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Delete your sister-in-law's comment, then call and chat with her. Tell her that you had to delete her comment because it was on your business page and it could hurt your business.

I did this! I told her all the steps involved in making those cookies, so she could understand the time that went in to them, which is why they are so "expensive."
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Reminds me of my own "wood display type" shortbreads for the Printing Museum: I made it absolutely clear that I would not be doing them again without lots and lots of help.

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I am just a  hobby baker, but I did a 4 tier cake for my best friend's sister for her 40th birthday. My friend said her sister loved lavender, so I did the tiers in lavender colored buttercream and had 40 ivory buttercream roses spiraled around the sides. Two of the tiers were chocolate cake with regular buttercream, then the next to smallest tier was chocolate cake with lavender white chocolate mouse filling and the small top tier was lavender cake with the lavender white chocolate mouse. I couldn't stay for the party as I had to go to work, but my friend called and told me that right after I left (and before the guests arrived) her sister had to disassemble the cake because she had to taste it right away. She later admitted she didn't believe the lavender cake and filling could possibly be any good. She has had my cakes multiple times for different functions and specifically asked if I would bake her cake for her because she loved my cakes and they were sooooo pretty. But she didn't trust that the cake would taste good so she took the thing apart and cut into it before the guests even saw it. She made my "no cake for  you" list for sure!

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Wow..sounds lovely! She earned her spot on that list

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What a nutjob,  All she needed to do if she was truly so worried is take a small piece from the back without disassembling it all.

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Mine is when a customer calls about getting a cake made that they have seen before. I give them a price and they say, " oh wow, that's a lot. I know for a fact that someone else can do it for more than HALF off of that!" Ok, then buh-bye! icon_biggrin.gif
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I love this thread and couldn't continue reading without adding my little story.

 

I bake as a hobby. On Easter I ended up having cupcakes left over so in light of the festivity, I gave them away to some friends and family. About 2 weeks later, one of the friends I gave cupcakes to sent me a text asking me if I could teach her how to decorate and I said SURE :), she asked me if I had time on a Thursday 3 weeks from then... so I was "booked". I was excited to teach someone my favorite hobby. She gets to my house almost 3 hrs after the time she said she was gonna be here.

 

She gets here with a box filled with several boxes of cake mix, tubs of icing, food coloring. Gosh, she was also kind enough to bring her own eggs, milk, oil and cupcake liners!! So because I have so many things to do, I told her we were gonna start with making a dozen and that if she wanted to learn more we could do that again some other time. Boy, I was in for a HUGE surprise. She pulls out 4 different pictures of cupcakes she found on Pinterest and told me the colors she wanted on them. WHAT THE WHAT?? I asked her what it was for that I thought I was just gonna teach her to decorate, she says it's a relatives birthday the next day and they're throwing a surprise party and she is in charge of taking the cupcakes but that she didn't want to get them from the grocery store because they were too expensive per dozen and she was going to need 5 dozen and she didn't have all the money so she thought she could count on her awesome friend who knew how to bake and decorate real pretty. 

 

The next 6 hrs I spent baking, mixing the colors she wanted (we couldn't for the life of us get the red to get as red as she wanted to and she was getting annoyed at me for it), decorating. All of that overlapped with my husband getting home with an appetite, my kids and I being hungry, and of course my friend. I was baking her cupcakes, making dinner, doing laundry. That whole time she was just talking and gossiping, being on her phone. What she brought was not enough so I had to provide extra frosting, cake liners, food coloring, and even the boxes to put all the 60 cupcakes in. One thing she did help me with, putting all the cupcakes in her car. 

 

She didn't even say thanks, she said I could tell people she was my first customer and she'll tell them good things. Oh and she didn't even give me credit for the cupcakes. When people uploaded pictures of the cupcakes, tagged her and complimented her on the delicious and beautiful cupcakes she made she said they took a long time but that her relative was worth it.

 

Some nerve.

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Five dozen cupcakes??? Why did you let her take advantage of you like that? The minute you were aware that  this was a "I desperately need cupcakes" instead of a friend learning a little about decorating, I would have told her your cupcakes cost more than the grocery store ones and that you didn't have time to do them, so "no." She is not a friend.

There. Their. They're not the same.

 

I hope I die before "your" becomes the official contraction of "you are."

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There. Their. They're not the same.

