Facebook Rant About "friends"

Lounge By Motta Updated 23 Dec 2010 , 9:44am by cabecakes

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Motta Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 6:22am
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So I have an FB page for my cakes. I noticed that the people who usually comment are the ones I know who are also in the cake biz. My other friends don't even take the time to comment (I put pics of 2 cakes I did for one friend and she didn't even comment on FB that they were nice or tasted good or anything).

I appreciate my cake friends more and more these days. I find my other friends are not that supportive overall. Anyone else notice this for themselves??? Do I just have bad friends? It would really help me get exposure if my local friends would comment on my FB page. icon_sad.gif

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alleykat1 Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 6:56am
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I'm with you on that... I too wish my friends would comment on my cakes...shoot even a "that's cool" would be nice...

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theonlynameleft Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 7:10am
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I have found that the longer I make cakes (not long) the less comments I get. Maybe they expect more and more from me and the whole thing is becoming a bit "ho hum" and its hard to wow anybody anymore.

I think the difference is your caking friends actually understand and appreciate the amount of work that you have put into making it! I know what ya mean, a "like" or a comment here and there are great to get your page circulated further icon_smile.gif

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Nusi Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 7:13am
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well i did get few comments from my friends but i guess only cause they are the one who were pushing me to start something.. but of course as i put more cakes on facebook they get bored, and stop commenting.. i think its like ohh here comes another cake. no one is excited and wants to know how i did something or appreciate a specific element..
so recently i started actually telling my friends to "check out the new cake i put on facebook it took me 2 days to make" then they would comment icon_razz.gif

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suzylynn58 Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 12:23pm
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I think our FB friends are not as "obsessed" with cakes as we are! LOL!! I know I don't comment on a lot of my friend's pictures of other things. I may just glance through them, but don't take the time to comment.

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ccr03 Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 5:32pm
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I see it as a few things:

1. When I got accepted into college, I was super excited. My mom was like - congrats. I asked her why she wasn't more excited. She said they know I am smart, and could have gotten into any college I wanted. She knew I would get in, get scholarships and do a great job. I knew forget that they (my parents) always have more confidence in me than I do myself sometimes.

2. As far as cakes go, my friends rock. I know I'm lucky to have supportive friends - but again, like my parents, they know I'm good so they don't feel the need to compliment me. I don't expect them to.

3. My sisters has TONS of friends on FB - from her Zumba and such - that many times she does even see her real friends updates. No biggie.

4. Isn't it a bit egotisical for us to expect to comment and compliement our work? Just a thought.

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Motta Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 6:38pm
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ccr03 - Let's face it - we want the compliments when we post a new photo. It would be false to say you don't want positive feedback every time. If it was just a gallery, we'd only update our websites. FB is an advertising tool and we use it for the instant feedback to generate interest in our work and create sales.

I have many friends and I know that they (and others) are looking at the photos because FB tracks that for me. How hard is it for a few of them to write an encouraging note? I do it for photos of their family, trip, etc. I'd like them to return the gesture. It doesn't diminish my faith in my abilities if I would like feedback. I guess I'm just venting...

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BluntlySpeakingKarma Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 6:40pm
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Yeah, let me tell you what. People get over the pretty cakes after a bit. They know you do good work, and they start to skim over constant uploads of cakes. Just sayin. Don't take it personally.

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ccr03 Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 7:09pm
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motta - honestly, I don't expect positive feedback everytime. I don't post pics to get feedback, I post them to showcase my work. If I have a cake I am especially enamored with, I'll take a pic and tweet about. As a matter of fact, a lot of my FB friends for cakes are new ppl that I want to impress. Yes, it's an advertising tool but I use it more as a gallery and to make special announcements or communicate with my customers.

But yeah, don't take it personally.

- Man, my previous post is filled w/typos! Eh,...

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Motta Posted 16 Dec 2010 , 8:42pm
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After giving it more thought and looking at it differently, I have to say "Thanks" to all of you for giving me a different perspective. I appreciate it and you're right....it probably gets old to those who aren't in the cake biz. Ah...it's nice to get this off my chest. icon_smile.gif

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tracycakes Posted 21 Dec 2010 , 4:55pm
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I personally don't comment on too many FB posts at all because I don't want to then get emails every single time someone else comments. So, if they are like me, they don't want to fill up their mailbox.

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cabecakes Posted 23 Dec 2010 , 9:44am
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I try to always leave a comment on my friends cakes on facebook, but we are in a group targetted to cake called "I Love Cake". I don't think that anyone outside the "cake realm" can honestly appreciate how much work goes into making some of these creations. This is why I usually call it cake designing, because it is more than just about the decorating. Maybe you could start a group geared more toward your cake friends and invite some of your CC friends to become friends.

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