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post #1 of 43
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It's not a disaster... Yet... My niece is getting married, and I am doing her wedding cake as my gift to her. I am making a chocolate orange wedding cake, made with imported French chocolate, real orange zest... I work hard on my recipes and they are very delicious and decadent.

Anyway, my mother in law (her grandmother) called me today and said she told my niece that she has a bunch of old boxes of cake mix in her food storage pantry, and so she will make a bunch of cupcakes out of those for the wedding. She said she had to call me so I wouldn't be surprised to see them there on the buffet table.

So now, I see it happening - the reception is an open house, and people will come in, shake hands with the bride and groom, go to the buffet table and eat a nasty old box mix cupcake, look at my cake and assume it is made of the same stuff, and leave. My cake will be cut at the end of the night, and there will be tons leftover... All that beautiful cake with expensive ingredients gone to waste!

What should I do here???
post #2 of 43

Offer to help out and frost them all.

 

Then replace them with your recipe.  No one will be the wiser and you win.

post #3 of 43

Just be honest with the bride and tell her about the uniqueness of the cake and how it should be memorable to people, not box mix cupcakes.  Maybe you can use the cupcakes for the shower??

post #4 of 43
Thread Starter 
Here's the ironic part - my mother in law LOVES my cakes. She told me I have ruined her, and she can no longer eat store cakes, and that she had baked up one of her old box mixes for dessert one night, and it was awful! So now, she thinks, "what a great idea, I'll get rid of them by baking them up for my nieces wedding and serving them alongside Sarah's delicious cake!" Baaaaaaaaah!
post #5 of 43
Thread Starter 
:-DHere is my recipe: you guys can all make some up and then at least people who appreciate cake can have some, and I can pretend that I fed a bunch of wonderful people ate my wedding cake!

Fills 3 eight inch cake pans, or 30 cupcakes

6 oz callebaut dark chocolate, chopped, plus extra still on the bar for curls
2 oz cacao Barry extra brute cocoa powder
1 1/2 cups boiling water
4 large eggs
3/4 cup vegetable oil
1 tsp LorAnn natural orange emulsion
1 tablespoon white vinegar
1 tablespoon orange zest, divided
1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
1 1/2 cups unbleached all purpose flour
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon baking soda


Frost with cream cheese frosting, and decorate with chocolate curls and the remaining orange zest.

*Mods die inside when we must for copyright reason delete mixing instructions in the general forums. This looked delicious - please re-submit in the recipe section and link to it here. Don't ask me why it's different, but it is.
post #6 of 43

That recipe looks amazing!  Thanks for sharing.

post #7 of 43

Sarah- I would rather have petrified: Sugar, Enriched Bleached Wheat Flour (Flour, Niacin, Reduced Iron, Thiamine Mononitrate, Riboflavin, Folic Acid), Vegetable Oil Shortening (Partially Hydrogenated Soybean Oil, Propylene Glycol Mono- And Diesters Of Fats, Mono And Diglycerides), Cocoa Powder Processed With Alkali, Dextrose, Leavening (Sodium Bicarbonate, Dicalcium Phosphate, Sodium Aluminum Phosphate, Monocalcium Phosphate). Contains 2% Or Less Of: Modified Food Starch, Wheat Starch, Polyglycerol Esters Of Fatty Acids, Salt, Cellulose Gum, Xanthan Gum, Maltodextrin, Artificial Flavors.

 

:P

 

Just kidding... good luck!

 

Gotta try your recipe.... thanks!

post #8 of 43
Option A: be honest and im sure they will understand
option B: they accidently fell in last nights recycling bin, oops garbage day today
post #9 of 43

Put your big girl lumberjack carharts on and Speak up like you got a pair...................

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post #10 of 43
Or tell them! Don't beat around the bush.
post #11 of 43

why would granny dilute your gift -- that's weird unless she's not all there--i don't know or is there some ego afloat in this transaction?

 

she can give the cupcakes to the police department, fire fighters or the local emergency room personnel or whatever--

 

does she have any material leftover from some sewing project she never finished --ask her if she wants to make some dresses for the bride and bridesmaids too

 

i could understand a nostalgic recipe only granny can make but no--there's something else going here imo

 

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Originally Posted by sarahgale314 View Post

Here's the ironic part - my mother in law LOVES my cakes. She told me I have ruined her, and she can no longer eat store cakes, and that...
...she had baked up one of her old box mixes for dessert one night, and it was awful!
So now, she thinks, "what a great idea, I'll get rid of them by baking them up for my nieces wedding and serving them alongside Sarah's delicious cake!" Baaaaaaaaah!

 

does she not like your neice?

 

idk --not adding up -- granny's not thinking this through or something? I'm sure she's a great person--this is just weird --

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post #12 of 43
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Originally Posted by -K8memphis View Post
 

 that's weird unless she's not all there-

 

does she not like your neice?

 

idk --not adding up -- granny's not thinking this through or something? I'm sure she's a great person--this is just weird --

 

 

i want to say that i do not mean for these statements to be hurtful--i should have tempered what i said better, nicer, kinder--

 

this is your family after all and i apologize if i stepped on your toes--i was just 'thinking' out loud as the saying goes--

 

please accept my apology--

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post #13 of 43
Thread Starter 
Don't worry k8, I was not offended!

My mother in law is actually showing signs of early dementia... It's sad, but also a little frustrating to deal with at the same time. I have a feeling she may not end up making very many in the end. She won't babysit for any of us anymore, as she says she's too tired and doesn't have the energy. I don't think she realizes what a pain in the butt making a bunch of mini cupcakes is going to be! She's never made mini cupcakes before - she bought 4 mini muffin tins just for the occasion. I can easily imagine half of them not turning out and having them frustrate her.

I actually thought about inviting her to come over here on baking day instead, and she can "help" me with the cake, and feel like she's doing something nice for the couple. She doesn't own piping bags or tips or anything - seriously,the woman never cooks - when I met my husband 22 years ago, she had a giant freezer out in her garage, and family members were supposed to pick their frozen dinner out of it and feed themselves. She hates cooking, and has been that way for years.

So, I'm holding off on saying anything yet, because I can see it getting messed up and not happening, without my intervention!
post #14 of 43

I'm new to cake decorating but what if there were a small card printed out on good card stock and in a beautiful print that described the cake and flavors set next to the cake on the table?  Weddings have detailed menus for the "Dinner" portion but not the dessert. This cake sounds too good not to promote it. 

 

Or have the cupcakes set up on a separate table with a few other treats that make entirely separate form the wedding cake.

 

My two cents. Good luck!

post #15 of 43

I would be up front with this.  If the bride wants the "OLD" box cake cupcakes because her Grandmother is making them, I'm not sure there is much you can or should do except put a card out just for your cake.  You could also make a pretty little sign for the cupcakes so everyone knows that Grandma made them but you yourself said she is showing signs of dementia.  My personal feelings on this run deep as the memories for the Grandmother and the bride are running short.  I hope you understand what I'm saying.

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