I've been strapped for "girl cash" also known as "she money" for quite some time now!
I know that making cakes will bring in some extra dough, but honestly, I am 8 months pregnant and have a 16 month old at home who has suddenly become VERY clingy. And we are in the process of getting a nursery together and cleaning up for the unwanted company I am going to have after the baby gets here. ( OOps, did I say unwanted?!)
And I just need to know that everything is going to be alright!
DH doesn't understand because to him I'm hormonal! But I really feel like I am between a rock and hard place.
I guess I just needed to vent.
everything will be all right! She money is definitely a necessity. Take things one day at a time. Your 16 month old will stop being clingy eventually and the next one will start! You'll find how to cope very well.
I can really relate. My kids are 13 months apart in age and I had to quit work to be there with them because we couldn't afford daycare.
My advice to you is to totally take advantage of all the visitors. You'd be surprised at how many naps you can squeeze in while "Aunt so and so" is pampering the new baby and "Uncle so and so" is paying attention to your toddler! Hey, you can't stop them so use it to your advantage!
I know what you are going through. It is going to be all right. I have a 3 - 1/2 year old and a 2 year old. When the 2 year old was born we got transfered to another country and it was kind of crazy but I got myself organized and everything went okay. Of course, now it´s much better but I have a new task to accomplish which is Potty Training my first child (I know it´s kind of late). Oh my God, and I know it´s going to be sooo much work. So, don´t worry you are not alone and don´t feel bad!
Oh, good luck girl!! I would definitely agree to use the - ahhem -*company* to your advantage. I HATE it having people come over for extended periods - it turns my world upside down! BUT, I do wish that when I had my second child that I had someone here to give me those little naps. I was so tired at that point that I couldn't care less if my house looked like the local dump or Martha Stewart's house, I just wanted some sleep. So - I feel for you!! (and I say a little prayer )
i am right there with ya only i'm 5 1/2 months pg with an 8 yr old, 4 yr old and a home day care lol we are majorly strapped for cash right now too since dh is off work going on 3 weeks due to several protruding discs in his back. he's still getting paid but the medical bills between me, him and our son who is having feet and tendon problems in his legs are building up and we have to buy a bigger vehicle soon too.
as for the "unwanted" guests LOL i have a rule when we have a new baby, NO ONE comes over unannounced, they must call first and make sure it's ok with us, even my parents who only live 2 blocks away. this may sounds harsh (dh's family didn't like it when ds was born and threw major fits if we didn't let them in when they "dropped" by) but it's the only thing that kept us sane. I don't even care if someone calls and says they are 5 minutes away, it at least gave me some kind of notice and made me feel much better.
i have several cake orders due between now and when the baby will be here and several afterwards too, i only take a week off from the day care and baking since dh is here and helps a lot with the kids ( he takes 2 weeks of with FMLA) he also helps with baking and some decorating too.
Good Luck and hope everything goes smooth with your upcoming delivery
Amy
My DS is about to turn 2 and we are considering adding to the family, so I am here to support you in your 'hormonal' times, because I know I'll be right there, begging for your understanding!! "Girl cash" is a must, even if it's just a few dollars every great once in a while. Just take a tiny amount and find yourself something inexpensive that you've been wanting, then sit in the car and look at it and say, "You EARNED this girl!" And hear the chorus of voices from CC all saying, "THAT'S RIGHT WOMAN!!" And don't you dare feel guilty about it!!!
"Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be answered." -- Matthew 7:7
There is a reason why they call it labor!! It's not like before where you used to be able to stay in the hospital for a week and then they would send you home with a baby nurse.
Now, you spit out the baby and in less than 24 hours you are sent home to cope!
If I were you, I'd politely tell my visitors to please reschedule their visits to 2 weeks AFTER you get home, to make sure they are not underfoot while your family is trying to make the emotional adjustments.
and if they balk at this..say the DOCTOR SAID SO! lol.
I did that with my family...I told them they had to please stay away for the first 2 weeks while I got myself together and just in case anything went wrong.
I had a loving and supportive family and they all understood!
and, in fact, one of my cousins hosted a family dinner and I arrived, stayed 2 hours and left.
Everyone saw the baby and ohhed and ahhed over him, I got a few hours out, ate, socialized and then went home to a "mostly" clean and quiet house!
Company doesn't really know when to leave, lol
I am right there with you, love the family, but we have a rule, no unannouced visitor for 2 weeks on the baby arrives. We have to bond and get some type of routine and some rest!!!
I have 8 more days to baby # 3 and currently have 3 very busy and non-stop action pack want to run and play outside boys! Even if it's raining! They tell us it's another boy, and that the energy will not just triple.. Wow, I am tired just thinking of it.
People will call and if I am up, they can come over, otherwise, DH says, call back in a bit! Our parents are all out of town so when they come it's for a long visit. They help, but the routine is disturbed, I love them, but the great thing is they understand, thank goodness.
travelingcakeplate about the venting and the $$, I get it too. I make my cakes and then I try and buy supplies from what little money I get for supplies from it. Or what other little things we can do.
Also I found that with # 2 it took 2 months to adjust and feel like a human again. A few friends who have 3 or 4 say it's easier once # 3 and 4 come, I guess it's all about experience.
Gapi - recently got # 2 trained, it took 2 weeks of "naked baby" in the house and between 20-30 hot wheel cars for incentive, but it worked and he is doing great. It will have been a 2 months diaper/pull up break!
Melvira, more kids are so much fun! Love your cake work and your techniques.
I have learned so much from so many in such a short time.
Thank you for your cake and life guidance!
Good Luck everyone.
No way! Don't do any cakes right now. You surely don't need the added stress.
Maybe rather then buying something you can take some alone time. Even if it's just to take a nice long warm bubble bath. Turn the lights off and have candles and soft music playing and destress.
What about when you go grocery shopping. Can you maybe use coupons and then keep the money you saved out to spend on yourself? Even if it's just to buy you some pretty new nail polish. Or a nice CD for your bath time?
Good luck and don't forget a good cry is sometimes all we really need.
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