Some friends just lost their 10 year old neice/granddaughter. She had violent seizures. I am going to make a cake for them and was wondering which idea would be better suited. Basket weave with flowers (no writing) or a lamb? Will have to get started soon. TIA.
I'm sorry to hear such bad news....
For the cake, if they are religious I think the lamb would be perfect. If not, then the other. They will surely appreciate either.
Crissy 
I'm speechless do not want to be in your shoes the ladies here will help so you don't make a mistakes and make everyone sadder
I think a non-specific cake would be better. The lamb is a cute idea but I think I would end up associating it with a child, etc. somehow. So either the basketweave with flowers or even the pirouline/pirouette cake that AmyKay suggested would be perfect. It shows that you are thinking of them at this awful time but it won't set off any sad associations...
I agree with wgoat5. I think just a plain homemade cake would be nice and thoughtful. I know this sounds "CRAZY", but, even something as nice as a basketweave with spring flowers would have saddened me when our son died (sorry for the personal reference). It's strange, but, people react differently at the death of a child.
I'm so sorry for your friends and you are kind to think of their feelings at this time.
Beth in KY
I vote for plain, everyday simple. No flowers, ribbons, bows. Maybe fresh fruit. I usually make an Almond Cream Cheese pound cake in a bundt pan and fill the center with fresh berries, sprinkle with powdered sugar for families who have lost a loved one.
I agree completely with bethola for the same reason. When our son died anything decorated would have seemed wrong. The world ends when a child dies and anything decorated or pretty might send the wrong sentiment. However, something homey and delicious would be very comforting.
I am also very sorry for your friends. When you deliver your cake, be sure to plan on staying and listening for a while, or even sitting in silence.
OMG 
I feel so bad, I didn't take the time to fully read the post. I totally misunderstood. I thought the child was just having seizures which can be nothing for a child.
I am so so sorry for their loss. I don't know how parents get the stength to move on. How do you know the right words or the right thing to do?
I would be at a loss.
Maybe the cake shouldn't be decorated at all, just a simple plain cake.
I'm sorry for you, even being a friend I know you are in great pain.
How can a loss of a child be explained.
I can be such an Idiot sometimes
may I suggest:
skip the cake altogether.
if really want to do a dessert -- do a pie or cookies or brownies, etc. totally plain.
consider also the effects of depression from such a loss -- cooking of any sort will be a major chore.
so consider: lasagna, casseroles, any easy to store and easy to prepare food that will keep well in the fridge.
and as they may get hit w/ lots of food the first few days -- hold off a bit, say 5 or so days --- about the time the feeling of being "forgotten" starts to set in and surprise them w/ a meal en tree and dessert.
may I suggest:
skip the cake altogether.
if really want to do a dessert -- do a pie or cookies or brownies, etc. totally plain.
consider also the effects of depression from such a loss -- cooking of any sort will be a major chore.
so consider: lasagna, casseroles, any easy to store and easy to prepare food that will keep well in the fridge.
and as they may get hit w/ lots of food the first few days -- hold off a bit, say 5 or so days --- about the time the feeling of being "forgotten" starts to set in and surprise them w/ a meal en tree and dessert.
This is an EXCELLENT idea!
Beth in KY
yeah I am with Doug, when my girlfriend lost two babies, I always just made cookie trays (and some to stick in their freezer for later) for the funeral luncheon....I never thought a decorated cake seemed right. I just stick with plain ol good comfort food. I also recommend gift cards for going out to eat, for awhile they may be too depressed to cook, but they can order carry out.
Doug is so right! There's always tons of food at first. Recently, when a friend of mine lost her mother, I waited a week before I carried anything. I made a Praline Cheesecake, because I knew that was one of my friends mosted loved desserts.
good idea on the food and the timing. just make sure that if you wait a week to bring something over, you dont wait to give your sympathies...they'll want to know that you care, and are there to help from the beginning. Do you know if there is someone organizing meals over the next few weeks? perhaps you can help coordinate it so that it helps over time, not just all at once in the beginning.
it is a good thing for you to be thinking of them. how hard of a thing to go through- bethola and roanoker, i am sorry that you also lost your children, its unimaginable.
I think if you are going to make a cake a plain one would be nice or maybe a tray of cookies or brownies. When my mom passed away there was so much food. Also it would be nice to include a book of stamps for thank you's for the food/ cards etc... that will be mailed later.
So sorry to hear such sad news.
Take care.
Thanks everyone for your ideas. I talked with my grandmother info. They already had a ton of food, everyone from church made something and they had so much left they were giving plates to other family members to take home. I think I will take the advice that someone gave about waiting several days later. I will probably make them a main course casserole and a simple poundcake with glaze and maybe some fresh fruit that someone else mentioned.
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