I need advice, sensible female advice. I am of hispanic descent, hubby's Irish descent. Our daughter will be fifteen in two years, and she has chosen to celebrate the spanish custom of Quinceneara just to be different from the rest of her non-hispanic friends.

But rather than having a big party she has decided on a desitination trip to Disney World, which she adores. So my question is, when you invite guests to travel to a party what do you pay for as the host?

I figure accomodations and park admission, and of course the birthday dinner. What about travel costs? Should I have to pay for those? My family is old school so there will be only one set of god parents and I will not be asking for monetary assistance. However, knowing my inlaws and own immediate family they will assist. I don't want to take advantage of their generosity and I plan on letting everyone know this is not a family reunion, it is DD's celebration.

I'd like to get some opinions and see what the majority would say. From the would be guest.

Also, which family members to invite? I will invite immediate, aunts and uncles, of course, but what about Hubby's cousins? I say this because two are godparents and the rest that are here in the US are not. And they are adults with no kids so I just don't see the need for the expense. As I said this is not a family reunion.

I want to keep the list to 15-20 which will include at least 4 of DD's friends and one for DS so he doesn't feel besieged by estrogen

Thanks all for any advice!