My old babysitter called me this evening wanting a cake for her Aunt & Uncles 25th Anniversary (about 100 people). She is wanting to know how much I will charge her and if I will do the cake. Well, this is the same babysitter that stole my sugar cookies at Christmas time that were supposed to be for my daughters party. She actually passed them out to her boyfriends family as gifts and said she made them. Anyways, she was like part of my family so I was devestated and cried for weeks. I'm over it now and still care about her but will never trust her again. How would you handle this? Her Aunt and Uncle are good friends of my familys and I live in a very small town. It's not there fault and they don't even know about it as I have never confronted her or anyone on it (well except the people from her boyfriends family that know). Would you do the cake? Thanks for letting me vent my husbands ears were getting tired!
My first thought would be no, I would not do a cake for a thief. On the other hand, if you really need the money and if she pays cash in advance, then do the cake. It's not like you're going to be able to depend upon getting other orders from this one.
Theresa
It's not really like she's doing it for the thief, it's for the aunt and uncle...good family friends. I agree with Derby get a contract going with her, don't give her any discounts (maybe even charge a little extra for compensation for the cookies) and make the best darn 25th anniversary cake you can for the people you do care about!!!
I don't think I would do it. Say you get the deposit, then spend hours and hours on the cake and she stiffs you. Yeah, you covered your ingred. but not your time. And I personally would be devasted that no one got to see & eat the cake I worked so hard on. I think you should tell her no and tell her exactly WHY you're saying no. She should know there are long-lasting reprecussions for her actions.
Nope... I'm not that forgiving. I wish I was, you would be a good person to look beyond it and do it anyway but that will be hard to do. Good Luck
I don't need the money but I need the advertising (sort of speak) they are a very LARGE family in this community and I almost feel like I would be shooting myself in the butt if I didn't do it but then I also feel like I am excusing her for what she did to me (and my kids). There is no way for me to defend myself in this situation because that is what I would be doing if I said something (she does no wrong - well that's what they think). Oh well, I guess I'll sleep on it and see how I feel in the morning (after coffee) 
Thanks for the help everyone
If you truly believe that you can get new customers from this order, then by all means, go for it.
Theresa
I think she wants a Sams cake/Grocery chain priced cake, they may be willing to pay a little more but I don't think much more.
I think I agree I'll do a contract and take a deposit and that way at least my ingredients are covered. Theres no reason if she doesn't show up to get the cake I can't drop it off as a gift (seeing as I will probably be there anyways) 
At least that way they would all get to see it and I know she would never say anything because she wouldn't want me to comment on MY Cookies!!
Thanks again maybe now I can sleep without this waying on my mind - you all are so great to vent too!! 
Just my two cents...If you do make the cake, make sure everyone knows you did it. And I would even take a stab with those cookies(oh those were my cookies did you like them I baked them)...but that's just me 
. Good Luck!
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