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post #1 of 27
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Hi,

I thought id post here because everyone here knows what goes into making a cake and decorating.

I have an anniversary party planned which is going to be catered with a band and really quite expensive.

I have an issue with the cake. A friend of the anniversary party wants to make the cake. This is really not a problem because she really does a decent job. The problem is her cakes have been really dry just about every cake she has given us for holidays etc.

Noone has said anything to her as not to hurt her feelings because of the time spent on the cakes which goes without saying.

The problem is i had already ordered a cake which i could cancel but im worried that a dry cake will put a damper on a party that im spending alot of money on. I should also add the cake is going to be the only dessert which amplifies the situation.

Do i let her make a cake and buy one also?

Do i take the chance that her cake will not be dry?

I am just at a loss at what to do as i don't want to hurt feelings but i don't want to take a chance on a dry cake either.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

Thanx,

James
post #2 of 27
Thank her for her offer, and tell her you've already ordered a cake.

If she makes a cake and finds out you ordered another cake: awkward situation.
If there are 2 cakes and hers does not get eaten which is likely based on what you described: awkward situation.
If you cancel your order and she brings dry cake: awkward situation.
post #3 of 27
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Originally Posted by vgcea

Thank her for her offer, and tell her you've already ordered a cake.

If she makes a cake and finds out you ordered another cake: awkward situation.
If there are 2 cakes and hers does not get eaten which is likely based on what you described: awkward situation.
If you cancel your order and she brings dry cake: awkward situation.



Yea i can't win can I?

I already told her i ordered a cake then she said oh just cancel it. So i kind of paused and she said if you don't want me to make a cake just say so in a hurt way so i didn't know what to say.

Shes a close friend of one of the anniversary party which makes it even harder to deal with.
post #4 of 27
Order other desserts. I just catered a wedding with a cookie buffet. The cake was barely touched and we went through about 600 cookies for 120 people. We were mobbed. I don't think they missed the cake.

My point is to allow her to make the cake if you can't get out of it. Your guests will know that guest made the cake. You can fill in with cookies, fruits with dips, cheesecakes, etc. Your guests will have a great selection and your friend can make the cake.

Another option is to be honest about your concern and ask if she may have another recipe that is more moist. That's a hard one.

Option 3: Tell her you couldn't cancel the cake.
post #5 of 27
I'm sorry, I've already paid a hefty non-refundable deposit on the cake I ordered.

I know how much time and effort goes into making a cake and wouldn't dream of imposing on you in that manner.
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post #6 of 27
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Originally Posted by scp1127

Order other desserts. I just catered a wedding with a cookie buffet. The cake was barely touched and we went through about 600 cookies for 120 people. We were mobbed. I don't think they missed the cake.

My point is to allow her to make the cake if you can't get out of it. Your guests will know that guest made the cake. You can fill in with cookies, fruits with dips, cheesecakes, etc. Your guests will have a great selection and your friend can make the cake.

Another option is to be honest about your concern and ask if she may have another recipe that is more moist. That's a hard one.

Option 3: Tell her you couldn't cancel the cake.



Great ideas but everything we get extra has to go through the caterer at .50 or .75 a cookie so we already paid caterer a hefty sum so id rather not incur any other cost. State law says we can't bring in anything not authorized by caterer as he is liable so all we can bring in would be a cake.

Shes knows we can cancel the cake as event is about a month away. I thought of that as well. Then she would feel lied to which maybe worse.

I thought of being honest but i don't know how she will take that and really isn't my place to say her cakes are dry. She doesn't make the cakes for me but the other party. I'm invited to holiday dinner of which they are served.

This all stems back to people not being honest with her in the first place and i just happend to be the person that has to deal with this.
post #7 of 27
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I have been thinking of handling it by telling her to go ahead and make the cake. The anniversary party will really appreciate it and nothing can be bought in a store or bakery that comes more from the heart.

I was going to tell her that i put a lot of time and effort into picking out a cake and design as well. I shouldn't have to cast my cake aside either. I though a good compromise would be 2 cakes and just give people a piece of each and have it just be that.

