This is so off the topic~ but my DH & I have been married for almost 6 years- recently started to "try" to conceive the past year, have had 2 miscarriages in the past- both were chemical pregnancies- very common (so my doctor says). I know I may not be the only one out there, but I've had sooo many family members/friends say that once you have had a miscarriage- changes get massively slimmer and slimmer...I know I need to put my faith in God, but sometimes, it just gets the best of me and it makes me so sad. I'm currently late, but am having some minor difficulties, and am too afraid to take a PT since I'm now such a pessimist!
Sorry to vent...thanks for reading!
yeah and my best friend had a miscarriage on her first pregnancy, then went on to have two very healthy twin girls and two years later another very healthy little girl .. 
hang in there I know how sad she was when she miscarried but now shes a busy mom and I am sure you will be soon too!
My Dr. told me it is very common for women to have at least one miscarriage before they have a baby.When I was pregnant with my son I was actually waiting for it to happen...not that I was wishing for it to happen but at least expecting that it could happen and it was very norma l!!! Hang in there..I do not believe it changes your chances at all so I wouldn't listen to any of that nonsense.!!If it is a chemical imbalance the Dr's will figure it out and adjust it!!
Hang in there, I was never able to get overly excited with my pregnancies. It took a year to get pregnant with both of them. My first one I was on bed rest the first trimester with other problems. My second one was a baby that didn't develop and it took two years to get pregnant after that. They are both very healthy girls, so I wish you luck.
Keep your faith where it needs to be and don't get distracted - but you know that. Also remember that not all prayers are answered in the same way.
Since you mentioned your doctor, has he offered any explaination for the difficulty? Has everyone's "plumbing" been checked? If you're late - and you're emotional - why not go ahead and spend the $x (don't even know what they cost any more) to find out and put your mind at ease? Blue line or no blue line, you can at least deal with it instead of fretting over dealing with it (does that make sense?). Baby sister is now 4mos after a miscarriage. Good friend is 8mos with her first at the age of 40. Time frames aren't always what we want them to be. Relax and hand it over and it will be fine.
I know several women who have gone on to have healthy babies following miscarriages. Please don't lose hope! I have never heard that miscarriages reduce the chance of conceiving.
My sister had two miscarriages, had a REALLY hard time conceiving, and now has a beautiful, perfect little girl about to turn 12.
Keep your faith. Try not to let the stress get the best of you. (easier said than done, I know)
I too know people who've had miscarriages before ever conceiving. Just remember that it's your body making sure the conditions are perfect for your little one to grow in a healthy way. Go ahead and take the test. At least then you'll know for this time
I don't think having miscarriages reduces your chances of further pregnancies, I had one before going on to have 4 more children & I have lots of friends & family who have also gone on to have healthy kids..please don't stress out , as hard as it is when it happens, it's just part of life & when you get your " chemical imbalances " sorted out , no doubt you too will be blessed
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relax & best of luck 
Hi Rachel, I've had two miscarriages before having my 3 healthy kids! I have NEVER heard of a miscarriage lowering your chances. I really don't think that's true. It took me about 3 years or so and 2 miscarriages until I finally got my babies. Don't give up. I know what you mean about being too scared to take the test, it's like having that hope feels good and you just don't want that feeling to go away, if that makes any sense!
I know how hard this is, but just don't lose hope. You know you can get pregnant so just keep trying! Feel free to ask me anything, I've been down that long road so I've learned a thing or two! Good luck!
My niece had 6 miscarriages, 2 healthy births. With her it turned out to be what is termed an Immature Cervix, once she got so far along in the pregnancy the devolpment of the baby caused her cervix to dilate early. They finally sticthed the cervix and she carried her last baby full term, the first baby was before the procedure and was a 5 month birth, she only weighed 2 lbs. 2 oz. but fortunately had no defects or adversities and is now a healthy 33 year old young women.
I know you want the experience of carrying a baby and giving birth, but that doesn't make a person a mother. Loving a child does, and if it turns out that you can't conceive and carry to birth, think about adoption.
Hi Rachel,
This post caught my eye because I actually manage an online support group for women dealing with fertility issues of all kinds. My first thought was that since you are able to get pg on your own but unable to carry the pg, perhaps there is a lining issue or low progesterone. I would highly recommend talking to your Dr more about why the m/c's keep happening. There may not be a clear cut reason it happens for some women but there are ways to test to see if there is a reason. Don't torture yourself by waiting. If you're over 30 yrs old and have been ttc ( trying to concieve) for over a year, go see an RE ( reproductive endocrinologist) rather than just a regular OB.
Good luck!
KimAZ
There's a wonderful website for women who are trying to have a baby. I used to go there a lot before I got pg with my first. They also have support forums for after your baby was born based on age groups of the children. It's www.tryingtoconceive.com Go check it out! There's a TON of info there!
My doctor had me take a baby aspirin once a day. It's supposed to help with your lining.
Hi RachelC
Big hugs to you..
Sorry for the pain you feel. I know how you feel, I've been there before.
Here is my story.
It took me 18mth to fall pregnant, then I miscarried at 9wks. I was so devestated at the time. Then 18mths later got pregnant again. My son was perfectly healthy but he was 8 weeks premature, all good now his 5 and very healthy. Then we decided we wanted another child and then 19mths later miscarried again. The fetus had died at approx 8 weeks but i was still carrying the placenta until it was picked up at 13 weeks. Another 12mths down the track I was pregnant again and had an eptopic pregnancy which destroyed one of my tubes. Finally went to a gyno and found out I had poly cystic ovaries. My gyno told me that my chances of getting pregnant were very slim and that i would need assistance(artificial insemination by hubby- NOT IVF). We tried this a hew times but it was getting a bit to costly. Stopped the proceedure and fell pregnant by our selves. I had a little girl and she is 18mth old now.
I think everything happens for a reason and it is our body's way of taking care of something thats not quite right. Dont be hard on yourself, I know its hard and you think why me. But I believe it will make you be a stronger person. Please dont feel sorry for me its not what could've been, but its what I have now.
Try not to worry too much, stress is an awful thing when it comes to conceiving.
Sorry this was so long I just wanted you to know that your not the only one.
Best of luck for the future.
It's sad that so many people want babies and have a hard time ... then you get teenage girls getting pregnant, having babies, and leaving them to die in a dumpster or something! It's a sad irony!
I understand how hard it is to try and conceive. DH and I have been trying for 2 years already, and just recently I was diagnosed with PCOS. It's hard to think that it may be a LONG time before we do, and the fact that I'm already 27 with some other health problems....a little depressing.
So for those who've had problems, and to those who are still struggling_
((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
My cousin couldn't get pregnant for the longest time. She had about 9 miscarriages. Finally she got pregnant but the doctor recommended she say in bed ALL the time for the first 3 months (except to go to the bathroom of course) and it worked! So maybe thats what you need to do...just a thought...good luck
x K-la x
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