I appreciate all those of you who answered my concerns on the wedding cake I had been asked to do. Unfortunately I only got to read a few of the replies.

Quick overview of what I posted. A friend sent a bride to me, who also has experience decorating cakes, wants a cake for her wedding, wants to help, want whipped cream, and is going to use sheet cakes for serving to guest.

First I haven't ever done a wedding cake, nor a whipped cream cake. I have another commitment the same day of her wedding. She wants to freeze the cake, which I am not comfortable with, because she used to do that when she decorated cakes at her place of employment. (they didn't' actually bake the cakes, they had them delivered frozen, then they decorated them.) I had already told my friend that I could do it, but she gave the bride my number anyways. I only do this as a hobby, I am not a business.

I feel backed into a corner to do this, but I am pretty sure I am going to have to call back and tell the bride that I can't do this. I just don't feel comfortable with this as my first wedding cake. Any suggestions on the best way to deal with this and to tell the Bride no nicely??

TIA, Sandi

Just tell her that you have a prior commitment and you are sorry but you couldn't give her cake the attention it needed.

Now, is she baking the cakes, freezing and then wanting you to decorate? or is she asking you to bake, freeze and then decorate?
Freezing cakes isn't that big of a deal, that is the only way I do cakes. I know there are differing opinion on this but I always freeze a cake for at least 12-24 hours before I decorate. A wedding cake, I bake about 2 weeks sometimes 3 before a wedding. I'm telling you, I've had people come to me and tell me they have never had a cake taste that fresh and moist and want to know my secret.
Now, if she is wanting to bake and you decorate....NO WAY IN (you know where)!!! I would NEVER agree to that.
But please for a first wedding cake, make sure you are comfortable with the bride and the situation because the stress of a wedding cake (specially your first) is unbelievable and I would hate for your first to fail from the beginning.

Missy

Just be honest with her. Just let know that you don't feel comfortable making it and that you have a prior commitment the same day. She should understand especially if she's decorated cakes before. It takes a lot of time to make a wedding cake and you don't want to double the stress of it by not being comfortable with the situation. I've been there & done that and it wasn't worth the stress.

Good luck!

If your feeling backed into a corner then it sounds like you seriously dont want to get involved with this cake. So just tell her the truth you have a prior commitment and dont have even 5 minutes to yourself let alone her cake. Put a smile on your face and use your most pleasant voice BUT be firm in your decision.

I would say you already have another obligation. Forget your friend since she's not listening to you and just tell that to the bride directly. And definitely, NO, to her assisting you with the cake. She will definitely find faults with your technique just causing you a big headache.