If she has a problem with that I did my best to compromise and let the chips fall where they may.

At the end of the day i have the investment in the party and i should have it the way i want it i guess.

I been trying to find a way to do this as nicely as possible but i don't see any other way that i can do this without someone losing or it costing me more money.
post #8 of 27
Maybe suggest she make a different flavour cake? If yours is white cake maybe ask if she will make chocolate so that your guests have choice, sounds to me like the ideal answer to avoid offending her and gives your guests an alternative, hope your event goes well regardless icon_smile.gif
post #9 of 27
Can you serve the cake with cream and ice-cream on a plate so that it's not quite so dry? Ask her to use minimal icing.
post #10 of 27
If it's your party and you're very worried about it going a certain way then I think you have every right to be honest with her about her cakes. I would feel so foolish if I had been delivering dry cakes and not one single person was telling me the truth. I think it's a disservice to her.

I know it's easyfor me to say 'be honest', but I think it's best. I'm also sensitive about being lied to or even 'white' lies. I think your other option is to let her make the cake and forget about it. If the people who the party is actually for aren't willing to say anything then let them eat dry cake. They must not feel it's that dry or they would take matters into their own hands. I know I would if it was my party and the cake was that bad.
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post #11 of 27
You paid a non-refundable deposit, so you need to go with that order.

Ask the person who offered, to make a cake in a different flavour--excellent idea. Maybe ask her specifically to add some alcohol that the anniversary couple prefers to the cake layers "as a treat" that the bakery won't do.

This party is not the time to discuss dryness of her cakes. The time to do so would be after the party. I would think about doing it this way: tell her that the caterer mentioned something, wanting to know how her cake had been stored. The person's feelings may be temporarily hurt but I would definitely want to hear about such a problem.

Those of us who bake cakes know that a dry cake comes from various reasons including just plain using the wrong kind of floor as well as storing it too long or storing it the wrong way.

I hope this party turns out very well for everybody involved.
post #12 of 27
It is difficult to be honest with some people, as feelings do get hurt in the process. In an ideal situation, would be to tell the baker friend that her cakes are too dry. She would probably increase her business if she had tasty cakes. You may use me as a contact person if youd like for me to pass on recipes/tips/ideas to her to help her get tasty cakes to go along with her beautiful decorations. The biggest mistake bakers do is over cook their cakes! (feel free to pm me and I will give you my contact info.)

Otherwise, if the situation is too tender to be honest. I would have her decorate a dummy cake. Since she is a friend and will also be attending the event, she can decorate the dummy cake ahead of time and be well rested to enjoy the party too! This way you can order your tasty cake. plus if you order sheet cakes or small cakes to put around the large dummy cake, you solve both problems. (or just keep sheet cakes in the back to serve-which keeps costs down if tasty cakes don't have to be elaborately decorated) You have options of displaying both cakes or only displaying dummy cake. This also gives everyone to enjoy the decorated cake for longer periods of time. I can send you pics of a cake I did that way if you like.
i feel your stress, and I hope you find a solution. You TOO need to enjoy the party!!
post #13 of 27
I'm confused. Are you hosting the anniversary party? The impression I'm getting from you is that she is a friend of the people who are having the annviserary. If so you need to address this with them directly? Explain that you ordered a cake from such and such bakery and so and so offered to make the cake what would they like to do?
Seriously this should not be your problem. If the guest of honors don't have a problem with her cake maybe you just have a more sensitive pallette. Also I love the idea of asking her to make a specific flavor...hell find one of the awesome tried and true recipes from the Gourmet flavor list on CC and say something like, "this is the flavor cake we would like and if you don't have a recipe here is a good one"
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post #14 of 27
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Originally Posted by DomesticatedDiva

Maybe suggest she make a different flavour cake? If yours is white cake maybe ask if she will make chocolate so that your guests have choice, sounds to me like the ideal answer to avoid offending her and gives your guests an alternative, hope your event goes well regardless icon_smile.gif




Ditto!
post #15 of 27
Tell her you already ordered and paid for a cake. Send her an anonymous email that her dry cakes are more deserts than desserts. icon_biggrin.gif
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