i agreed to do a cake for my father in law's buddie's wedding... i told him i would give him a deal since i thought my father in law was buying it for a gift for them... i gave him the price of $50 for a 16" square cake with a 6" anniversary cake on pillars. this is super cheap in my opinion and i probably would've charged at least $150 for anyone else. about 2 weeks before the wedding he called his son (my husband) and said that the bride and groom didn't want the cake anymore! turns out that my sneaky father in law was charging the bride and groom $75 for MY cake so that he could get back $25 that they owed him from something a long time ago... he told the bride and groom the cake was really $100 and that he was paying $25 for part of his gift... anyways, the bride thought this was outrageous for a 6" cake! he didn't tell her about the 16" cake underneath! so they wanted to go and buy it from the grocery store for $40! i was so mad! after going back and forth... i had already bought all the ingredients, pans and cake boards that i needed... the bride found out the real size of the cake and agreed to get it from me again but i feel like i'm dealing with children here and they're actually close to 50! this will be the one and ONLY cake that i do for my father in law... if he ever gets married again, he can expect to pay full price for his own cake! sorry, i just had to vent about it cuz i can't really complain to my husband since it is his low life dad... 
Yes, it's sad for some people to act that way but thank goodness the bride will still get the cake from you especially after you bought all the supplies to make this cake.
I'm sorry, but that's hilarious! Not only was he trying to get back $25 that they owed him, he was getting "credit" for a $25 wedding gift. Sounds like something my sister's redneck in-laws would do.
EGADS!!! I hope it doesn't run in your husband's family!! What a total idiot!!
I'm glad you were able to tell the 'bride' what was going on and that she is getting the cake from you. She really deserves a nice cake after going through that with your FIL!!!!
Good luck and let's have look see at the finished cake.
I agree with Lsawyer! And if FIL ever asks again, you may consider overcharging HIM for the expense you put in to this cake!
Theresa 
oh...that sounds so like some inlaws I have (not to mention my OWN dad)--they would totally pull something like that, which is why we do NO business with family.
Here's the story we get:
Sneaky Relative: "Hey I have a friend who wants to sell his ____(whatever). He's giving me a deal on it for $100. Let me know if you guys want it, and I'll see if I can get it for you--he might not want to sell it right to you, but he'd sell it to me...."
Us: "Wow, $100 for a ____(whatever). Sure, here's our $100. Go get it from him."
Relative to friend, "Hey, here's that 50 bucks for your ____ (whatever)."
tah-dah, relative makes $50.00!
There are so many variations of this theme that we've seen over the years that now, if a relative has a "deal" for us, we ask for the other guy's name and say we'll call him direct if he wants to sell something. Middle men usually put themselves there for a reason...
your story is funny...
If I were you, I would call that bride and groom and tell them exactly
what the real situation is. Tell them the truth. Don't protect your FIL, he is a liar to start with anyway. 
I'm glad everyone got such a kick out of the story! He is a total loser (in my opinion)... he never gave us a wedding present or anything for our baby shower (it was co-ed) or when we actually HAD the baby... he took my husband out for golf a few weeks ago and told him that was OUR anniversary gift and gift for the baby! i didn't get squat! that guy drives me nuts... i just cringe when i hear his motorcycle drive into our driveway and i know he's here to whine about his loser life that he's made for himself... i could totally see that as a seinfeld episode though!!! 
OMG! This story gets worse!
I'd definitely call him on the anniversary/baby "gift." That was his play day, and your DH was his playmate! Tell him to stop pretending it's a gift and admit that he's just plain cheap/inconsiderate. Oh yeah, and when his b-day rolls around, take out his girlfriend, cousin, whatever and relay the message that it's his b-day gift! Ohhh....I could have fun with that guy! I'd totally mess with him purely for the amusement!
P.S. Don't answer the door when he arrives. A knock, or a phone ring, does not obligate the owner to answer!
Here's the deal.... if your husband isn't home when he comes over, don't let him in. If he is home when FIL shows up, let DH entertain him. Not your responsability. Tell FIL that you know what he did and that you don't want to deal with someone as dishonest as he is and that your child, grandfather or not, is off limits to him unless he acknowledges the baby like a proper grandfather would!
