At my MIL that is. And I feel kind of bad.
I don't like her but I try really hard not to show it and to be nice because I feel sorry for her. I have been avoiding her more and more the last year or so but I haven't been rude or obvious about it.
Today we were on the phone and she was going on about some stuff that's been going on for a long time and I have to listen to her complain about on a regular basis so I was already irritated with her. She also tried to get invited to dinner Saturday night and I already invited a friend of my husband's. Then I was trying to get off the phone and I told her that I was going to go for a walk in the woods with the kids. It's been windy today so she tells me that I have to listen carefully for trees creaking and if I hear it to walk faster. I told her nicely that I know how to walk in the woods and then she repeated it again so I told her flat out that I'm not stupid like she thinks I am. I then told her I had to go with exaggerated politeness.
I know it doesn't seem like she did much with the advice but she's always acting like I can't do stuff without her two cents. My sister, SIL and I are planning a baby shower and she was telling me today how she was looking for stuff for us. She isn't going to be going to the shower since it's 6 hours away and no one asked for her help. That's just one example of how she sticks her nose into EVERYTHING we do.
Not that creaking trees is much indication of what's going to come down, they're all creaking today and the chance of one coming down on use while we walk is pretty low since at most we find one or two down after a bad wind.
She tried to call later but I didn't answer the phone, I figured she'd think I wasn't in the house. Even that one comment is going to get her mad.
My ex-MIL was a bit like that. I liked her very much, but she was always offering "common sense" advice that made you want to go "aaaauuuggghhhh!!!!" Like if I said, "I carried two boxes to the basement and they were heavy!" Then she would say "Well next time carry one at a time." Well, Duh!!! Do ya think??? Dat wood be a gud idear! 
I learned to deal with it by understanding that she came from the generation where women were "moms". Period. That's all they were. They didn't work, they didnt' go to college. The entire purpose of their existence was to be a mom.
And when their children were grown, they weren't "needed" anymore. There was no purpose to their existence.
And when I realized that, I felt sad for her. ....And I developed more understanding....And more patience....and more tolerance.
And I ran screaming "aaaauuugggghhhh!" a lot less often.
I do feel bad for her so I don't say anything.
She wasn't bad until she quit work a few years ago and right after that my BIL passed away.
Now she doesn't have anyone but my FIL and us really, there is extended family here but she can't butt in as often though she does try.
She's a bit of a worrier anyway, she seems to like to come up with worst case and go on about it forever.
I think the biggest thing right now is boredom, she doesn't have any hobbies or anything and she needs to feel important.
I just have had enough lately, it's been never ending.
I think we all have that IL that we don't like but have to be nice to for the kids sake or for the hubby's sake or for whatever reason.
For me, it's my SIL. Because she is my hubby's older sister. She thinks that he and I should be told what to do.
For crying outloud, we're 34 years old!!!!
She infuriates me. 
But I keep a stiff upper lip and walk away because I feel the day that I don't do that, I'm going to snap (her neck!) and I'm sure she knows it too. Over the years she's learned her boundries with me. 
Good Luck to you!
And when their children were grown, they weren't "needed" anymore. There was no purpose to their existence.
First thing I thought of was Marie on Everybody Loves Raymond. LOL
My mil acts like EVERYBODY loves her. She can't do ANYTHING wrong. I don't call her because she doesn't even call here to talk to her DS. She cares less what is going on with him or us for that matter. She changed drastically after FIL passed 6 years ago. And she still thinks that everybody has to baby her. She constantly acts like she has money problems (well DUH if you would of saved the life insurance instead of BLOWING IT you would be well off). Sometimes I just want to scream!
At least your MIL is only offering stupid, uncalled for advice.
My MIL once attacked me while I was holding the baby.
She tries her hardest to come between my husband and myself at every chance she gets. I think she learned her lesson about that. WE paid for her to fly to Florida to stay with us for the month from Thanksgiving to Christmas. She was there maybe a week and a half with me just ignoring her rude inconsiderate comments, etc. Then one morning as I was leaving for work she decided she was going to pick a fight. I left for work and told her that she should get some rest that day. When I came home hubby was ready with her to take her to the airport because he would not "take her side." I think it was three years before DH talked to her again. He said that was the most peaceful three years of his life.
