Harrisonsmama - See how she is stressing you out.....you can't even sleep! In the words of the Sopranos......."Forget about it!"

Who cares what she thinks?

I'm sorry this happened to you. I can't wait to hear the final outcome!

Thanks for the kind words everyone! I will let you know what happens!

I really think you did the right thing.

Hang in there and keep us posted.

OMG! She just sent an email saying that I knew their budget from the beginning! I forwarded her the email from September with the quote that she seemed to be fine with. She has not let me off of the hook yet.

Just take yourself off the hook.

She is panicking because she knows she can't get a cake for that price anywhere else.

Don't let her guilt you into charging less than it's worth. You will regret it.

Honestly! She doesn't care what her budget it - she only wants the things she can not afford even after you showed her the budget designs - correct.

When is her date?

I want to invite you to a virtual Coffee and Cake party. We can chat online and then you can tell her you accepted another invitation!

I say get a restraining order. She sounds mental.

Who is going to make her a 4 tier wedding cake for $375????

PA-LEASE!!!!!!!!!

Good for you for forwarding that e-mail back to her, you have proof. You tell her in no uncertain terms that you cannot do her cake for under the price you originally quoted, and say goodbye Don't stress out girl, they are just green rectangles......lol (I saw that dumb commercial today

Tell her you are in the process of raising your wedding cake prices and since you do not have a signed contract or deposit on her cake, the price for the changed design is now $XXX. Bet that wakes her up! Yes, you may have known her budget, but she cannot expect you to honor previous quotes forever without a contract! Get her to commit to a design & get her money or kiss her good-bye; either way I don't see that you are obligated to do her cake......

YOU WERE ALL RIGHT! Thank God I amnot doing this! she emailed again saying that I knew the budget and that she assumed I was sticking to it even though the invoice stated $511. WOW- I AM NOT DOING ANYONE ANYMORE FAVORS! I feel so used.

holy cow this woman has some nerves!

She is so not worth the drama she is putting you through. Stick to your guns and don't let her make you feel like you have to do the cake she wants at the price she wants to pay.

I used to feel used all the time because I let people do it. My wife told me one day that if someone wants something done qoute them a price. If they don't like the price then there going to have to change something. I qoute them a price based on my time, ingredients, and SKILL. If they don't want to pay for my SKILL then we have a Walmart and Miejer right down the street. Always stand up for yourself.

I would have just told her that you were sorry but you booked another wedding as she never put a deposit down so you didn't know if she was really going to use you or not.

I wouldn't even discuss the price with her anymore. It's a no win with her. Just say sorry you don't have the date open anymore then you no longer need to answer her emails.

I say put this behind you and go on with your life. She would have been a huge headache till the very end. She couldn't get what she wanted out of you at her price so she can find someone else who'll do it, if she can. The important thing here is that you were never under any obligation to do it and at her big discounted price to boot, so pat yourself on the back for sticking to your guns and have a great day. You just saved yourself a ton of stress. Life is way too short to mess it up with these people.

I started reading the thread this morning and am catching up now. Good for you to keep the e-mails!

She may be a very nice person and this may not be the case but it really sounds like the old "something for nothing" thing.

indydebi talked about a site awhile back called fireyourweddingplanner.com. This crazy woman who runs the site spouts off about telling your vendors what you'll pay and that's that, don't be bullied, blah, blah, blah!

The reality is when someone comes to you for something like a wedding cake you need to be in control of the situation from the beginning or we wind up 86 e-mails and 1 year later! Kidding aside, it does help to have a good contract/order form that spells out what's important to you, dates, deadlines, etc. I altered the order form on earlene's site to suit my needs so that everyone is on the same page!

Goodbye psycho bridezilla, and good riddance!

Sooo, what have you learned Dorothy??

Good thing you had her emails saved!

It's funny she keeps saying "you knew our budget" when it seems like she is the one that's oblivious to it.

AGGGH! GOOD RIDDENS! And GOOD for you!
Sounds like you need to tell her you booked another wedding for that date! That is the only way she is ever going to get a clue!

You did the right thing! I am surprised that you stayed in there that long! Get rid of her and get some sleep! Then go out to the SPA!

WOW! This bride must have some serious problems! I can't believe she has been emailing you for a year about a cake! I love cakes and decorating them, but there are alot of other details to take care for a wedding. I can't imagine how many other people she must have harrassed and bothered over the past year with other details. I myself just got married two weeks ago and it took me about 20 minutes to pick out my cake and that was it. Never thought about it again!

Some people! Honestly! I am glad you sent her packin', it's not worth the stress. Now you can relax and not worry about that crazy lady anymore!

And the saga unfolds... can't wait for the next episode!!

I have GOT TO HEAR the rest of this story! Did you e-mail her back yet?

I would say "It doesn't matter if I knew your budget, dear. YOU knew the invoice was $511.00 and now you want a time consuming cake for much less. Since you have not signed a contract and have not given me a deposit. NO CAKE FOR YOU!!!"
(I miss Risque Business in times like these! LOL)

Beth in KY

Good for you, I want to quote so many of you for writing up so many cool things to think about.

I love the "standing up for your cake pans."

I cannot believe Bridezilla brought back the budget.

I have only done 1 anniversary cake and 1 very small wedding cake. No problems with the people just he cakes.
Anyhow, I always tell my husband that I keep my e-mail trails until the deed is done. If that is what you did, good for you it paid off -(well not really) but it did, no more aggrevations and no-more e-mails from her.

I am glad that that from the beginning your DH was supportive. This makes it a lot easier.

I am going to keep this Post as a reference for my next large order.

Good Luck

I wouldn't lie about being booked for her date. I'd be honest with her. Let her know you obviously cannot give her what she wants for the price she's willing to pay and she needs to find another cake person. Period! I would'nt have anymore dialogue with her about it on the phone and I'd block her from sending me e mail. It's called taking care of yourself. THAT'S your obligation.

If she wants a cheap cake, tell her that Wal-mart makes wedding cakes for cheap

Good business practices ladies (and gents). I also send things via snail mail and keep what I recive through the mail because it has a postage stamp and date on it.