Okay. My sister in-law just came over to ask if one of her friends kids (destroyers) could use my daughter's bike to ride half way across town since my daughter (5 yrs. old) wasn't allowed to go. I said no- she got mad and walked off. Just as she did so, my husband with a kinda accusing tone in his voice says, "You know she said she doesn't like coming over here because you always look pissed off and we are always arguing." "And?" I asked with offense. "You need to stop looking so pissed off all the time. [Which by the way is just something that runs in my family.] That's why my friends don't like to come over- because they think you're pissed off all the time. She said she feels more comfortable at my brother's house than here. You need to get rid of the 'Torres look'." AAARRRGGG!!! 
I snapped back and told him, "Okay, then change your face." Is there really any good reason for his sister to have to feel super comfortable at our house anyways?! Which by the way, she's the type that doesn't come around unless she needs something and complains that no one cares for her. The oh pity me type as said by her brothers and parents. I just can't believe he's getting mad at me because his sister and friends don't like the way my face is... I just can't help it!
Then to top it off, yesterday was really stormy and we had alot of hail. Well, my husband's brother and sister both call my husband and ask if he can move my car out from under the carport so they can put their car under it! "Why?! So my car can get damaged?! I don't think so," I told them both.
Maybe you should tell your husband you look p***** off is because you are tired of his relatives treating you and your family like they are doormats. Maybe your husband doesn't realize how crazy their request are. I try not to lend anything thing important out to relatives because when they break it, they never replace it. I do not borrow from anyone, because if I can not afford to by it in the first place, then I know I could not afford to replace it if it broke. As far as the cars, that request makes no sense. Why do they think you would want your car damaged just so their car would be protected.
tell him you always look PO'd because the rest of the family has NO respect for you (car but one example) and for your children (bike another example).
tho' -- note --- you did admit "it's just something that runs in my family" -- does it????
if so, does it have to continue to run in the family???
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I too often look that way, so my students say, so I've learned to say things like
NO, I'm not angry/PO'd --
<choose one>
I'm tired
I went to bed too late
I have an upset tummy, something I ate
I'm OLD (playing this one up every chance I get)
I've got a headache/backache/kneeache --- oh heck I just ache -- I'm OLD
and remember to remind myself to:
SMILE! It won't break the face.
I have several students who have that look all the time -- and to them I often whisper a quiet --
"smile, it won't break your face!"
Yeah. I guess you're right Doug... but the whole face thing, I don't even realize I do it. Plus his sister has known me longer than my husband has should know that I'm not mean of a prude or anything. And like the other ladies said, I do sometimes feel like we are door mats. His father(a contractor) parks his trailers and equipment on the side of the house and our back yard w/o asking, his mother and sister both buy the other nephew things like a swing set, a trampoline, a pool to name a few and then say they want to keep if for HIM in OUR backyard. I guess I'm just tired of faking the whole I'm tired or I don't feel good thing and I've finally cracked. Oh and his dad is stuccoing our house (his idea) and choosing the color for it too. We are paying for it. 
Does your husband have a backbone? Is it your house or theirs? If they own it, they probably think they have the right to do whatever they want. If you own it tell them no trespassing. If they put toys in your backyard then ownership is 9/10ths of the law, right?
Doug, my dh and ds are both artist and by looking at your sketches I thought you might be one as well, and you are in the theatre.
Does your husband have a backbone? Is it your house or theirs? If they own it, they probably think they have the right to do whatever they want. If you own it tell them no trespassing. If they put toys in your backyard then ownership is 9/10ths of the law, right?
You're telling me!!! That's exactly how I feel and yes- we own it.
When my FIL was alive and we moved next door to him he thought he had a right to use whatever we owned and could do whatever he wanted in our yard. I saved up some money and installed a fence, got a gard dog and never had to worry about him in my yard while I was at work. That was years ago and I still have my fence and have my guard dog and my MIL is scared of the dog so she doesn't meddle in my yard either. If I allowed my MIL in she would loan out anything we have that is not nailed down. LOL It was a hard lesson at first, but we all live civil and respect each others property.
When my FIL was alive and we moved next door to him he thought he had a right to use whatever we owned and could do whatever he wanted in our yard. I saved up some money and installed a fence, got a gard dog and never had to worry about him in my yard while I was at work. That was years ago and I still have my fence and have my guard dog and my MIL is scared of the dog so she doesn't meddle in my yard either. If I allowed my MIL in she would loan out anything we have that is not nailed down. LOL It was a hard lesson at first, but we all live civil and respect each others property.
Okay, you must have passed on those shoes to me cause those are exactly my circumstances. The only diffrence is we live across the street, have a fence that his dad jumps over and our dog (because of the neighbors being scared of him) is in a kennel. LOL Funny how so many of use have the same problems. My MIL is the exact same way as yours too. 
Starting to feel a little better. Thanks.
Want to borrow my dog? She has a mean bark and doesn't bite toooo hard. LOL She just nips at their heels as they run out of the yard.
LOL! How funny is that! He or she's just so vicious. AARRGG RUFF, RUFF! The little ones always are. 
I have a sister in law so yeah I understand how they can be. I do believe if one of my DH family members asked me to move my vehicle out from under my carport for them to pull theirs under it in a hail storm I would have went off the channel on them. That was plain and simple DISRESPECT! The nerve of them Makes me mad for you.
Well, my husband's brother and sister both call my husband and ask if he can move my car out from under the carport so they can put their car under it! "Why?! So my car can get damaged?! I don't think so," I told them both.
that is just unbelievable!!! can understand why you might be smarting from that slap in the chops!!
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