I'm Having The Hardest Time!...a Cake For My Own Dd!?
Decorating By mom2spunkynbug Updated 18 May 2007 , 11:40pm by funfoodie2
My daughter is about to turn 9 in a few weeks. I've been very excited about making her cake this year (since I've really gotten into decorating lately!)!
Well...I've been asking her what kind of cake she wants & she doesn't know. Usually she's VERY excited when I get an order, or whenever we're talking about cake stuff. But when it comes to her own cake she just doesn't care 
I've shown her different ideas (from here & other web sites) and she'll see a cake and be like "OMG!!" and I'll say do you want me to make you something like that? And she loses all emotion and just says "no." I don't get it?!
I showed her the mermaid cake from a Debbie Brown book (since she's been drawing mermaids all the time lately) and she was like "OMG! WOW!" I again asked her if that was something that she wanted and she said "Mom, you couldn't make that." I said, I have the book, all the instructions are here. And she just said "no."
Does she really want a fabulous cake, but think that I can't produce one?! I know I'm not the best decorator but I thought she really liked my cakes?! I asked her dad to talk to her about it. Maybe she'll open up to him more! I'm trying not to be pushy on this...but I really wanted to do something that she'd just love. So far...I told her it would just be a surprise
Could you ask one of her close friends perhaps? And I hate to sound negative (truly I don't mean it that way), but does she want you to make the cake? Isn't that an awful thought that one's own child wouldn't want us to make their cake?! Otherwise, you can surprise her by making one of the mermaids that she has drawn and put it on her cake. It would sort of be like 'her' cake too.
Just throwing it out there. Good luck!
Ummmm...does she hear you muttering under your breath about your cakes, or see you get frustrated with a complicated order? It would be tough for a 9 year old to see the difference between being upset with the process of making the cake and being upset with the person that you're making it for. I mean, logically she might understand it, but emotionally it would be a little hard to separate the two. Maybe she just doesn't want to be the one causing that kind of frustration for her Mom? I could be way off base here--I've never had a 9-year-old girl of my own! lol--but I think it's a possibility worth considering.
Maybe she really wants a cool cake, but she doesn't want you to have to do all the work for it. Maybe she feels bad! I would ask her about a theme for the party, and go with it, and make something really cool for her!
Jen1977 you may be right. She usually sees all I go through to make a cake. She wants to have a bowling party (not that she's THAT into bowling though, she wants something where boys and girls will have fun).....Hmmm....
Thanks for your feedback! 
Could you ask one of her close friends perhaps? And I hate to sound negative (truly I don't mean it that way), but does she want you to make the cake? Isn't that an awful thought that one's own child wouldn't want us to make their cake?! Otherwise, you can surprise her by making one of the mermaids that she has drawn and put it on her cake. It would sort of be like 'her' cake too.
Just throwing it out there. Good luck!
Saberger...I know what you mean, but I've always made her cakes & have always gotten good reactions from her. I've always made character cakes (until early this year, when I've learned there's more to cakes than character pans, lol) & so I wanted to do something really special this year. (In my photos I've made her the Minnie Mouse last year, the SpongeBob the year before, the Powerpuff girls the year before that...)
Thanks for the feedback & ideas!
Ummmm...does she hear you muttering under your breath about your cakes, or see you get frustrated with a complicated order? It would be tough for a 9 year old to see the difference between being upset with the process of making the cake and being upset with the person that you're making it for. I mean, logically she might understand it, but emotionally it would be a little hard to separate the two. Maybe she just doesn't want to be the one causing that kind of frustration for her Mom? I could be way off base here--I've never had a 9-year-old girl of my own! lol--but I think it's a possibility worth considering.
Nannaraquel...hm, I suppose it is always a possibility! I usually talk about cakes with such enthusiasm! Although there was one recent order that I had a hard time with!
Thanks for your feedback!
I have been going through the same thing with my niece for years now. I'll ask her what she wants for her cake and all I get is "whatever" or "Just surprise me" it is frustrating .
I mean I'm the kind of person who needs some kind of input to get any ideas of what to do and if the person your making the cake for has no clue then that is extra hard.
I think it is a age thing my niece started doing this "SURPRISE ME" thing as she got older around the same age as your little girl ( by now the character cakes are so out in her mind...hate to say it but a TEEN is evolving. They grow too fast dont they hun.)
I think she will LOVE anything you do my niece always does. Maybe she really wants to be surprised in what you come up with you know the thrill of not knowing and I think she does have confidence in you.
As for ideas:
Is she into sports?
Does she have a fav T.V show?
Does she have crush on a STAR?
Is she outgoing or carefree?
Does she have any hobbies?
let us know and we will go from there..... 
*HUGS*
Hey, it may not be about you, but about her age. My son is almost 10 and this past year has been a bit frustrating dealing with his mutterances, shrugs and grunts.
Suddenly he doesn't want to go to our favorite trips (zoo, museums, movies, parks, etc) and seems to be very negative about everything from food to clothing. Sigh. He has seemed to improve the past few weeks, but it has been with me getting on his case about being negative and i n u n c i a t i n g. lol
Give her a deadline and tell her that if she doesn't choose a design, you will pick it for her.
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