Hi,
This may sound a little silly but I need a little bit of ideas/thought/opinions on something. I have just one niece who is turning 6 on Sunday. Because of her mum (my SIL) I'm not really that close to her but I really want to do something special for her and was thinking of baking her a small cake for her birthday. She likes Barbie alot and I thought something in that line will be nice. My SIL never has tea or parties 'cause there is always some or other issue going on in her life so usually we (my DD's and DH) just go over and give her a gift and wish her.
Now.....will I be trapping on anyones toes by doing the cake or should I just leave things as they always are? I know my DH thinks I should just not do it 'cause my SIL might get offended or something but I really wanted my niece to know that I/we really care for her.
Please any advice will do.
Barefoot is right, your SIL may be getting her a cake from (for gosh sakes a bakery) and may feel you should of ask her first, please let us know what you decide to do
expanding upon advice given:
since SIL "always has issues"...offer to help out with her "issues" by offering to "babysit" the niece as often as you can/want...even as much as once a week. Now you have regular, special "auntie" time with her and can do all those girly things....tea (and scones!), shopping, dress-up, baking, etc. Maybe SIL will thaw a bit toward you if she feels you are helping her.
If SIL works and puts niece in after school care and if it fits your life, maybe the niece could stay at your home after school.
Nagging question in back of my mind: could SIL harbor secret jealousy of your domestic skills, especially cooking/baking?
Great idea Doug!
I, too, think it would be a good idea to bake the cake for her at your house, so SIL doesn't get offended...unless you ok it with her first, then take it over there. But I still think doing it at your house is better, so she doesn't feel like you are trying to show her up.
Good luck.
Hi All.
Thanks for the input.
I didn't do the cake just went over and wished her and gave her her gift (a kids cake and cookie decorating kit). She loved it. My DD's and my niece get along pretty well on the few occasions that they get to see each other and my niece wanted my oldest DD who is a year younger to stay and play with her. I was not sure what to do 'cause my SIL did not say anything so I just took the kids and left. I think Doug has made a good point of getting my niece over every now and then to spend some quality time with her. I think that will be one of my goals for this year. As for SIL Doug, no idea what goes on in her head sometimes. I have thought about the jealousy part but I really don't know anymore.
Thanks again.
Regards
Shamani
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