I'm Back

Lounge By Bluehue Updated 30 Apr 2012 , 6:40pm by costumeczar

Bluehue Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 2:38am
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I am back ....
In short... the last 8 Months have been an absolute mind numbing blur.
What was once a calm, happy and "normal" life sadly turned into our worlds being turned upside down........ and it is only now that i feel i am coming up for air.

From my beautiful sister being diagnosed with Bowel Cancer....... which sadly was far more advanced than doctors/specialists first diagnosed
Tooooo her wonderful husband being diagnosed with Cancer behind the left eye....
Tooooo my parents seperating after 61 years of marriage... and my husband ansd i arranging and organising the upheavel of my father from interstate to come live with us on the West Coast.

I have never taken life for granted - and with all that has transpired set me well in dealing with all of the above....altho it has left me and my family somewhat frazzled and freyed around the edges to say the least.
The hardest part has been living on one side of Australia whilst the rest of my family live on the other.... thus air flights back and forth so as to *be there* when needed.

I think my saving grace was the day my son came to tell me his wonderful news - yes, he is marrying his long time lady love........ icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif

So.... with freyed edges - which way is up moments from time to time... i am back amongst the caking world.
There have been times that i truely believe that getting lost in my caking orders has kept me sain - lolllllll.
Altho delivering a cake on the way to the airport to catch a last minute flight one time was rather mind numbing... and i think the glass of wine the airhostess handed me didn't even touch the sides of my throat..as i threw it down . lollll .

LOllllllll - my husband and i had our birthdays in amongst all of this - but seeing as we don't remember them we have decided that we haven't aged a year at all - lollll
We have to laugh - otherwise we wouldn't stop crying at how my family has crumbled and become fractured.

I never got here to wish certain things to all....
Sooooo a belated merry christmas to all
A belated Happy New Year to all
And a Happy Easter to all...

Bluehue. icon_smile.gif

16 replies
FromScratchSF Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 3:19am
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I'm absolute crap at words of condolences/encouragement, I stammer like an idiot at the keyboard trying to come up with something profound... all's I got is...


(I hope that made you at least laugh).

<HUGS> to you dear!

Elcee Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 4:19am
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M, I've missed you here and your blog entries. I'm so sorry for the rough time you and your family have been through. It's nice to see you back.

Apti Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 5:10am
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Ahhhh, sweetie. I feel for ya. I actually do know what is involved in commuting to and from in Australia, although I did it from Oz to the States. Did that in the 1980's. It's a long haul back and forth.

As far as family fractures, yup, know about that too. It hurts really, really bad, but you end up coping just like you cope with everything else that comes along. Keep the GOOD things like your son finding a wonderful partner in the forefront and compartmentalize the uggy stuff.

Belated Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas, Boxing Day, New Year's, Valentine's, Easter, and early Anzac Day.

scp1127 Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 5:39am
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These are the things our parents didn't warn us about. With all the happy occasions also come the losses.

Glad to have you back and hope you can find some peace. Sorry, no consoling words either. There are times I can't sort out the losses too.

Best wishes to my favorite debate member... Susan

Bluehue Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 7:08am
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Oh thank you for your warm words ... yes, one must keep ones chin up during the difficult times in life.

Many years ago i once asked "good grief, why is all this stuff landing on MY shoulders"?

The answer....because you have broad shoulders and you can carry it all.

Well my little thin shoulders aren't exactely *broad* but as a women it seems we doing carry heavy loads at varying times.... its my heart that is dented in all this - wellllll, actually it aches for those i love and as a sister, daughter - sister in law and aunty - i wish JUST SOMETIMES we all had a magic wand so as to wave around frantically and make everything smooth again....

FS - lolllllllllllllllllllll - yeah, that put a smile on my face....*balls* rofl.

Susan - once the wind in back in my sails - we shall indeed agree to disagree.

Apti - *family fractures* what a marvellous termanology - i like that thumbs_up.gif

Elcee - yes, my poor Blog - somewhat rather hit and miss over the last few months - altho i did sit and concentrate long enough on Sunday to put up ONE entry - there are others waiting in the wings from last year - gulp icon_redface.gif

ps - see you can go away - come back and just pick up as tho it was last week - Marvellous... thumbs_up.gificon_smile.gif

MimiFix Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 12:11pm
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Welcome back, Bluehue. Sometimes life can really stink. I'm sorry to hear about your sadness; but you're right, getting lost in cake can help us cope. I had a five year period during which my health and family issues had me feeling it was the end of the world. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Cupcations Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 4:52pm
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Sorry to hear that M icon_sad.gif
Glad to have you back here on CC.
My thoughts and prayers are with you

Dayti Posted 11 Apr 2012 , 10:50pm
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Yay, Blue's back! I was missing your lovely posts on here. So sorry to hear of all your troubles and I hope we can all help to ease you back into "normality". Have your son and future daughter-in-law decided on a cake for their wedding? Or will you create a fabulous surprise?

enchantedcreations Posted 12 Apr 2012 , 1:48am
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Welcome back Bluehue, I was wondering where your words of wisdom had gone; missed your posts...........You're in my thoughts and prayers.

justducky Posted 12 Apr 2012 , 2:53am
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Welcome Home

cakelady2266 Posted 13 Apr 2012 , 2:49am
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Damn life dumped a big load of crap on you all at once. I'm sorry it's been so terrible but I'm glad you managed to survive and come back to caking and CC. Hang in there, I'll be praying for you.

indydebi Posted 14 Apr 2012 , 6:07pm
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I've dealt with 2 sisters who passed away from cancer and I couldn't image doing it from the other side of the world. God Luv Ya, sweetie, for all you've had to go thru. thumbs_up.gif

kakeladi Posted 14 Apr 2012 , 10:45pm
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.......Tooooo my parents seperating after 61 years of marriage..........

It is sooooo hard to understand what happens to a long term marrage. I thought the 49 1/2 yrs for me was bad icon_sad.gif
There are just times when we have to bite the bullet and say -"Enough is enough".

mimido Posted 16 Apr 2012 , 2:04am
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welcome back bluehue.

Bluehue Posted 28 Apr 2012 , 5:37pm
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Thank you all ......kind words - a laugh - a prayer and a sense of *holy crap* help to keep people like me grounded during times like this -

It is indeed wonderful to be back....

Update on whtws happening.,....
The beautiful sister still manages to make me lollll over the phone...with her Chemo treatment
The wonderful BIL is keeping his chin up with his radiation treatment ..
Amd my father is just brillante at looking after my BIL whilst still accepting all that has happened in his own world.

Me.... heading off next thursday to deliver a Wedding Cake Interstate - to Melbourne... where i will get to see Dad and my BIL for 5 days and my beautiful sister for 4 days.

I just hope the wedding cake survives the 5 hour plane trip ... icon_surprised.gifthumbs_up.gif
Where is the *fingers crossed* emoticon when we need it - lollllllllllllllll


costumeczar Posted 30 Apr 2012 , 6:40pm
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....holy crap is right! Welcome back, though.

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