Originally Posted by maisie73
Is that another "disclaimer" AZCouture? I did as you suggested and Googled "Dependapotomus" because I hadn't heard it before. I read that in the military world it's the equivalent of the c word or the b word. Odd to read that in a thread about somebody being offended by a bold, ignorant response.
As a long time military wife, I can offer "my" insight on the dependapotomus term, and the misconseption that we get upset or offended if not given any discouts. Sorry in advance for straying from the origional post.
The term being referred to is found in the urban dictionary (I've been an army wife for 23 years and only heard that term within the last 6 years or so, and it was being referred to as a joke. My understanding is not that it means the C or B word at all. It is typcally used to describe a spouse (usually female) that has zero ambition to contribute to the family unit. Ones that don't take care of themselves physically, don't clean the house, roll out of bed and drive the kids 4 houses down the road to the bus stop without so much as running a comb through thier hair, or putting sweatpants on over the boxer shorts they slept in. The kind of spouse that doesn't bother to bathe the kids for school, and promptly sends them outside to the nearest park until bedtime, and counting on the neighbors to feed them snacks and dinner. If they don't happe to have children, they usually spend all day in bed, or on the computer doing as lttle as possible to contribute. They are basically in it for the so called "benefits", and show very little support for their soldiers career. Physically they would be someone you would most likely see on the "people of walmart" site. It all sounds ridiculous, and whoever came up with the term should be ashamed.
As for the OP, it is commendable that you were being so thoughtful as to giving her such a generous discount (not to mention your upgraded design) but there is a common misconseption that service members always feel entitled to a discount. There are lots of companies that are very generous when it comes to supporting the troops, such as Disney and Anheiser Busch (sorry for the spelling) and a large number of entertainers, musicians, comedians and such, and sports teams. For instance, where we live we are offered free NHL tickets to just about every home game. The tickets are usually group sales purchased by businesses, or individuals then offered to us. My family is big into our hockey team so we take advantage of that opportunity as often as we can. But....we also know that if it wasn't for the generosity of others we wouldn't attend as often as we do. We send thank you notes to the man that does the group sales who is responsible for dispursing the tickets, and every year at the end of the season we send him a token of appreciation from our family. We know he himself isn't the one purchasing the tickets, but he is our link to the tickets and we want him to know that we are greatful for his accommodation (sometimes he gives us extra tickets if we decide to bring guests). But mostly, around here businesses don't offer discounts ( the smaller businesses that is). I would never go into a bakery, or a home bakery and assume or expect a discount.
Anyhow...that's just my input!