Slightly Annoyed Mini Rant

Decorating By HannahLass Updated 25 Oct 2010 , 8:56pm by mckaren

HannahLass Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 12:59pm
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Hi sorry tiny bit of a rant had enough kind of thing. I've agreed to make a wedding cake for my friends brother. It's a last minute they gave me 2.5 weeks notice. Originally my friends wife was going to do it, they have a new baby and she realised she had no chance. They want a recreation of the pink cake box corpse bride cake in purple and blue, fine no problem I've been wanting to have a go at it for a while.

Now I do this for a hobby and I'm doing the cake for free and honestly dont mind as it's another picture for my one day portfolio thing. They know i do madeira cake most of the time and I asked them at the time they said we'll let you know blah well a week before the wedding i said look you have to tell me what you want im running out of time and got back "oh we want chocolate and madeira i thought we told you?" erm no I've asked time and time again and nothing. and that they weren't too confident in me. Excuse me?? I may not be the greatest decorater ever but I think I do ok.

Now they say can we come to yours on saturday and check the colours? Erm the wedding is on sunday what do you think I can do if you don't think it's right? I'm colour matching it to the picture you sent. I bought the butterflies and the dragon flies and I'm pulling 18 hour days to get you the damn cake. Between my job and cake hopefully I can get some sleep.

I told them at the time my mum is in hospital this Friday having an operation after a heart attack so I dont know what I'll be doing saturday.
For a woman who apparently does cakes too she doesn't seem to have any clue?? Can you set it up saturday? The wedding is sunday afternoon. Erm I don't really think leaving a 4 tier cake stacked and decorated for a whole day where anyone can get to it is a great idea. The venue isnt going to let it be put up the day before they have other stuff going on. And you think you can safely manage to move a 4 tier semi topsy turvy cake from who knows where you want to put it to the venue???

Argh I'd say NO CAKE FOR YOU! But it isn't his brother's fault. I just want my photo and that's that. My Mum already said can you just walk away hell just find someone random getting married at a town hall and give them a cake lol. But i'm stuck with it and i'll deliver screw their not confident in you and i'll give them a brilliant cake ( I hope) Kind Hannah is going out of the window from now on mind you.

Thanks for letting me rant I feel better.
Han xxx

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bakingpw Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 1:20pm
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I can't imagine why they would say they didn't have much confidence in you. I looked at your photos and your cakes are beautiful and very professionally done. I would stick to my guns if I were you. I'd say "this is my schedule..., no you can't come on Sat., no I can't set it up early."

Sadly, most people don't appreciate favors. But you are a good person to do this and I trust you will be blessed for it.

Jennifer1970 Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 1:31pm
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Hi Hannah

Sorry you're dealing with such a "bridezilla". Tell them you do your caking at 2 am, since you have a day job and that's when you find you do your best caking, and invite them to come over at 2 am. That should shut them up. It's cake people! Makes me wonder if they are focusing so much energy on a dessert, what the heck kind of marriage will they have?

Chin up, we've all been there!

Jennifer

Bluehue Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 1:36pm
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And here, we have yet anither *precious wedding moment*

I understand you really want to do this and that having *this* photo is important to your port filio - but honestly, next time you have to chase the bride and groom for details about their cake - DON'T.

Set your boundaries - if they cannot comply with your boundaries and time frame - then walk away.
You are allowed to walk away and say NO.


Many times on here we see cakers getting so frustrated - crying - pulling their hair out and just about melting at trying to get their best done for people who really don't give a s***.

Harsh words - i know - but besides a photo opportunity... is getting yourself frazzled over *someones* FREE cake really worth it??

Invest in some cake dummies - get that fabulous shot - then strip the dummy down and reuse it....and get another fabulous shot of the next cake.

No way on earth would i be getting frazzled over a FREE cake and jumping through hoops for people who expect everything for nothing.

Hopefully one day you will be so busy doing cakes for paying customers that this kind of situation would be laughable to you.
Put in place NOW your boundaries and expectations - that way the ungrateful who walk this planet won't even think of taking advantage of you - let alone you allowing it.


Sorry to read your Mother is in hospital - i would think that that alone considering the situation is enough for you to be worrying about ...

Again - i sound harsh - but remember - people only treat us a certain way - because we allow it.

Take care and i hope your Mothers health inproves.

Bluehue.

-K8memphis Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 1:51pm
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I'd recommend saying "No, can't do that. You'll see it when I deliver it. Anything else I can do for you?"

And

Don't update your Mom anymore about the drama--tell her everything is fine that you're taking care of it. And take care of it. Make all the final decisions--don't ask the bride & groom anything else. Come ask here if you need to.

