Hi all...Ok I asked for a Palm Tree desgin last week because I was going to visit my uncle who is paralyzed this past weekend....WELL....I left here Thursday and it did NOT go as I expected. This was the first cake that I have made for a family member..or then my practice cakes. Well..I loaded up all my supplies and drove 4 hours to be there with him. His actual children have nothing to do with him so I thought this would lift his spirits....WRONG...I spent 6 hours making this cake...made a "beach theme" with palm trees...turned out great!! Well, took it to him in his room and he didn't even say thank you....kiss my behind or nothing!! I was more hurt then anything...so I just put the cake on my grandmother's counter...washed my stuff and put it up. I didn't say one word about it. I was going to stay until today...but I came back yesterday... At least here...I can get a good job or nice try Ok just had to share my story..and sulk a little bit... Anyone ever had this happen to you? How did you handle it?

Hugs
Beth

aww, Honey, I'm so sorry that you feel so unappreciated, but put yourself in his shoes. Right now he's going through something overwhelming and probably didn't mean to snub you.

But..right now his plate is so full that he cannot think of anyone or anything but his own misery. Believe me...If I were him and all this was going on, I don't think that a cake...no matter HOW pretty would actually bring me out of my funk.

Honey, think of the bigger picture...you made an incredible gesture and more meaningful than the cake was that YOU came to visit.

When he feels better, he will remember the gesture.

And if he doesn't, at least your heart was in the right place and it will make YOU feel better in the long run. And no, feeling good by doing a good turn is NOT selfish.

So, don't worry about it, put it out of your mind and keep those strong family bonds unbroken, eventually they will pay off.

You're a very loving and sensitive person and those people get hurt more often and deeply than others but don't ever change that about yourself.

{{{HUGS FROM THE DIVA}}}

Aww TY Diva!! Yes, I do think how he feels at a time like this. He has been this way for almost 9 years..paralyzed that is. He has 2 children...a 26 yr old daughter, and a 20 yr old son. Neither have anything to do with him unless it involves money. He got a HUGE settlement after the accident and that is all they think of. They never call him unless it involves money. I am NOT that way. He has always been like a father to me even before his accident. I just thought that this would lift his spirits a little. He was more concerned about his friends coming over and them all going out then anything. It's ok though..I didn't do it to get recognized or anything..just outta love. Maybe somewhere in his mind he knows that and just figured I would know he loved it. It doesn't hinder me though...I am going to continue to learn and grow..cause Cake Decorating is my passion.... TY for your concern and responding.

Hugs
Beth

Good for you Beth, I was under the impression that he JUST became paralized. sorry..lol

But, you know..maybe he just doesn't want to admit that someone that is NOT his child is more concerned about him that his own kids!!??

But you hang in there..and you know what? You just keep practicing...you just learned what you need to take with you when you go decorate on site..lol

Happy baking!

Hi Beth,

You are right....that is very sad.I'm not gonna say it is okay the way he treated you but your heart was in it for the right reason.Keep up the good work!!

Hi Beth,

I am so sorry that you had to go through all that pain and hurt feelings.

Your heart and love for your uncle is trully felt by all of us at CC.

Maybe he is hurt that he can no longer do the things with you that he use to do and seeing your love for him reminded him that his children are missing in his life.

You did a trully remarkable thing and I am sending you a big hug.

Continue to be the dear sweet neice that you are to him and look on this as a learning experience with your cake decorating.

You will be in my prayers.

Thank you so much everyone...I really needed this support!! I know it is hard on him..and I don't want to seem selfish by the "poor me" story...I was just hoping for a different response from him. Oh well, it's over and done with. Thank you my dear CC family for being here for me...You guys are the greatest

Hugs
Beth