Our very good friend, an Episcopal Priest, always says that if couples put as much time and energy into planning the marriage as they do the wedding we'd see a lot fewer divorces.

Most wedding insurance is to cover problems that come up and prevent the wedding from happening, not cold feet. I don't even know if that would be covered. I had a bride whose wedding was rained out, it was at a plantation home out in the boonies, and there were torrential floods covering all the roads leading there. She had bought insurance, and was able to recoup the cost of the vendors who didn't make it out there (I did, of course, no flood will stop me! I've floated through worse than that )

I have two wedding cancellation stories...The first was the bride who got a phone call from the groom's mistress AFTER the rehearsal dinner. She told the bride that her fiance had been dating her for over a year. This was after he'd just gone through the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner without saying anything! What a jerk.

The second was the bride who I basically had to chase down for payment, and the only reason I let it go so long was that she was working with a planner who kept begging me to give her more time. The final payment came in in bits and pieces three days before the wedding. So I made the cake, then about 11pm the night before the wedding the planner called, saying that the wedding was cancelled! The bride still wanted the cake, since there was a hotel full of out-of-town guests. (I delivered it in sections, not stacked, I figured they didn't want to look at a stacked wedding cake at that point!)

I had a friend just last week get married to a woman we ALL think is bad news. She's walked out on 4, yes FOUR other weddings at the last minute, I still don't know how she made it all the way down the aisle to marry poor James. I do hope they'll be happy together, but her track record is.....well....

love your quote ayerim979! I believe that. my husband always tell me that he loves me for my "physical errors". it's what we call the strange things that make you original. could drive some nuts, but only one will find endearing! way off topic, but true!

Sometimes people who are not in love but have the same aspirations can be happy and have a good marriage. My mom had only met my dad ONCE (she was 14 when they met) before they got married. She met him at 14, he went away to bootcamp, she was 15 when he came back and he went to the store she worked at and asked her if she wanted to get married that nite (her parents were livid!)...lol...and they did...eloped (Dillon, SC you can marry at 14, 15 or 16 without parental permission even still)...Fifty two years and 3 kids and 5 continents later they loved each other till she passed 3 years ago. Sometimes TOO much emotion can be detrimental to a marriage. My mom said she didn't love my dad, that she didn't even really know what getting married was all about, she thought it was like going to a dance...They had their ups and downs in the beginning but they both were committed to family...so it worked...But that's not usually the case esp in this day and time.

Oh one other note, since my mom lived in NC and my dad (that devil) knew he didn't want to get in trouble for taking a minor over state line (dad was 1 when they got to the state line he stopped and made her walk across the line...haha

A friend of mine got married at 19 and divorced 6 mths later, the entire realtionship including dating was only 9mths long.
I asked why he even got married int he first place he told "I thought that's what you did"???
I don't think people really get what it's about, some do but the majority don't.
Weddings are like the new mixed tape, you give one to whoever your dating at that time and when your done dating just take it back.

My marriage is, for both of us, our second marriage. But this one is a keeper! he just got me a kitchenaid 600 pro for valentines day!!!

So sad that so many marriages end in divorce. It can happen for many reasons, but I hate to see young marriages happen so fast and sadly end just as quickly. It gives us, the happy young married's a bad name. My husband and I started dating at 16!! We get married in 2002 when we were 22, and are still happy at 30. We have 2 beautiful girls and life couldn't be better. It helps to be grounded and dedicated Marriage is hard, no doubt, and it isn't something to go into lightly. But, anyways, OP, did you have to refund any money?

I dated my first husband (yeah first) for almost 10 yrs. (just barely 13 y.o. to 22 yr. old) we got married, 4 months later I filed for divorce.
Fast forward 1 yr. was introduced to my now hubby by email exchange (his friend met my BFF on the internet) we saw eachother 3 times before I moved from Ohio to NJ to marry him! We've been married 6 yrs. and have 2 children, moved back to Ohio and I am soooooooo in love with this man!

I swear I loved him more before I ever saw him than I loved my first husband after 10 yrs. together. I, like someone else mentioned never felt that puppy love toward my first husband. It was more that he REALLy liked me and was persistent and I gave in, he was a really nice guy, just not for me!

Now I'm happily married and so is he, just not to eachother lol