Hope all goes very very well for your Mom.
Hope all goes great for all the caking and that you grab the reins and steer the wagon/boat/buggy --maybe gently run over the bride's toe a little if necessary.

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Argh I'd say NO CAKE FOR YOU! But it isn't his brother's fault.




I mean how important is that really? It is the bride's fault for being so last minute and pushy. It is her fault and it's perfectly fine for you to bale if she's impossible. Your said your Mom is in the hospital scheduled for surgery Friday and this chick's pulling your chain?

If you didn't have sucha long history here, I'd think I'm being punked.

milib Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 1:54pm
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Hannah:

Your cakes look amazing! I can't believe you give them away for free. You have enough pictures for your porfolio do not hesitate about it. These kind of people don't deserve anything. You give them the hand and they want to take the whole arm.

mysweetsugar75 Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 2:15pm
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First of all, your cakes look beautiful! You are a professional!

Secondly, I would tell them that they will see the cake at the venue on your time frame, NOT THEIRS. You have a very busy schedule and cakes don't generally get stacked until the event, not 1 or 2 days ahead of time. When you tell them that, and if they are not respectful of your schedule, time and effort, I would tell them that the wonderful people that are taking care of your mom at the hospital deserve the cake more, therefor, the cake will be delivered to the hospital on Sunday.

Command or demand respect because your abilities and time certainly deserve it!!

HannahLass Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 3:33pm
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Blue that wasn't harsh at all it's the truth and I have to remember that I'm doing them a favour making the cake not them doing me a favour letting me make it. K8 i know It's more pathetic than anything and if I saw something like this in another post I'd assume the same. I like to try and help people and I get so much satisfation in people liking their cakes that I dont think I get in my day to day life for a change I feel great when I hand them over.
I have a hard time keeping stuff from my Mum as I still live at home (can't afford to move out lol) she's ok she had a heart attack 6 months or so ago and has to have a stent put in but she is a lot better than the doctors thought she would be. She's at home doing good she just has to go in on Friday and it should be a day procedure. Thank you all for your kindness.

I've told them no they cant come to my house on Saturday I'm matching to the pic they sent. That I will arrive at the venue before it all starts set it up get the ok from someone get my pic and go. That's it end of my involvement. Last cake they get anyway. I've laid it on the line we do this by my rules.

Thank you all for being so nice. You the people I don't know that have taught me more than anyone else and understand and offer the best advice I could ever ask for. Demanding I get the backbone I need, I honestly don't know what I'd do without you all.
Love from thre UK
Han xxx

HannahLass Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 3:43pm
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Oh and it isn't the bride being pushy I don't even know if she knows I'm making it. Its the brother in law of the bride and his wife (I think it could be his brother it is all rather confusing) that have asked me. The wife was going to make it for the bride and groom but decided she couldn't do it and they came to me. I think I have it all on my terms now. I wouldn't mind but in my job I am absolutely nothing like my cake self, I'm take no prisoners get it sorted but I just wish I could make my personalities meet grr. x x x x

Rosie2 Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 6:26pm
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Originally Posted by Bluehue

Invest in some cake dummies - get that fabulous shot - then strip the dummy down and reuse it....and get another fabulous shot of the next cake.
Hopefully one day you will be so busy doing cakes for paying customers that this kind of situation would be laughable to you.

but remember - people only treat us a certain way - because we allow it.
Bluehue.


Wise words!!! thumbs_up.gif

Bluehue Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 7:12pm
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Originally Posted by HannahLass

Oh and it isn't the bride being pushy I don't even know if she knows I'm making it. Its the brother in law of the bride and his wife (I think it could be his brother it is all rather confusing) that have asked me. The wife was going to make it for the bride and groom but decided she couldn't do it and they came to me. I think I have it all on my terms now. I wouldn't mind but in my job I am absolutely nothing like my cake self,


I'm take no prisoners get it sorted but I just wish I could make my personalities meet grr. x x x x
I think you just did - your way of thinking has just swung round - thumbs_up.gif


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2508s42 Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 7:42pm
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If I understand this correctly, the person who wants to check the color and have the cake delivered early is the person who was supposed to do it in the first place?
Could it be that she is hoping to still take the credit for the cake? That would explain the day early delivery... No witnesses.
Just a thought ...

mckaren Posted 25 Oct 2010 , 8:56pm
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Oh my, this reeks of someone trying to take credit for your work!!! Don't you budge, and just for sheer devilment, try to get hold of the bride or groom's email from a wedding party member just so you can send a congratulatory email to the happy couple..... icon_evil.gificon_lol.gif

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