird turned out really cute. Here are the links to the gallery:
(hmm... I keep trying to link it and it's not allowing me to do that - it disables my keyboard? how weird is that?)... hmm... every time I hit the mousepad (on a laptop it disables the keyboard! super weird... wonder if the 2 year old got to it again, more likely the 10 year old! LOL)
Anyway... they are in my photos - the two most recent pictures.
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Your birds are really cute...I have seen similar chocolate transfers on the site, different flowers and animals...is there a place were you guys buy the sheets?
I just went to yahoo, searched under images with this "bird cartoon" and found the birds I wanted. I then saved the image (once I clicked on view image) and then resized it and made a mirror image in photoshop (or whatever it's called) on my computer and then printed. I then traced over that image on wax paper and that's it!
melissa
the birds are super cute! great job with the cupcakes.
i really applaud you for teaching what seems to be such a sensitive subject nowadays. the closest we come to a class like that at my school is a human growth and development class, but it focuses mainly on the scientific aspect like naming the parts and whatnot.
*sigh* it makes me sad when someone comes on here and makes rude comments and makes us teens look bad 
They turned out so wonderful. I wish growing up that I had been taught more. All my mom said was that sex and masturbation were bad until you were married and then it was something you had to do. I guess it was her way of trying to scare me away from sex. Didn't really work though. I decided long ago that if I ever have children, that I am going to be open and honest with them about it and try to keep communication open so that way they feel they can talk to me about what they are going through and not rush into things. I applaud you for taking time to help teens out.
Thanks everyone. I think it's truly amazing that sex is such a taboo thing when it is SUCH a part of life. I was taught from VERY early how babies were made, but most of it? I had no clue. A friend and I were talking once and BOTH of us thought we must have some sort of infection because we had "liquid" down there and it seemed to "change"... NO ONE EVER told us about cervical fluid and that it's OK!!!! Not until I was married and trying to become pregnant and got some books that I realized that "OH.." this is "fertile" fluid and this is "not fertile fluid". My poor friend kept going to the doctor to get tested for infections! LOL
And Masturbation? Are you KIDDING ME? that's something "boys" did, not girls.... The one postive side of this is that my 10 (soon to be 11) year old was pretty curious this year about what I was teaching and such and since he's still young enough not to be embarassed by it, he would ASK me things like "when does a boy's penis grow and why" and "what is a wet dream" and so on. At 13 or 14 he'll probably be too embarassed to ask, so I'm glad he did now and I'm glad that I was comfortable enough to talk with him openly about it.
The average age for kids to have sex for the first time is 17..... I remember more than 20 years ago that a 7th grader got pregnant, and two girls in 8th grade did (class of 200 in jr. high).... that's SCARY. What 13 year old is ready for making decisions about sex and more so, about pregnancy??? A custodian who worked for me a few years back (great guy - married young, had 6 kids with the same woman and was still married) well, his oldest son at TWELVE got a 12 year old pregnant!!! At 13 he was working with his dad at home and helping to make child support payments!!! People who think it won't happen to them are the ones it very well COULD happen to!
Melissa
your cuppies turned out super cute 
and brava to you on your openness and sensability 
your cuppies turned out super cute
and brava to you on your openness and sensability
The average age for kids to have sex for the first time is 17
WOW, that's old. That isn't the case here....kids here talk about it in elementary school by junior high, there's enough curiousity to act on. Even when I was in junior high some umpteen years ago, kids were doing it. Great thing you're doing 'cause I'm still trying to complete the task with my 9 yr old....with 2 other girls coming up behind her. Hooray to you and all you do!! Great idea for the cupcakes too!
The average age for kids to have sex for the first time is 17
WOW, that's old. That isn't the case here....kids here talk about it in elementary school by junior high, there's enough curiousity to act on. Even when I was in junior high some umpteen years ago, kids were doing it. Great thing you're doing 'cause I'm still trying to complete the task with my 9 yr old....with 2 other girls coming up behind her. Hooray to you and all you do!! Great idea for the cupcakes too!
Well, remember those are averages - means that 50% have sex BEFORE 17... that counts all the people who wait until marriage too! I knew A LOT of kids having sex at age 15, but also a lot of college women never having sex by age 21... so it all figures in.
Melissa
Yep, you're right. 
