Originally Posted by lorieleann
I have gotten to the point where i actually prefer not to work with family and friends for big orders. I know it may not be expected, but i feel the obligation to offer a F&F discount, or I am worried that they will be uncomfortable with my retail prices and then things can always get weird when friends and money mix the wrong way.
Now, I just refer F&F requests to my website where I have basic pricing so that they can determine if they want to continue the conversation with details. For the F&F that I want to extend a discount or do some extra work for...I will tell them up front what their cost would be (i also let them know what the true order value of the cake is so that they can appreciate the deal they got and that they know not to expect that next time!)
I find it very awkward quoting prices to close friends or family because I wish I was in a position to give a free or deeply discounted cake. The bottom line is, every free/cheap cake I do means hours of my kids being told to let me be so I can work and having to turn down a paid order. If this were just a hobby and my kids were in school full time, there are certainly some people I would love to gift cake to. I find that I have to remind myself that I would not ask a friend to work 1-2 days unpaid for me and incur expenses on top of that and that I'm sure they probably wouldn't ask me to do so either. Typically those who are good enough friends I wish I could to give free cakes, are the ones who value my time and wouldn't expect one (still doesn't stop me from feeling awkward quoting prices to them though). I do always prefer it when we can set up a better system, if its someone I trust to be fair, then it is a win-win.