waterfallsoygurl, your cakes are awesome. I'd say no more free cakes for ungrateful sis in law! That cake is worth way more than $20 anyway.
I've never experienced the looking down on, but I'm not the type that takes that from anyone anyway. I think I kind of give off that impression. If anyone tries to talk down to me like I'm an idiot or less then they are, they are swiftly corrected! But I don't have a degree in chemistry either (or any degree for that matter) so I guess I don't have anything to compare it to. I've noticed though, that insecure people (women especially) tend to treat people who are reserved and quiet, badly because they think they can get away with it and it makes them feel better about themselves. I don't understand how making someone feel bad can make you feel better, but I see it all the time at work. My philosophy is don't ever let someone make you feel like you're not good enough. If they don't appreciate your cakes, give them to someone who does.
Sorry that you had to go through that ordeal.
Your cake is the bomb and should go to people who would appreciate your hard work.
Keep your head up and continue to make your beautiful cakes.
I know what you mean about feeling looked down on. I am a court reporter and a lot of times I am treated like I'm just a tape recorder sitting at the end of the table, not even human. Attorneys will greet everyone in the room except me, get everyone else a drink except me, ask everyone else when they want to break for lunch, except me. They will even agree to eat during the deposition to save time, while my stomach is rumbling and my hands are busy taking down the testimony so I can't eat and I'm looking at their full mouths trying to figure out what they're saying! I don't take this personally anymore, but in the beginning I felt like screaming "HELLO???!!! Does anyone see me here?" I hated having to learn to be assertive and bold, because a lot of times people look at an assertive, bold woman and just think she's a bitc*. And, as we all know, men can be as assertive and bold as they want, and they're just thought of assertive and bold.
In any case, your cakes are beautiful and deserve to be appreciated. I like the idea someone else had of taking your cakes to the fire station where they will be thrilled with them and beg you to bring more. I am just starting in cake decorating, and that's what my husband recommended I do with my practice cakes. It's funny, but I can't imagine anyone looking down on a baker or a cake decorator because I love it so much!! I'd rather talk to a cake decorator than an attorney any day! Hope I've helped by commiserating!
Cakey, I so could not have taken that sitting down! I tend to be sarcastic so I would have probably said something like "Sure, that's no problem eating lunch during the deposition. Oh, sorry I thought you were asking me." or "Thanks, I'd love a Cola". It's hard to say until you're in that situation, but I won't accept being treated like I'm less worthy than anyone.
I have to agree with the others. This is not about you being looked down upon but just the general rudeness that some people have. Cuillere, your cake is amazing. I hope you do not let those women dampen your sense of pride and accomplishment.
Cakey - In my pre-SAHM life I worked with many lawyers who were often my clients. I have discovered that many of them (but not all) do not immediately give respect to others. Respect must be demanded. I don't think they see assertiveness as being rude. So if you need to take a break, need to eat or have a question then speak up!
rvallee and daranaco: Don't worry, I don't take that crap anymore. The other day before a long deposition started, the attorney smugly told me that he always carried a peanut butter sandwich with him so he always had something to eat during depositions and didn't have to take a break. I was like, Good for you, Buddy. Have fun eating your peanut butter sandwich in this office while I go to the pizza place across the street for my break, and I took 40 minutes. Ha ha!
When I started my business a few months ago I only had one place to take my sample cakes... My mom's office... 50 very hungry people... I would bring in a cake everyonce in a while... Not really expecting anything When I dropped off the cakes I would hear a "Beautiful" "Nice work" and an occational "Thank you"
What I didn't know was that behind my back they had started a collection jar for me... It is only a little bit of money but I also got about 10 cakes out of one building... Plus the extra money they give... I totally understand being under appreciate from other situation but doing things for free sometimes gets you in those binds...
Kristin
I think I would have smiled reeeeaaaallllllyyyyy sweetly, turned around, and taken my cake ANYWHERE else...allthewhile smiling like an airhead....TO KEEP FROM DOING OR SAYING SOMETHING VERY UNBECOMING A NICE PERSON.
There are PLENTY of grateful people out there who deserve a nice cake...
Kristingeorge, I'm moving to Nikiski when my son graduates from high school. We'll be "neighbors"! LOL, at least we'll be closer than I am here in Dallas.
I often wondered why a pizza delivery guy gets greeted with a big smile and hoorays and gets given a tip, when he never even lays eyes on your pizza. Just takes the box and out he goes. But there are times when I deliver a cake that took me hours to complete, and I hardly get looked up at... {{sigh}} 
Oh well......
Most people I've given free cakes/cookie arrangements to are very grateful to have them, and the ones who aren't, don't get another one. I'd rather see someone's eyes glitter with happiness at their free cake than get a cold shoulder from a paying customer. I know that doesn't pay the bills, but it's such a balm to the soul to be appreciated.
Deanna
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