I'm just curious...a friend of mine whose nephew is getting married this Friday, is having their rehearsal tomorrow night (don't think it's a dinner). She asked me months ago to do a cake (with specific colors matching their invitations) and our plans have been to have me bring it to the church hall (actually my church also, we are all close friends) on Wednesday. The church is in walking distance to my home so that was no big deal. Well, I just received a text asking if I could have the cake ready by tonight instead of tomorrow so they can pick it up. The MOG is nervous and wants to make sure the cake is there and nothing goes wrong.

I just thought it was odd that she is so worried about this cake that is just for the rehearsal. I never really heard of needing a cake for this night, so I was wondering if it was customary to have a rehearsal cake - 2 days before the wedding where the big wedding and groom's cakes will be served.

At my wedding we had a small tiered cake for cutting at the rehersal, served cake squares at the reception. That allowed our guests to be served while we were back in the church with the photographer. But that was almost 40 years ago - I think folks mostly do just what they want to do these days!

some couples usually bring a cake now for the rehearsal dinner... usually a groom's cake... I've known other friends and family to have done this. It's probably not normal before, but since there's a big cake on the day itself, it's another reason for them to have cake!

In my area, if the rehearsal dinner is at a restaurant (and 99% of them are) the answer is no cake. The dessert is something the restaurant would make and serve.

Groom's cakes are present in *maybe* 50% or less of receptions.

Sounds like it's much cheaper for the bride's pocket around here, cakewise!

I did my Mustang cake for my brother in law's rehearsal dinner. Not sure how common it is, but I didn't really consider it odd.

It's realtively normal, I'd think. It's just a dessert, so it's not strange to have dessert at a rehearsal dinner. I do a lot of groom's cakes for rehearsals.

In my area it is very common to have Rehersal Dinner cakes and Grooms cakes. Gotta love it, just means more cake!

After watching 'Amazing Wedding Cakes', I heard Reva say that Groom's cakes are a southern tradition. That, I didn't know ...being from the South, it's definitely a big part of the reception, almost as important as the wedding cake (I said almost) as it is usually something reflecting the groom's individual personality.

What I thought was odd was that she was so worried about the cake, not so much the fact they wanted one. The rehearsal is at the church hall and I never once heard them refer to this as a dinner. But there was so much detail and requests for this cake that I thought it was a little odd to be sooo nervous about it that she wanted it in her hands a day before we initially planned for it to be delivered.

Not THAT big of a deal...just wanted to start a topic of conversation amongs ourselves about whether this was a tradition or not. If generally it was a regular staple for the entire wedding process, then it would make sense that this cake was almost as important as any other aspect and all the details mattered (photos perhaps?). It was just new to me to hear of a decorated rehearsal cake as opposed to just a 'dessert'.

I always make a grooms cake for the rehearsal and then the weding cake for the wedding day.

I have had many orders to do a rehersal dinner cake. Usually a small tiered cake, something simple but elegant, even when at a restuarant. The groom's cake usually is for the wedding around here, a bride's and a groom's cake will both be set up at the wedding.

OK...well, I delivered the cake last night and all was well. Turns out, they are indeed 'eating' after the rehearsal. They are going somewhere to have a buffet style meal and it does include dessert; bread pudding only. MOG doesn't like bread pudding, so that's why she wanted a cake.

Blech. I'll take cake over bread pudding any day. I'm with her!!

Glad it all worked out.

I do a lot of Groom's cakes for the rehearsal dinner. It is very common.

I made some bread pudding for a neighborhood get together last night. Yummy. Or maybe it was the bourbon sauce that went over it . ..

Anyway, a fair number of my groom's cakes are served at the rehearsal.

So when you guys say that's it's common to have a 'Groom's cake' at a wedding rehearsal, is that in lieu of having one at the wedding reception?

Would you say that Groom's cakes at the wedding are a southern thing?

I live in the south and sometimes the grooms cake is at the wedding and sometimes it is at the rehersal, most weddings have a grooms cake but some brides do not want to have a seperate table at the recption sight or the grooms cake is a carved cake like a boat or a car and they do not want it next to their 5 tier elegant wedding cake so it is served at the rehersal wedding. It is all about what the bride wants.I did a wedding recently where they ordered 3 red velvet armadillos (Steel Magniolis style) to serve as the centerpieces at the rehersal dinner. I know I would not have wanted them next to the wedding cake wich was covered with beautiful gumpaste roses.