 

I hope I die before "your" becomes the official contraction of "you are."

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That is not a friend. A friend does not lie to you. A friend does not take advantage of you. What is wrong with people these days? A friend would tell you she has to make cupcakes for a relative's birthday, then ask you if you would help. If you decided to say yes, a friend would have helped every step of the way. A friend would be on time. The friend would have helped you do the laundry while you worked on the parts she could not. A friend would have made the dinner, or asked you to talk her through the cupcakes while you cooked for your family. And a friend would have cleaned up everything and reimbursed you for the supplies you had to use. Sorry to hear this person took advantage of your kindness. Hopefully she will realize what she did wrong, apologize and make it right.
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Five dozen cupcakes??? Why did you let her take advantage of you like that? The minute you were aware that  this was a "I desperately need cupcakes" instead of a friend learning a little about decorating, I would have told her your cupcakes cost more than the grocery store ones and that you didn't have time to do them, so "no." She is not a friend.

5 dozen cupcakes, yep! I've seen somewhere something about baker's dozen but to be clear, it was 60 cupcakes. I guess the shock of it led me to just do it,, all of this was new to me, I only ever baked for my immediate family only, my husband and my mom got on to me for letting myself get taken advantage of. I have pushed her away since then. When she comments on pictures of my cakes I get a sick feeling in my stomach. That was a rude awakening, I learned a lot from that exhausting day.

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Originally Posted by SecretAgentCakeBaker View Post

That is not a friend. A friend does not lie to you. A friend does not take advantage of you. What is wrong with people these days? A friend would tell you she has to make cupcakes for a relative's birthday, then ask you if you would help. If you decided to say yes, a friend would have helped every step of the way. A friend would be on time. The friend would have helped you do the laundry while you worked on the parts she could not. A friend would have made the dinner, or asked you to talk her through the cupcakes while you cooked for your family. And a friend would have cleaned up everything and reimbursed you for the supplies you had to use. Sorry to hear this person took advantage of your kindness. Hopefully she will realize what she did wrong, apologize and make it right.

Ugh, yeah, some friend :( We live and we learn. Hopefully she realizes but I won't hold my breath on that, now I just know better. Thank you for your words <3

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I learned a lot from that exhausting day.
Good for you! icon_smile.gif some people never get to that point and just keep allowing themselves to get taken advantage of. There is a difference between that and helping someone. Have some guidelines in place now so you will know what you want to say when someone asks for stuff like this again. A lot of people used to ask to borrow my crafting supplies. They would ruin them or never return. Now I jut say that I am sorry but I don't loan my tools. There are just two people I can trust enough to not take advantage. Took me a while but I finally woke up. You were much faster!
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Do yourself a big favor. Call her up chew her out. You will feel way better. It will enable you not to get pushed around in the future and the rumor won't spread that you bake free cupcakes whilst ppl sit on their ...

IT will also get rid of that awful feeling in your stomach. Trust me you will feel fabulous. You feel horrible because you are trying to pretend things are ok and you like her. Get it over and quite trying to pretend.

 

Like the lady who thought she was my friend who didn't bother to ask if I would come pick up her money but said I could meet her at said location near her house. My husband went on his way home and she didn't answer her phone. She then texts me later says sorry she forgot her phone and I can meet her there later in the week on any other night.

My text was this..You know I don't go pick up money for orders It's not cost productive as most business don't.

 

She got the point and was very apologetic afterwards. If she hadn't I would have chewed her ear off. This kind of person is a leech not a friend.

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Wow some friend you've got there srapaladi. I would have laughed in her face and told her where Walmart was.

People treat us how we let them. Don't let people take advantage of your obviously good nature like this again, especially when they can't even be grateful.
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That is most definitely not a friend. A friend is this.... I have a good friend who I used to volunteer to make every cake for anything she needed. She would in turn provide me with much needed free baby sitting since I refused any cash payment. I eventually taught her how to decorate and shared all my recipes. She first moved 2 hours away but we saw each other, then I moved 2000 miles across the country and we rarely talk anymore. I am not on Facebook, but others who are tell me that every time she gets complimented on her cakes she gives me credit for teaching her how to bake and decorate. I tell her no it's all her at this point, but she says she couldn't do it if I hadn't taken my time to teach her. This in my book is what a true friend is. A bit extreme maybe, but a loyal grateful friend to the end.
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