I'm still trying to grasp that fact 
Melisa,
As a non-straight mom in a "hetero" recognized relationship I have to say your creative cupcake idea and your teaching sexuality to kids makes me want to applaud you. Thank you for being a darn good teacher and giving kids a chance at making better decisions with their lives now and in the future.
MamaBerry
Melisa,
As a non-straight mom in a "hetero" recognized relationship I have to say your creative cupcake idea and your teaching sexuality to kids makes me want to applaud you. Thank you for being a darn good teacher and giving kids a chance at making better decisions with their lives now and in the future.
MamaBerry
Ah thanks...yep, the class really tries not to pass judgements - just that there is so much to it - sexual roles, sexual preferences, sexual identity, gender identity and so on. Our readings and discussions weren't just about heterosexual relationships, but relationships IN GENERAL... sometimes it was from a young gay man's perspective, sometimes from someone who is transgender... just striving to make people make SMART decisions - and educating people that there is more than straight, gay and bi... because there is! Not trying to force people to believe that being one way or another is right or wrong, just letting it all be known.
Another reason I wanted to stay away from a couple sitting on the couch... what if one of the students in the class is/was gay/lesbian?
Melissa
So true.
Hats off to you Melissa, it is great to heat that this is out there. Too bad it's not more widely taught in schools. It seems that scaring kids about the bad side and shaming and guilting them makes them that much more curious. And may lead to unhealthy relationships later on. Why not have them come to you for honest answers rather than their clueless friends? 
And this could help promote more tolerance.
Just wonderful.
melissa,
a lot of what you are talking about is actually the first time i've heard someone discuss something like this. and i'm 16 years old. my school is very sheltered, we live in a fairly well to do neighborhood where families are close and talk of sex is very taboo. i really can't believe how much i've leared from cakecentral. haha all kinds of stuff thank you for helping me to broaden my horizens.
~Sandra
Melissa, congratulations on a job well done, both the cupcakes and the human sexuality class. I took a human sexuality class in college as part of my core and it was a real eye opener. My mom was plenty open and I love to read but to hear and discuss this stuff with actual peers and a moderator (professor) was very enlightening. I teach middle school science now and part of my curriculum is to teach the repro system and function, then skip straight to the development of the fetus. I affectionately tell my students this is the 'parts & pieces' talk but I am MORE than willing to spend a day answering their questions about sex. They were supposed to get the 'sex' talk in 6th grade but chances are it was gone thru very quickly and not many questions were answered. I tell them that I have no problem answering any honestly inquiring question and give them plenty of notice to figure out what they want to ask. Its really a shame that such an important and fulfilling subject is such taboo. Every year I have at least one 8th grader who gets pregnant, our school has even had a 7th grader become pregnant, and this year I have a student (well, she's only attended for about 15 days this whole year) who gave birth to her first in Aug. and is now pregnant with her 2nd. Sad really..... especially to hear all the excuses from her "mom" ( too many little ones, we should make her stay at school, mom can't be chasing her around.... blah, blah, blah - I say 'snip - snip').
Anyway, I thought the birds and the bees was an excellent idea and your c.cakes turned out great.
IronBaker:
Hats off to you Melissa, it is great to heat that this is out there. Too bad it's not more widely taught in schools. It seems that scaring kids about the bad side and shaming and guilting them makes them that much more curious. And may lead to unhealthy relationships later on. Why not have them come to you for honest answers rather than their clueless friends? And this could help promote more tolerance.
Just wonderful.
I agree 100% It sometimes seems like we are going backwards in time w/ all the teen pregnancy... On a lighter note, I wanted to tell you all a story about my niece; she's now 17 going into her senior year of H.S. She has a Summer job at an insurance agency and is going to get licensed (can you tell I'm proud of her? 
) ANyway, when she was about 12 years old, she had some kind of sex-education class at school. They were teaching the kids about STDs and mentioned crabs. She got really confused, raised her hand and said, "I don't understand! We don't even live near the ocean. How would you get them? Couldn't you just take the crab off?" Now, five years later, it's a big joke in our family. She just laughs... When we saw "Madagascar" and the scene where the animals wash up on shore, Gloria the Hippo comes out of the box w/ a crab on her nether region--We just about DIED Just thought I'd share this bit of fun and naivete with you all
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