I have to say, though, that I have been blessed with my inlaws. My FIL knows that I am intimidated by him, not because he is bad (he's a real love), but because I was not raised by my father and have no real experience with a father figure. After 14 years I still get nervous around the man and I have no reason to be!
what a knob! set the sprinklers on him (i think there are laws if you set the dogs on him) he is just jealous of his son who has a real life and he sees you as the type of woman that (deep down) he wishes he had....do your thing and don't worry about the cretin-in-law...
OMG! This story gets worse!
I'd definitely call him on the anniversary/baby "gift." That was his play day, and your DH was his playmate! Tell him to stop pretending it's a gift and admit that he's just plain cheap/inconsiderate. Oh yeah, and when his b-day rolls around, take out his girlfriend, cousin, whatever and relay the message that it's his b-day gift! Ohhh....I could have fun with that guy! I'd totally mess with him purely for the amusement!
P.S. Don't answer the door when he arrives. A knock, or a phone ring, does not obligate the owner to answer!
AGreed on that- this is not where 'killing with kindness' comes in methinks!
Good lord that's as bad as someone giving you a present and then wanting it back. And it happens more often than people would hope.
Sorry you married into that, hope your DH doesnt display any of those qualities.
I know often times when we are stressed about the outlaws, our spouses (outlaw's kids) wouldnt ever go to bat for us - I've seen it happen often- because they'd sooner go to bat for their parents and it is a HUGE source of stress for relationships.
I agree with debsuewoo about being honest with the guy and letting him know you know fully well what he is doing.
And I like lsawyer's idea about taking his g/f/daughter/wife out for the day on his birthday and not him and letting him know LOL
hopefully this could resolve itself shortterm, but it's been proven that (some) people can tend to get stuck in their ways (mature or childish) as they age. He may never come around in which case I say tit for tat (in a mature fashion of course lol)
he told the bride and groom the cake was really $100 and that he was paying $25 for part of his gift...
PART of his gift? What was the other part going to be? He'd have looked better giving them the whole cake as a gift and paying you what you agreed upon. They would have never thought their wedding cake was only $50! He'd have looked like a hero!
I wonder if the husband knows how his father is to his wife and child but is just simply on denial ? If that's the case, then she did not marry a
real man.. sorry !!! 
that's even more sad.
don't worry, DH NEVER acts like his dad... thank god... he is the complete opposite yet he still loves his dad no matter what... it gets irritating but what can i do? i don't want to cause any friction between them. i also figure that having my cake at this wedding might get me more orders so as a ONE TIME favor, i did it for that cheap... i'll never give him such a deal again... even if it's HIS wedding! this guy is still paying child support for his 26 year old and 23 year old sons... he thinks that since he got into a motorcycle accident he shouldn't have had to pay child support during that time... yeah right! he is really a sob story in himself... we both just cringe when we see him driving up our driveway but he's still DH's dad and there's really no getting out of that. he even wanted DH to drive their limo around for the wedding... he wanted him to take off of work and he was going to pay him $20 for 3 hours... well thankfully my parents are paying him to do their roof this weekend and they're giving him a grand... DH told his dad this and then he shut up whenever he comes over, i go in our bedroom with the baby and pretend like i'm feeding him... then i "pretend" to fall asleep... my husband was pretty much raised by his mom and actually cares about his child unlike his own father did to them. FIL has always had a history of giving gifts and taking them back... he "gave" DH a car a few years back and ended up taking it back a year later when he lost his own car due to not making payments... anyways! sorry for the whole venting thing! i just get so annoyed sometimes with this guy... he's really something...
Something-yes-what-we don't know! I agree about taking out someone for FIL's birthday-better yet-you and dh and baby go out and tell FIL you guys celebrated his birthday without him-but you meant well-etc...actually "put the cabbage back on his plate".. I do know how it is with FIL's=mine was an a@#-but like you say-the dh loves (in my case loved) him and he is (was) his father-can't break that bond-but sure would be nice to sometimes!!! You did a great thing by helping out the bride and groom-but I would definately not be doing him any more "favors"!