Recently we discussed the fact that we are not going to have her at my daughter's commencement ceremony next month. She also was not invited to the National Honor Society induction last year.
I don't think I have ever seen anybody so nasty and downright hateful as my MIL.
I'm even more annoyed with her today. She had my FIL call and tell me some stuff obviously designed to make me not mad at her. Then she picked up the other line and started talking to me like she hadn't done anything that might warrant an apology.
I'm fairly sure she was expecting me to apologize, she's said things in the past about "the respect due a MIL" which is a bunch of bull if she isn't going to respect me. I feel bad for snapping at her but I also think she was asking for it in a way.
I mean you described her perfectly!! We are both from KY. Maybe they're sisters and have been seperated since birth. Anyway I feel for you.
wow, I guess the old joke about the scary MIL is true in some cases...I'm lucky, I guess, to have mine in another country. She does always seem to want to give advice while on the phone though. We call her every couple weeks or so to keep up. Some of her advice is really lol because it's based on old superstitions and whatnot (my husband is from Mexico). Anyway, so far I've had good luck with my MIL. I hope it stays that way *cross fingers*
At least it's just your MIL that's treating you like that and not your own mom. My best friend has a mother like that and she's had to live with her comments and remarks all her life. I really feel bad for her. My friend moved from Ohio to Texas (where her husband is from) and she basically accused her of abandoning the family (she's flown back to visit 3 times already within a year!) She just had a baby last month and when she went back to visit a few months back, she was 7 months pregnant. Her mom arranged to go to lunch with an aunt and grandmother. Her mom pipes in, "oh, by the way...they don't know you're pregnant. It's your job to tell everyone." Eek, that was a big surprise to them! It was her mom's own sister and mother and basically a way for her to get back at her daughter for having "abandoned" her. My mom told the entire world when I had each of my three kids! I could go on and on with stories about her but I won't.
I do have a SIL that always tries running things. She always wants to decide who makes what at things like Christmas or Thanksgiving, wants to plan dinner around the football games (she and my brother are huge football fans but nobody else cares), gets mad if certain relatives don't show up...she and my brother always seem to get in fights...At my wedding, she snapped at a friend of mine while we were in the dressing room before the wedding because she was getting annoyed that people were seeing the bride before the wedding. I am a very laid-back type person and was fine with it. That friend had actually wanted to discuss something pertaining to the wedding with me. She was a singer for my wedding! I felt terrible after that. I had to tell her, "oh my SIL is always like that. It's not your fault, blah blah" damage control. From what I've seen/heard, her own mother is worse and they haven't spoken in about 8 years now.
wow, I guess the old joke about the scary MIL is true in some cases...I'm lucky, I guess, to have mine in another country. She does always seem to want to give advice while on the phone though. We call her every couple weeks or so to keep up. Some of her advice is really lol because it's based on old superstitions and whatnot (my husband is from Mexico). Anyway, so far I've had good luck with my MIL. I hope it stays that way *cross fingers*
I wish mine lived in the next county or another state, she's only a mile or so from us, at least far enough that it would cost money to call me.
She calls everyday, I can about recite what she'll say to me because it never changes much and repeats itself at least every couple days. She has even gone so far as to read word for word the weather report online (for the entire 10 days) like I can't do it myself, I've tried telling her that I have it open right in front of me and she won't quit. 
I wish mine lived in the next county or another state, she's only a mile or so from us, at least far enough that it would cost money to call me.
She calls everyday, I can about recite what she'll say to me because it never changes much and repeats itself at least every couple days. She has even gone so far as to read word for word the weather report online (for the entire 10 days) like I can't do it myself, I've tried telling her that I have it open right in front of me and she won't quit.
scary woman! Does she need some Prozac?? In all seriousness actually, my friend's mom who is like that could really use a psychiatrist anyway. I think she's just chronically depressed and obsessive.
