Of All The Cheek............ Some Friends (Venting)
Decorating By yummymummycakes Updated 2 Oct 2007 , 1:39pm by tnuty
Thanks Indydebi...................Have read enough of your posts to have learned how to appreciate and stand up for yourself.
Always imagined you as being in your early 30's until I saw a pic of you and your DH.
Thanks for your support.
Always imagined you as being in your early 30's until I saw a pic of you and your DH..
My eldest KID will be 30 this year!
But I wear my gray hairs proudly! I refer to them as "...badges of life. They cannot be purchased .... they must be EARNED!!!!"
Besides .... the phrase "you're only as old as you feel is SO true! I LUV it when we're in the car and I hear from the backseat, "Gramma!!! Turn the radio DOWN!!!! And stop singing!!!"
Then her DH walked in and said you better not be asking her to make that dress!!
The look on her face: PRICELESS
Fast forward to today: she rings and apologises. Yes she wants me to do the cake, yes they will pay for it, and NO they will not expect nor ask me to do anything else.
WOW!!! She had a LOT of nerve because I have no doubt that she was headed there! Conveniently showing up with the pattern, can you go shopping with me for fabric...?
GREAT JOB at sticking up for yourself!
adven68, as you can see I dont sleep at night.................. nor during the day. 
Seriously I dont have the time for it, about 4 hours a night is all I can give myself. 
Hence the reason for posting at this time of morning. It is 4.15am in Aust and I have just finished emailing my legal assignment, 
that I only just completed due to fracturing two of my fingers on my right hand. 
so I am typing with one hand at the moment.
Off to bed for a couple of hours before the babies wake up and I start the day over again............. along with the next assignment.
Thanks for your support everyone.
Goodnight from Cheryl
I personally dont think you should have been making it as a "gift" is the little girl paying for her own party? If not then you are actually giving the gift to the parents not her..
As far as planning the design you should expect that to change.. I dont know anyone who can plan a party 1 year in advance and actually stick to that theme or colors... I understand that you were trying to be convenent to your schedule, but it is a little early to be doing that, I think you will be just causing yourself aggravation because 1 month before the party it might change again, this girl is only 15 how decisive do you think she can be, she probably changes her outfit 4 times before going to school.. I think you may be expecting to much.. If it was a paying customer would you treat her the same way.
As far as the additional servings I would definetly charge for that, however dont expect that not to change as well, I never consider a design, size, colors to be final until 6 weeks before its due. Its just reality, people dont understand what it takes to make a cake.. But you should understand what it is like to plan a party.. Things change constantly, and to expect anything other than that is just not smart business. Give her a realistic deadline and then stick to it. You can only make the cake so far in advance. I allow my customers to make changes up until 6 weeks before the cake is due (for large cake orders).
Im sorry for being so blunt and to the point, I just think you might have expected to much from your "FREIND" She might have only thought she was throwing ideas by you and not commiting to anything just yet. I think you are being unfair to her and should apologize.
Tara, obviously you didnt read the updated post whereby the mother and daughter apologized to me.
As an event planner for 12 years, I do expect if a client is going to turn it into a major production, to make a decision and stick with it!!
This is half the reason why we end up with Bridezillas, they only think of themselves, they have no concept of the amount of angst that they can cause suppliers and we allow that to happen by not setting boundaries.
Even as an events planner you get a certain amount of my time........ you go into overtime, you pay for it! I wouldnt allow a paying customer to treat me this way, let alone my friend and her daughter.
And yes the daughter is paying as her dad is over the princess syndrome his words not mine
As someone else said, if she is like this now what will she be like getting married 
She has been planning her wedding for the last 2 years!!!
You are correct I didnt read that far... and I apologize for that, I just feel that if you offer to do a friend a favor then you should expect things to be not so easy, because thats how friends are they are much more difficult to deal with than paying customers.
I am glad that it worked out for you. I didnt mean to sound so harsh.
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