How Would You Handle This Situation?
Decorating By cookinqueen Updated 31 Aug 2012 , 11:59pm by owatto
(please read this with a tone of kindness) You are very lucky that she sent you such a kind email and you are hearing her thoughts about this. Many people, myself included, would have felt too uncomfortable to tell you and just stopped doing business with you, and stopped making the recommendations. Perhaps telling their friends that they made a mistake when they made a past recommendation. She is giving you the opportunity to keep her business and the business of those that you did not know would feel this way. There are probably many, many more than you think.
Maybe if you write something like *warning, adult content* just below your link that says adult cakes, that kight give an inclination as to what is there..
I agree with this post.
Also, if she had a conversation with her husband and defended your product I don't think she was out to be super critical. If a person is willing to be honest about what is in thier heart without being an a______ then I would respond to her with the same amount of respect.
'thank you for your coment and concern....bringing it to my attn......i have decided to leave it there and i am sorry it offends you....or i gave that some thought and will post adult pics as "naughty"....i hope you continue to do business with me etc....
If someone comes to me and they think I have offended them then I really try to 'check myself' to make sure I'm not wrong. It's good for me in the end.
Before I found this site, I was completely, utterly unaware of the existence of "naughty cakes," so I'm guessing that the gentleman in question was also caught unaware....I'm not a prude, and probably neither is he, but who expects to see such a thing on a cake decorator's site??? 
Use any of the above posted ideas so no one else is surprised by the pictures. And I'd thank the lady who was kind enough to point out the issue to you....maybe with some nice, safe g-rated cupcakes.
If kids are learning about anatomy from cake websites, they're going to be really confused when they're faced with the real thing. And what if they see a TWINKIE in the store! *Gasp!* Better get the smelling salts! Those are WAYYYY too suggestive!
Haha. Yes, I would hope kids do not learn anatomy from cakes. As they experience for themselves they would probably be very disappointed (most cakes I've seen tend to over indulged in size... hehe.)
costumeczar - if your referring to my comment. I'm not suggesting they are learning anything from cakes, just the concept behind the cakes and what they suggest is all.
heh heh, no, not your comment specifically. I was just thinking of the people I know who would be offended by a penis cake and would get all heated up that their kids would see such a thing. I've known people who took offense at anything they could think of, and I find it amusing that their kids usually grow up to be the biggest degenerates of them all.
"Yeah, Kevin was not at all please with the porno cake with the man parts. He said I didn't need to order my bunny cake from you."
That poor woman. Sounds like Kevin has her under his thumb 24/7. He probably controls her friendships and phone calls too.
I was just thinking the same thing!
And I wouldn't be surprised at all if he's smacking her around. *hears warning bells sounding loudly*
I was just thinking the same thing!
And I wouldn't be surprised at all if he's smacking her around. *hears warning bells sounding loudly*
I don't know about that, but I'll bet he has a stash of porno mags somewhere in the house that he uses for "research."
It's always the perverts who complain the most vocally about the old dingle dangle being on display.
Aside from the comments of those who want to attack the poor woman for having principles and giving the OP a heads up about potential loss of business, I think the points of those on both sides of the spectrum (for removing/for leaving) have some very fair and practical ideas about how to handle this situation.
I was just thinking the same thing!
And I wouldn't be surprised at all if he's smacking her around. *hears warning bells sounding loudly*
I don't know about that, but I'll bet he has a stash of porno mags somewhere in the house that he uses for "research."
It's always the perverts who complain the most vocally about the old dingle dangle being on display.
"dingle dangle" ROFLMAO
For the record, I'm with re-naming the section and adding an extra block. That will avoid "accidental" clicks. Nothing is gonna stop kids from looking on their own.
Aside from the comments of those who want to attack the poor woman for having principles .....
I think you are completely misunderstanding my comments. The customer said her husband, not she, found the photo offensive. Yet it was she, not the husband, who is writing the OP about the offense taken.
