Sorry I'm late for the cakeball fight. Hope you didn't start without me. I'm a newbie, but I'll fight to the death (by chocolate)

We decided that throwing cakeballs at those meanies is an insult to the cakeball and they serve better use filling our tummy's! So you didn't miss anything!

Ohh more than likely so.... it's a shame though that we would know who they are without even saying a name LOL

im pretty sure im talking about the same person as you guys are, i noticed her nastiness in a thread yesterday, and while i dont recall what thread or her name, just the avatar, i know you had also posted on that thread cupcakeshoppe.

woah, so yes its definately the same person , b/c i checked the post from yesterday and it seems that you guys posted more after i checked it last, so it appears you guys got the ball rolling so something can be done about it, WONDERFUL!

Well there's more than just one out there.

Oh, yes, there's definitely more than one, some a little more toxic than others, and happily they seem to be missing today.

Yep. Does anyone know what will eventually happen to rude members if they're reported enough? Do they have to leave? Are they just reprimanded over and over? Does nothing happen? I'm just curious...

BTW Veejay, I really love your avatar! I look for your posts so I can see your sweet kitty! Okay, I'm a nerd!

kindly define "rude"

Is it:

making snide comments?

being sarcastic (in which case considering how sarcastic I can be about myself - then I'm awful rude to me!)?

not bothering to say thank you?

hrummphing that "well as good as that is, I can do better"?

truthfully pointing out areas needing improvement (like when a man answers -- YES the pants DO make you look fat -- so why are you wearing them??)

speaking the truth about anything without the little white lies or sugar coating?

gossiping in any and all forms including chatting about "someone who shall not be named" and how --fill in w/ the current area of how that person is just SO wrong be it clothes, hair, food choice, shoe choice, man/spouse choice, attitude, way the person walks/talks/breaths, and on and on -- they are??

There are ways to go about things without being rude...

mocking... for one is VERY rude.. no matter what it is about... learned this from a VERY early age myself... guess some might not think this is bad

following a member... saying rude things just to them... just to be doing it.. boredom I suppose...

pming a member to be rude, sarcastic or nasty...

coming on as another name and doing the same things I just mentioned...

The OP was asking if someone can turn someone in for being rude...

. . . thankfully we do have ways of dealing with "rude" people on this forum . . . "reporting bad posts" as per the button at the bottom right of the post in question . . . as as for rude PMs . . . we can block those people from being able to PM us as well (granted we would probably have had to receive one before we would bother to go to this step) . . . Jackie and Heath want this to be a safe happy community for everyone, so we should be reporting the bad posts and allowing them to deal with the offenders in whatever manner they see fit . . . that may include deleting the offending post . . . and I expect ultimately banning repeat offenders from the site completely . . . they may return as different "user names" but even that is traceable if they continue with their evil ways (IP addresses are visible to the administrators of this site)

Amie, I know who your bully is, and she bullies others too. I can think of 3 bullies who stand out to me right off the top of my head!

The moderators cannot possibly read every post to every thread so it is up to the members to police this site as well. Definitely report bad posts or posts that use foul language or you can PM a moderator about it. The moderators do check the posts and thread before locking or deleteing them. They don't do it just based on a report.

I think it is easier to be mean to others or come across as mean when you aren't looking them in the eye. I've had things said to me here that no one would dare say if they were talking to me in person. That said, we should all try to be extra polite to one another and take a second to think about what we are typing. Bickering and ugliness is uncalled for here on CC and it will not be tolerated.

I also totally agree with the person who said ignoring bad behavior works. You only feed the fire when you converse with a troublemaker; not to mention make yourself look as stupid as they do. Report the post, ignore the troublemaker and they will have no reason to be here.

I can't understand why people want to be just plain mean on such a helpful, happy site.
Why can't we all just get along!!???

I know who I'm thinking it is, but this thread also makes me nervous that someone thinks it's me! That's my paranoia. I swear that I try to be nice!

And I'd define "meanness" in this case as making snarky remarks that are intended to be condescending and dismissive. Once in a while a remark like that might make its way into some of our posts (thank you, hormones) but this is on a consistent basis, and usually seems to be done deliberately to bait someone.

i gave up on "nice"

crotchety curmudgeon is more to my liking

move over Andy Rooney, it's my turn

Doug- you can be crotchety and curmudgeonly, I'll be frazzled and cranky.

lol you guys make smile. thanks

costumeczar, it not you. it looks like the people we thought to eb rude don't visit this thread. curious, ain't it?

what would they say if they did "visit this thread"? say "oh here I am! did someone say my name?"

yes, I admit it, I can be sarcastic.

Guys, don't let a few people get you so excited. You have to learn to ignore it and move on. My blood pressure would be sky high if I let every little comment that someone made on here get to me.

It gets old when people ask for advice or how to do something, and you take a lot of time replying to them with specific, detailed information, and they don't even thank you. It's not like I want someone to kiss my feet or anything, but a simple thank you would be nice.

Also, there have been times that I started a thread asking for advice, and people got all judgemental on me. Not every time, just a few times.

Doug you cracked me up with that andy rooney comment! it is funny how the rude ones dont bother to post on this thread, hmmm

A topic like this is usually shark bait. Hopefully, I'm not the shark.

As for thank you's, I have to 'assume' that the person took the information and went back to work and simply forgot. (again assuming I was helpful)

TGIF!!!!