I want to cry...My best friend has seriously made the biggest mistake in his life...I love him...And I know this can only mean disaster...He's in the military...And been in Korea for quite sometime...He's been alone for about 4 years...Well he just met some Indian chick about 3 months ago...They got married...Sounds great...Not so...They're not living together...Cuz she can't live on base...Cuz she's foreign and the paperwork hasn't gone through...They eloped...And before they got married they maybe saw each other about 10x...That's it...And only for a couple of hours...She started hinting at marriage as soon as she found out he was going to Italy...I don't know why...But she hates America...Thinks all Americans are pigs...And she wants him to move to India...But he wants to come home...After his stays over seas are done...He misses the US terribly...They didn't even consimate thier marriage...She "wants to wait" on their wedding...They are already married so what's the big deal...I have no clue...I think basically she's using him...And he thinks it's love...When it's only infatuation...I want to tell him I think this is a big mistake...But I don't wanna mess up the friendship...I have no clue what to do...He's been there for me through everything...And now when I know he needs me my hands are tied...
problem resolved...i told him how i felt...his family feels the same...he says he's scared when she comes to the US that she will leave him...all i can do is be there for him...
I totally understand...
unfortunately there are people out there that do this just to get what they think is "optimal" life... I know several people (in Germany) that said the same things but said they would do anything to get here, and get a piece of the American Dream... I hope your friend gets himself together.... my thoughts are with him.....
This actually pretty common for people in the militarty. I can't count how many times I saw this exact same thing happen and it never turns out well for the service member who married them. Please try talking him into desolving the marriage, since they haven't consumated their relationship this can happen quickly. Does he really want to be married to someone who hates the country he is fighting for?
Unfortunately...She probably will leave him!!! Is there anyway he can dissolve the marriage before he comes home so he doesn't have to bring her....So heart breaking!!!
i tried talking him into dissolving it last night...but he says i worry bout him too much and everything will be fine...i would call his parent's...cuz i'm sure they feel the same way...but he won't listen to either one of us...he says he "loves" her...this breaks my heart...
Unfortunately "love is blind" may apply in this case. Since he knows your opinion on the matter, try not to push it too much on him or you may end up pushing your friend away. Have a heart-to-heart over the phone with him and let him know how you feel, and then let him know that whatever he decides you will still be there for support. (He will especially need it if he continues with the marriage and the lady leaves him.)
i wanna wap him upside the head...and punch her lights out...i don't know why she wants to go italy so bad...but i don't think it can be good...not for him at least...he knows for sure i will be there for him...
well it does sound like an unfortunate situation, but on the other side of the coin as good outcome could be. My dad was in the military and met my mother thru her cousin who was married to his best friend. They knew each other for a week and my father went to Illinois ( from New Mexico) to get my mother and told her he wanted to marry her, they were married a week later. So they basically knew each other for 2 weeks. They have now been happily married for 42 years! 
So you never know, maybe it is ment to be. Just be there for him either when the relationship turns sour or goes great.
i think it will turn sour...i think that's cool bout ur family tho..but his bride hates americans...and everything to do w/them...she jumped on the marriage bandwagon...only after hearing about italy...
Just pray for him and be there for him if he falls! Sometimes we could talk to them unitl we're blue in the face, but if someone doesn't want to hear it all you are is turning blue! By all means if it doesn't work out - don't utter the words I told you so - just be positive for him if he falls!
i will be there when he falls...n i know what it means to have someone say i told u so...when ur going thru heck...my mom and dad had bets against my first marriage...i guess my dad won he bet a yr...my mom bet 6 months...
It's so good that you were honest with him. That's all you can do. AND KEEP DOING IT. Speaking from experience having been in the Marine Corps, it gets lonely in the military, and many people marry without thinking twice about it...just so they can have the emotional comfort of a spouse. Sounds like he did the same.
Keep talking to him.
Sounds like you're a good friend.
(and NOT nice that your parents bet on your first marriage!)
. That is a tight spot I mean you want him to be happy but the whole thing just smells bad..been there done that with a friend. Best thing I can think of is to be honest but not belligerent with him and support him.
PS My thoughts and gratitude are with your friend for his service to this country.
ty...he's like a brother...i really if i ever see the (insert nasty name here) i will deck her one...she's taking advantage and knows it...she's already asked him when he's moving to INDIA...haha...he's not gonna move there...
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