You know generally I get along with my MIL. There are times like now that I could just rip her hair out. 
She called me yesterday to ask me if I ever gave her a wedding photo from our wedding. Now this has been 3 1/2 years ago since I got married. The bad thing is I never did get my wedding photos out. 
I just had way too much stuff going on and then we decided to renovate our house so they got moved and I forgot to do it. Anyways she told me that she was going to call me every week to remind me to do it. I told her since we are scraping and painting our house that it was not a priority and it won't get done until after the house is done. I told her I would gladly work on wedding photos if she wanted to come take my place scraping and painting. She backed off then. I think you and your MIL need to have a talk. She needs to give you respect in order to receive respect. She needs to know her boundries and if you don't put an end to it now it will just get worse.
scary woman! Does she need some Prozac?? In all seriousness actually, my friend's mom who is like that could really use a psychiatrist anyway. I think she's just chronically depressed and obsessive.
I think she's OCD, either that or she just loves to have something to complain about. She's also one of those people who honestly thinks everyone should do what she thinks is best. A good example would be dishes and the way I do them, she's constantly on me because I run water to rinse my dishes and she feels the only way to do them is a sink of wash water and another of rinse (it's terribly gross to watch this when there's a fly floating around in the rinse water and she's dipping dishes in it to put them straight in the drainer).
My husband and I decided on a name for our baby if it was goign to be a boy (we waited until the birth tofind out the gender). We made the mistake of telling my MIL. My MIL said, "No one will be able to pronounce his name."
I told her she did just fine with learnign how to pronounce my unusual name and she'd learn how to say her grandbaby's name too!
SHe has since kept from saying off-color things. I'm sorry that I did not come fromt he land of liking simple names for our children.
I'm black, we are known for some creative names. LOL! 
My husband and I decided on a name for our baby if it was goign to be a boy (we waited until the birth tofind out the gender). We made the mistake of telling my MIL. My MIL said, "No one will be able to pronounce his name."
I told her she did just fine with learnign how to pronounce my unusual name and she'd learn how to say her grandbaby's name too!
SHe has since kept from saying off-color things. I'm sorry that I did not come fromt he land of liking simple names for our children.
I'm black, we are known for some creative names. LOL!
At least he won't be mixed up with a thousand other kids with the same name 
My husband and I never told anyone the names we were wanting for our kids because I hated to hear all the opinions of the world. It's our choice and nobody else's choice. They can leave their opinions at the door
How about living right next door to your MIL. And on top of all her complaints, she is an alcoholic. She use to be a neat freak. Now that my FIL is no longer alive, her house is one pile of papers on top of another. There is no place to sit, or eat or visit. She even has stacks of papers on her stove. I told my husband that the house will probably burn down on day. He won't deal with her anymore unless I insist. She argues about everything. I tried to replant her daylillies and she complained the entire weekend. The worse thing about her is the way she treats my dh. He is only here for her bidding. She never so much as gives him a birthday card, but will go out of her way to bake a cake for a family down the road, just to look nice. We inherited a puppy (casey) a few years back and it turned out to be the best thing. She will charge the fence if my MIL is near our yard. They do not like each other. I have always said dogs have a great sense of perception is someone is good or evil. Our dog turned out to be 50 lbs of protection for us and my MIL has to keep her distance or go through Casey. I can not tell you how many holidays she has ruined. She plays favorites with not only her children, but her grandchildren. Ours is not one of them. Anyone want to trade?
OKay, all I can say is you guys are making me greatful! My BF's (hopefully DH someday) parents are gone, and I never met them (large age difference) and I've always been sad that I won't have that MIL/FIL "issue" and our family will be small...I might re-think that and consider myself blessed. I know my parents can be a pain in his butt, but it is more because how my dad treats me, not how he treats my BF....Go figure!
FIL's are generally not as bad as MIL's.
I'd have to agree with that with the exception of my parents, my mom is really easy going and everyone loves her but I know that my SILs and BILs have the same feeling towards my dad that the rest of us do.
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