It sounds like the woman is trying to placate her husband and keep things smoothed over in her household. These control tactics are the warning signs of many relationships that become abusive. I never even said whether I agree or disagree with either the customer or the OP.
I don't see how making this (logical, I think) connection is attacking anyone, and I don't understand the defensiveness.
Aside from the comments of those who want to attack the poor woman for having principles and giving the OP a heads up about potential loss of business, I think the points of those on both sides of the spectrum (for removing/for leaving) have some very fair and practical ideas about how to handle this situation.
I don't think anyone attacked her, we're attacking her husband, hahaha! Sometimes guys can't take a joke.
I remember going to see American Gigolo when it came out, and whenever there was a bare breasted woman on screen the guys in the theater would hoot and holler. Then you get one long shot through a foggy lens of Richard Gere standing there butt nekkid and the same guys all stood up and stormed out of the theater while yelling that it was disgusting. Now THAT'S entertainment!
For the record, I'm with re-naming the section and adding an extra block. That will avoid "accidental" clicks. Nothing is gonna stop kids from looking on their own.
That's a sensible way to handle it. That way nobody can claim that they were tricked into seeing something so tremendously offensive to their tender sensibilities! 
This is my way of handling this situation: I have a picture that says "Naughty Cake" in a big red circle with a red slash through it. Below the picture it says if you would like to view, please send me your email and I will send a copy directly to you.
Maybe you can tell her you appreciate her honesty and her business and that you have taken measures to ensure that no one who would be offended by cakes for your other customers will be able to view them. And that you are sincerely sorry for her inconvenience and discomfort.
And the more you try to censor those cake photos the more people are going to want to look at them 
It's like telling a kid not to peek. Has this guy never seen his own winkie before? And if he's ever been in the armed forces or a gym class he's seen a lot of them. Wonder who he reoprted that to.
And the more you try to censor those cake photos the more people are going to want to look at them
It's like telling a kid not to peek. Has this guy never seen his own winkie before? And if he's ever been in the armed forces or a gym class he's seen a lot of them. Wonder who he reoprted that to.
hahaha! This thread cracks me up. The thought of a grown man having to have a discussion with anyone about the merits of penis cakes is ridiculous. But good for a laugh.
lol too funny. While it's funny I understand the original posters concern about business. You're right...any thing you post could potentially be offensive to some one BUT while we have specifics here...nudity tends to be offensive to a larger public.
I live in an area where sexuality is very open, but I have a separate business for erotic cakes. I would hate to drive off conservative types because I do those cakes (even if I disagree with their discretion). Either way more power to ya whatever you decide 
Wow. That surprised me! A man was offended? Probably jealous.
But I agree with the 50 other posters ahead of me....just put it on another page. There's no reason, IMO to have a "Are you 18?" pop up warning. I think you should have a link that says "Adult Cakes (18+) and that's that. It's freaking cake, not porn. People who don't know what that means and click on it thinking it's something else, need an education anyway. LOL
Or even better yet, like adventuregal, a link that states "Erotic Cakes".
How fun! I made my first post and found the linky to the naughty cakes forum, and I started clicking away until I found it.
Perhaps you should email the lady back and offer to make her a man cake with a tiny Mr. Winky so the hubby won't feel so threatened. 
If it were me, I'd maybe try to put up a warning of some sort, but if you make naughty cakes, sell them, and don't have a moral dilemma in doing so, I wouldn't worry trying not to offend everyone. It's your decision and your principles, so you go girl!
If it already said "Adults only" you have technically already given a disclaimer, they clicked on it, its their own choice to view it. At the end of the day your still going to make those cakes whether there's a photo up or not and if there's not then your probably going to say that you make them.
Any way you don't go ringing up ansell (a company in Australia that makes disposable gloves and condoms) and say you will recommend their gloves to people but would like them to take the condom ads off their website because it may offend people.
I bet most people have a bit of a giggle at the 18 + cakes, you please everyone.
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