Originally Posted by Osgirl
Originally Posted by cownsj
While disappointed she didn't offer you some money, I think she was more than gracious, under the circumstances. I'm guessing she ran out last minute to buy "something" that she could use. Not what she wanted, but money was spent. And frankly, it was your fault it didn't arrive on time. You were responsible for shipping it in a manner that would assure it arrived in time. You can never assume your package will arrive in the same amount of time as another unless you use a service that guarantees a time frame. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this is where you paid the least amount of attention. You sent someone else to mail it, without instructions or expressing concern to them about urgency. You didn't even ask him when he returned how he sent it, and you still don't know how it was sent. This one, I'm sorry to say, is on you.
I sent my HUSBAND. He has sent every other package for me. He did know when it needed to arrive and where it was going. I didn't feel I needed to ask him how he sent it when he returned, because it has NEVER been a problem in the past.
This is a HOBBY. This is NOT MY BUSINESS. Geesh. Seriously, the people on this forum can be so rude. I stated that I very graciously told her she owed me nothing for the cookies and I have apologized numerous times for them not arriving on time.
Once again, I was not saying anything to try to hurt your feelings. I have reread my post and don't see anything wrong in what I said, only that it was a bit to the point. I don't think I have ever said anything hurtful to anyone in here, ever. My concern was to simply point out where I thought the problem lay since you still thought she should have offered you money, even though the day probably did cost her money for products she had to buy as replacement.
I am a hobby baker as well, and certainly make more mistakes than I would like to be making. Hopefully I learn with each mistake I make. I'm not a big business coming down on a hobby baker. But being a hobbyist, you have the same responsibility to their event, even if you were doing it for free for them. It's their day and something they plan out. For some reason you are feeling defensive, and that is not what I intended because when we get defensive we don't necessarily see the whole story of what is going on around us. You had concerns, no one knew how your cookies were shipped, and even you have changed your story in your defensive mode. You stated your husband has shipped all your packages. But in your original post you wrote, "The only thing I can think that happened (my husband sent them for me and I have the receipt so I know he did!) is that he miscommunicated when they needed to arrive and that maybe he wasn't clear about when they needed to arrive. I know when I've sent packages I can choose the cheapest option which takes about a week otherwise there's a 2-4 day option.
I'm wondering if that happened, but I'm not sure how I would find that out anyways. So I will apologize one more time if I have offended you, that has not once, in any of my posts here, been my intention. And I certainly hope you don't run into this same problem again.