So, over the weekend there was a big bash for a co-worker's 60th birthday. There are several people in our office that are really close with her, and they helped her kids put it together. When they were in the first planning stages, one of them (one I work directly with) said, "okay, we are going to have a big party for Jan's birthday, so start thinking cakes." I got so excited and was streaming with ideas....then.....it was never brought up again. I got the invitation, and no talk of cakes. Party was right around the corner, no talk of cakes. I obviously got the hint.
Now, don't get me wrong. It is not as if I am upset or mad about this. I know that it is a lot cheaper to just get one from a grocery store. I don't want to ever make someone feel that just because you know me, you have to have me do your cake. That's just silly. I was just kind of put off because she initially asked me to do it and then never spoke another word about it. I would have appreciated her just saying "hey, I know I mentioned you doing the cake, but we've decided....." I was trying to think of a way to bring it up to her to find out why, but making sure she knew I wasn't upset about it. But after discussing it with my husband, I think I have decided to just let it slide. Doesn't bother me...well I'm trying to not let it 
! ...and I did play it totally cool at the party, even when she brought up that they had cake too.
I'm only speaking for myself but I think I would just enjoy the party and be glad that I didn't have to stay up half the night doing a cake. I would be anxious to see and taste the cake and be prepared to compliment it. Sometimes others may not want to burden you or someone else may have taken over the responsibility of providing the cake. I wouldn't take it personal, but would look forward to doing a cake at another occasion.
I wouldn't worry about it! It's there loss....your cakes are awesome! It's possible that since she spoke to you awhile ago, she may have forgotten about it altogether until right before the party and then didn't want to bother you with a last minute order.
oh your cakes are just beautiful. dont let this bother you at all. I would have been a little upset about it too but it is their loss.
I wouldn't worry about it..whatever the reason is, just let it go.
There is a reason behind it and it does not have to be a bad one just because you did not end up making the cake. As long as you were invited to the party, you had a good time and you're in good terms with the people that put this whole thing together..that's should be alright.
I'd have asked her if she decided on the design for the cake a few days before the party. When somebody tells me they want a cake for a certain date but save the details for a later discussion; I call them!
Looking at it differently ... do you think she was also saying to herself "I spoke to 'doc' several times and she has never mentioned the cake ... I bet she doesn't want to do it." And then she just went ahead and ordered one?
I don't know these people and how they are. I'm sort of a devil's advocate here.
I bet TheVienneaus is right. I would definately always follow up and ask if they had any cake ideas. I also always bring up "It wouldn't hurt my feelings though if you wanted to order a Costco cake. It is cheaper and tastes good. I don't compete with Costco, I offer a higher end product and it wouldn't hurt my feelings in the slightest if you wanted to go with that." I've had some people decide they really only wanted to spend the $15 for a costco cake and not what I charge for my cakes as a custom cake didn't fit their budget for the event. Sometimes people just want a cake, not a piece of art. No problem! I know they will think of me when they do want something special!
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