OMG,
Thanks for the laugh! I can just see your face as this is going on..lol
I know it's frustrating, but, what can you do? Cant' live with 'em...and you can't do jail time for killin' them..lol
I just declared myself an ORPHAN. I decided that I have NO FAMILY. I sent 30 personal e-vites to my grand opening, I bought food, made cakes and goodies and had champagne and fruit platter and chocolate fountains..
and no one came!
SO the next day my sister asks me if she could borrow 100 bucks...oh and yeah I need your van..oh and I need you to go look at a table and if it's good , buy it with the hundred and bring it to me in your van!
!?!?!? 
She has NEVER invited me to her house ( she just moved too!)
so, I hire her daughter to work the shop on the weekends as I am being slammed with phone calls...I hire her at 5.00 an hour, and tell her that we can split the coffee and smootie sales after we pay for the fruit...there are 3 yoga classes in the spa from 8 am to 12...and then there are all these spa goers, and the 10 story hotel we are in!
I figured if she husled, she could make a few dollars!!
one condition was that she had to get her GED or go back to school! ( she's 19! and a HS drop out!) so...she calls me at 2:30 in the morning that she's not comming in last Saturday, coz she's going with her mom to get the financial papers for school..( and all day thing???) then sends me a text message at 2:30 in the am, saying that since she just got in from work, she wasn't coming in on Sunday either!
( I was livid, not only did she strand me, wake me up...she didn't treat me with respect!)
Her answer to this....she wasn't my employee...she was just "HELPING ME OUT". I told her, if she was just helping me out...then what was I paying her???when you "HELP OUT" you do it for nothing!..lol
SO....I declared myself an ORPHAN...this WAS the last straw in MY family drama!
So....sign your declaration of independance too!..lol!!! 
You are not alone.....I have in-laws that would rival those ANY day! Haha. My "dear" MIL is in a "group home" because she doesn't want to cook or clean or do laundry, and so her SS just sustains her lifestyle. She calls me, when I'm making a cake or whatever, to DEMAND the items she needs me to go get for her....since she is "disabled." My FIL is remarried and lives 750 miles away (smile) and works occasionally, and for the state, so he has LOTS of time off, but has not come to visit his son or grandchildren in YEARS. He says he will visit after we visit HIM again....how old is this man?? We both have full time jobs, and I cater on the side. My sons are in school, one in college, and we can't pick up and visit when we want....sigh...ok, my venting is complete now, too....until I get on the subject of my "dear" SIL. Lol! Breatheeeeeeeeeeee......
I am sorry you have a bad in laws.
But i have nothing to complain about with my FIL he is so good yo me and both of us. THey gave us the down payment for the house we have know and takes us out to eat all the time. I acully fell bad about not doing very much for them.
I am so bleassed on the one I have.
I signed mine with several family members a long time ago-when they start the calls with-I hate to bother you, or ya gotta minute-I know it's something! The answer is NO
Oh yeah I know that drill lol. If one of my sisters didnt have 2 kids that I LOVE to pieces and would die if they were not in my every day life, I would probably have walked away from that BS a long time ago. I don't believe blood is thicker than water. I think respect is respect no matter who it comes from. The Queen of England and the janitor at the kids' school deserve the same level of treatment. I know the routine with my sis though, every phone call pretty much is asking for a favour. Or expecting people to be on time because she has a busy schedule and not bothering to call when she shows up consistently an hour late for things LOL. (the odd time she apologizes-empty I figure, if she really was sorry she'd do something about it and not say sthings like 'this is just me' blablabla) -When she does I tend to say' well no it's not cool but I dont expect anything else from you'
Respect -ah well gotta wish it were handed out at birth 'cause lots of parents dont seem to teach it to their kids LOL
Your husband might feel better if he sets boundaries and sticks to them even if it makes him uncomforatable. I've been there with my father and I'm just getting to where I know what strings he's trying to pull and I won't let him. He likes to put us down behind our back to each other and start fights between us so he can tell us what's wrong with us, that and he really doesn't want his kids to be united against him. Now I talk to him when I have to, hang up on him when he starts saying things about someone else and generally avoid his company.
Your husband's first obligation is to his family and that means you and your child, no one should be allowed in the home who doesn't show you respect even if they're related.
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