I'm a long (looong!) time lurker just starting the process of planning my own wedding, fun fact: way more stressful than anticipated!, but am really excited about the cake part*.
Luckily, my fiance (!) gets it and we both want something a little off-beat, tasty, and non Cake Wrecks-y.
My problem is we're paying for it ourselves and being an avid cake fan has made me into the classic "champagne taste, beer budget' (i know, i know. Though to be fair it's more like "fancy sparking wine taste, blended scotch budget"). and I'm not sure how to approach cake artists without them feeling like I'm wasting their time or trying to get something for nothing.
It's also going to be quite a small wedding (40ish people?) and I know a lot of places have minimum orders. I'd also love a 2-tier but is that infeasible? Maybe an 8" and 10" square or something?
I guess what I'm saying is I have so much respect for what you do and I don't want any of my inquiries to come off as rude or demanding. Is there a way of asking if something can be negotiated within my budget (looking like $400ish) without giving off that impression?
*(mini vent: My mom thinks this makes me some kind of foot-stamping,"Give me *your* credit card! I watch TV and know I *deserve* a 6-tier Colette Peters because...well, because!" Bridezilla. Which is so not true!
Mom: Why don't you make your own cake?
Me: Because I'm clumsy, terrified of dowelling and everything I make falls apart?
Mom: Back in the '80s, we didn't care if cakes fell apart. We weren't as *fancy* as your generation.
Me: But it would make me so sad if something I worked so hard on fell apart! And it would feel like bad luck or something...
Mom: Why don't you get a Safeway cake? They did a wonderful job for your 3rd birthday. Polka dots AND stripes!