Another story that has nothing to do with cakes...

I recently moved and sold my couch, loveseat, (1) iron end table, and (1) lamp to a friend of mine all for $350. In the e-mail that I sent out, I advised that the loveseat does have a hole. She came over my apartment and saw it and said it wasn't anything major. She then came to pick up the furniture with a truck and even had a second opportunity to inspect it.

She packed up the furniture, gave me the money and left. She calls me later that night and tells me that her Mother isn't happy with it because of the hole. I explained to her that she knew there was a hole, she saw it and said it was OK.

She's even told me that it's not my fault, but that she's upset at the whole situation and now she's barely talking to me. The reason she's upset is because her Mother didn't bother checking out the furniture and my friend was getting *itched at from her Mother. I wrote to my friend and she says she still needs "time to cool off". I'm so pissed...

My opinion- how is it my fault when I wrote an e-mail saying it was a hole, she came and saw it, and gave her a good price?! The hole wasn't even big- the size of a quarter! I've known her for 10 years and she's letting this affect our friendship...

What would you do??

sorry charlie -- you knew, you bought, you keep.

Wow, what nerve! She bought USED furniture from a you (NOT A STORE), was advised of the imperfection, saw and okayed it, and is now upset with you because her mother is upset with her for purchasing said furniture with said imperfection the friend already saw and okayed before parting with money.

If it were a close friend, I'd make a joke of it and say "Wow, your mom must really be upset with you for you to take it out on me like this!"

If it were a not so close friend, I'd just point out the facts: You aren't a store and sold these items because you were moving, you gave a great price for all of the pieces, pointed out flaws which friend saw and okayed. I'd then suggest if they really don't want the pieces, they list them on craig's list - who knows, maybe they'll make a profit off them. Then, since your friend needs time to "cool off," I'd let the friendship do so as well.

If you ever make a cake for her, I'd make sure she signed a contract! Who knows what she'd come back with!!

Why does her mother care?? Is it in her house? She needs to cut the cord and tell mama it's not her furniture.

Gah. That's a whole lot of furniture for $350. Not only did you tell her about the hole, but she inspected it twice, and decided to make the purchase anyway. it's not like you hid the fact that the sofa was damaged.

What a butthead.

Not your fault! She should have brought her mother with her to inspect it herself! She is in the wrong to let this come between the two of you. She could have walked away when she saw the hole. Keep your head up! You have done nothing to cause tension between you and your friend.

It's called Buyers Remorse...and I would just say "Too Bad...so Sad".It has nothing to do with you that her Mom is mad at her for buying the furniture.She is no friend if she is gonna act like this...Cut your loses and move on..Friend or no friend!!

UPDATE:

now she sent me an e-mail asking if I can make her brother a cake for his birthday.

Things that make you go hmmmm....

...and what is going to be wrong with the cake once she gets it home??

...and what is going to be wrong with the cake once she gets it home??

Obviously it wasn't your fault. She's probably one of those people who has sudden mood swings.

I think her e-mail asking you to make a cake is her way of "testing the water" so to speak. She probably realizes that she acted like a poop head and now she's trying to get your friendship back on track.


Did you answer her cake request?

It sounds like you guys are really good friends...if I were in your shoes I'd feel hurt and angry too, you have every right to. I guess you need to ask yourself how important her friendship is to you and if it's worth mending fences.

I'd have to talk it out with her though, I'm not the type who can just "forgive and forget" and never speak about the incident like it never happened.

I don't blame you for being hesitant, I would be too. Maybe having a "full" schedule this one time will allow you the time you need to get past this.

Yea, after thinking more about it I'd probably tell her my schedule was full for that week.

Good luck! We're not supposed to get stressed out over friendships....that's what family is for!

Be sure to be booked for about 3 good weeks. One week before, one during and one after her brothers birthday.

When people try garbage like she did, I have to ask myself, Was this person really a friend? Friends do not treat each other the way she treated you. Of course, my best friends are my 2 sisters. So I'm very cautious about who I call friend.

Good luck and all, I'm glad I'm not in your shoes. I hate dealing with others drama - like hers! Who has time for it? Not ME!

Oh darn! it looks like your whole schedule was JUST BOOKED! That's horrible..........

I agree that your schedule should be 'full'. For your friendship to heal, it shouldn't be over business deals.

I'd make her brother a free birthday cake in the shape of a loveseat with a huge hole in it. lol

Make a donut cake, hole and all.

Well, i told her that I would have to check my schedule and her reply, "Ok."

That was it...so I don't know.
When we were exchanging e-mails to each other, I said that it wasn't fair that she was treating me this way- cold shoulder and all. I treated this as a business deal because it only gets complicated when emotions get involved (I take after my Dad )

She told me she needed time to cool off...whatever! Then I told her, "hey, yuo don't see me acting different towards you because your mom wasn't satisfied with the furniture, do?!?"

uuggghhh....what a dumdum.

If you end up patching things up with her just make sure to wear one of those T-shirts that says "I'm with stupid" the next time your together...lol