Got a question which I'm hoping someone may be able to advise me on. It's kindof sensitive to many people so I would like to say in advance that I am not trying to cause any offense to anyone...but I am really stumped on how to approach this one.
Over Christmas, a good friend of mine got engaged...she is white and her finace is very dark skinned. I thought nothing of it until a few days later when I was asked to do a baby shower cake where the event is being organised by the sister of the Mum-to-be. I know the Mum's family but it occurred to me, that I knew nothing of the father-to-be. In the past I have only done baby showers for friends so it has never come up but if it is a customer where I just met the Mum (or met a friend/spoke on the phone), how would you ask what the race of the baby is? I'd hate to offend anyone by asking "am I correct in thinking that the baby is white/coloured?" - but at the same time, I'd hate to make a cake for a mixed race couple and produce a very 'white' baby topper!
Have any of you come across this? How have you approached it?
Apologies if anyone thinks I'm making a big deal out of this...if someone asked me what race my baby would be, i wouldn't care but my mother-in-law was taken to an employment tribunal accused of racial discrimination for asking a dark-skinned colleague if her husband was white (after the colleague mentioned he got sunburned on holiday). It's kind of made me a little paranoid about such things!
Many thanks in advance...