My SIL is having baby #3. One turned two in October, one turned one in January and this one is due in November. MY husband and I have had trouble getting health insurance, because I get migraines and a lot of insurance has turned me down. We finally got it, and the waitng period is over and we are talking about when to have a baby. I just wanted to be the pregnant one. I would never think anything bad for her, I just wanted to be pregnant without another family member pregnant. I feel so bad for thinking this. We want to have a baby it just hasn't happened yet. Do I need to just change my feelings? Am I just horrible? I am sorry if I offended anyone, I just needed to tell someone who is not family.
It's not bad to feel that way, it's simple human nature. But the way I look at it is this will be your first and that in and of itself makes it exceptionally special regarless of who else is pregnant. There is so much that is beautiful and wonderful about being pregnant that imho everything else can fall to the wayside. Trust me, when you are a pregnant woman you get lots and lots of attention so you won't do without even though your s-i-l is pregnant. Good luck!
I think anyone with a pregnant sister or friend and not being pregnant yourself, causes that...I know I did..... I think it will show moreso with you, if you understand what I mean.. your sister has been pregnant a few times before already so it will be a newer thing when it's your turn.... and I believe your turn will come soon enough.... perhaps this is the time to start preparing.. more.... when is she due now??? perhaps try to get pregnant in the next couple of months...that way when she has her's you are still pregnant WITH YOUR FIRST....and then it'll be a couple of months until you have yours.....
the thing is....it's kind of not in your hands like that...but it will happen now that you and hubby are talking about it and it will happen when it is supposed to happen..... keep the faith, and until you actually concieve just start preparing now... think of the room, the theme you want, names etc etc, and before you know it you will be pregnant and you will be prepared......
good luck!
your not horriable its natural when you want something so bad and you see someone else getting it to be jealous but all that matters is that 2 new babys are comming into your family and they can be great friends and grow up togther in my family it seems every kid has a cousin there age im not kidding if I was pregnant my sister was prego a few months later and then our close cousin would turn up pregos its a blessing to have cousins that close in age and so much fun if there close its almost like haveing twins running around you will both get the attention your deserve this is not a competition plus she is your in law so nobody on your side of the family is having a baby so you know you will get all of the attention there be happy hold our head high.
yup. your feelings are normal. BUT, I will tell you this.....when your baby is born OR even when you finally get pregnant, you won't care if the entire world is pregnant because you'll just be so thrilled to be having YOUR baby. AND you may very well come to be thankful for your SIL's new baby because then your child may beb close in age to that one. And close cousins are a great thing to have growing up.
Now....about your migraines.....I too get them...have for 16 years, and horribly so at that. But no insurance has ever turned me down or even made me fill out any health questionaires to be able to KNOW I had migraines before I fell under their policy. WHy kind of insurance is this? And what do you take?
I just went to my neurologist yesterday to load up on more meds for the next few months. Good to be prepared!
You are absolutely NOT horrible!! I've been there. I was trying to get pregnant with no luck and then watched my LITTLE sister have a baby and then get pregnant with twins. It was horrible, it was hard for me to be around her. It wasn't her personally, it was any pregnant woman.
So please don't worry about your feelings, they are completely natural! I now have 3 kids, oddly enough I also have twins! Your turn will come and it will be wonderful. If you ever need to talk I'm here, I've been through it so I understand! 
like someone said already, it's human nature. I have a child (who is my EVERYTHING), but I can't help but get a little jealous pang when a friend of mine becomes pregnant...AGAIN. It's not that I can't have children, it's that my current marital situation would not be condusive to having another child. My son needs ALL of me right now, not to share me with another sibling.
Relax, no really RELAX. It will be easier to consieve if you are less stressful. Let's see another way to ensure pregnacy is to drink the same water as others in the office that are pregnant and you could build a new house. Yeah a new house almost always guarantees a new baby. I know, just teasing. Just concentrate on you and your husband and no one else. It is your state of mind that is important, not how often someone else gets pregnant. Maybe you can trump her and have twins, LOL. Anyway, I wish you many little ones to spoil and a healthy pregnancy for each and every one. The Luck of the Irish Day will soon be here. Find a Leprechaun (sp) or a four leaf clover for good luck.
Wow, thank you for all your support. We are as a matter of fact building a house and will be done soon. Then we are planning on trying for a baby.
As for the migraines- I was just turned down becasue of the cost that migraines cost to a insurance provider. Thank goodness for the one that took me.
I will be prepared and start thinking of all the great things to keep me happy about this.
I called my SIL and she is so happy. I am happy for her. It really helped to hear her. I did not tell her my feelings I would never do that. She however said that it was my turn to have one. too.
This is totally normal. When I got pregnant with my first, my sister got pregnant with her second within the first couple months. Tragically, she miscarried within weeks. It made it very difficult for both of us, but luckily, we were close enough to get through it. It was also very difficult because I got pregnant very easily and she had a REALLY hard time conceiving. Made me feel very guilty. At the same time, another SIL was also pregnant, but she was only 16 at the time, so it wasn't exactly a celebratory time for the family. When I got pregnant with my 2nd, my SIL (a different one) annouced her 3rd pregnancy days before I did. I've never been pregnant 'alone', but it never took away from the joy and excitement for us and our families. I wish you the best of luck, babies are always special and maybe you and SIL can form a new bond if you go through it together.
Shel, I'm just curious, did your sis ever end up having kids?
Hope your feeling better by the way!!
Thanks for the well wishes, flava!
My sister has one daughter, she was on fertility drugs at the time. She had two miscarriages (one before her daughter was born, and one after), shortly after the second, she got a divorce. She remarried and gained a stepdaughter, so her new husband and she decided not to try anymore.
It's natural to be jealous but think of how fun it would be to have kids about the same age if you get pregnant soon.
My oldest is the first grandchild on both sides and is 4 years older than my younger child who was the second on both sides. Two months after the second was born my SIL had a baby and a few months later my sister had a little girl. Now when we visit my oldest doesn't have anyone to play with but my little one has kids the same age, we all feel kind of sorry for the big one.
It's way nicer to have cousins the same age, I was the oldest of my cousins with my dad's brother and sister and I was the only girl. Kinda lonely, but also kinda spoiled 
It's fun though having relatives that are pregnant at the same time because you have someone to talk to about what is going on, especially when it is your first. I was the first person to get pregnant out my hubby's family, he has one other brother and sister. His sister was 1-2 months pregnant when my son was born.
It was kinda funny becuase my SIL asked me, "if the home pregnancy test is positive each time I take, does that mean I'm pregnant?"
Me- "Well, how many times did you take it?"
SIL- "Three"
Me- "Yes, (sil's name) you are pregnant."
I never thought I would be jealous over a baby I think they are such blessings. I feel much better about it today and cannot wait for her to need new things for her baby. I talked to my husband about it and he was really supportive. Thank you everyone for your support.
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