A few weeks ago, my friend asked if i'd do a donation cake for a breast cancer benefit that her daughter and friends were organizing. Initially I said i didn't feel comfortable doing it b/c I don't have a legal kitchen. Then, I felt guilty, so I called and asked her if she found someone else to donate cake. She said she was making them herself. I felt bad so I told her I'd make a 1/2 sheet and she said that would be great. So I spent the better part of my Saturday making it - I really hate sheet cakes... DS & I attended the benefit and stayed late to help clean up and they never even brought the cake out! I'm a little annoyed - they had a grocery store sheet cake there (which was pretty ugly). Not to mention I work full time and had a lot of things to catch up on at home, which i had to do all day Sunday...
"HOW RUDE!" For her being a friend? She really owes you an explanation why she placed a store bought cake out over yours. Explain to her that you took time out of your schedule when you really didnt have the time but since you are friends you wanted to help her out....Tell her it hurt your feelings especially when you put your heart into it...
Geez - that really stinks! I would definitely say something - just to clear things up - there might be a good explanation - if so, you can laugh it off, but if not, I would want to know too - I hope it ends well for you! You do beautiful cakes, I can't imagine them not wanting to showcase yours!!
It was meant to be eaten. I clarified that before I agreed to it. I haven't spoken to her since Saturday nite; I'm sure there was an explanation, but I'm still a little annoyed. The grocery store sheet wasn't even filled...
I had a similar thing happen recently at a benefit. I was asked to make a 1/2 sheet cake for free. The benefit only went from 10-12:30. At 1/4 to 12, they still had not cut the cake. So I went to them and asked if I should do it. They said, oh yes, definetely. I think they forgot about it!
I can understand your feelings with your cake being put off to the side and not used. I baked a cake for a party recently. I knew I wouldn't get there until about 2 hours after it started so I took it to their house in the morning. When I got there at 6, after everyone had eaten, the cake was still sitting there, uncut (unloved). I asked why they hadn't cut it and served it with dinner, she told me that she wanted to make sure everyone saw it and didn't want to cut it until I got there. By the time I was there, everyone was finished eating and all of the other desserts were gone, except my cake. I felt HORRIBLE - one that they didn't cut it, and two because I spent all that time on it when I could have been doing something else.
We spend time on our cakes for many different reasons: hobbies, interest, attention, artistry, completion, etc.
I know for ME personally, if I spend time on ANYTHING in the kitchen, and it doesn't go over like gang busters, I'm left feeling a sense of rejection...or even failure.
I'd definitely ask what's up with this. And I'd let my friend know as gently as possible exactly how I felt about the whole episode.
At the end of the day, if you know your cake was moist, tasty, and pretty, then whatever happens to it after it leaves your hands isn't on you!
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