I will chat here... not really cake related but still

my youngest went to school today for the very first time yes I cried.... it's too quiet here now.... so I was thinking I should make him a cake to say congrats...... anyway, he hopped right on the bus without thinking twice, sat down and said "have a nice day mommy, I love you!" just the thought of that has me upset again...its like he doesnt need me anymore~


ANYWAY~ just had to tell someone.....the bright side is now that we are all moved in, I can get back to this site full speed ahead and I can't wait~

Well, even if he's acting like he doesn't need you he always will. There is nothing like mom. Cherish these days because before you know it, you will be packing him off to college.

MY oldest start HS tomorrow. Boy do i feel old. He doesn't seem the least bit nervous about it either. Although i am.

Hi there....I am feeling your angst! We start on Thursday here in NY...my 6 year old will go to 1st grade but my baby (3 yrs) will be in school for the first time. I signed her up for 3 full days each week thinking it was a good idea at the time...now I feel a little anxious. But she's soooo independent that I know she will do great!

So...what would you rather have....a happy-to-go well-rounded and comfortable child....probably anxious to learn.........or a whiny, needy, clingy...hard-time-every-morning child who makes your mornings very difficult?

I would pick the see-ya-later-mom every time!!!

Just pick up a cake and the time will pass quicker than you think!

take care!

I can relate...I just dropped my 4 year off at his second year of Pre-school. He was so excited until we got there, and he didn't recognize any of the kids at first. Suddenly, he didn't feel so good! Finally his classmates from last year started pulling in, and it was okay with the world again.

I too thought he would be clingy and upset, but I got a "good bye mommy...see you tonight!" I had to laugh, he gave me a kiss goodbye, and the teacher was surprised...she said enjoy it now, because around January they get their independence, and don't want kisses from mommy anymore...boy do I hope she's wrong!

I tread next year myself of putting him on the bus for the first time! I think it will be harder on me than it will be him!

Keep your chin up...it will be the end of the school day before you know it! Dry your tears, and go make him some cupcakes for an after school snack!

I feel for you Flayv! Tomorrow is my daughter's first day of preschool. It will be hard, but I still have my 2yo son to keep me company. My kids are such opposites. Julia is like my little cat. Independent, happy to do her own thing, will cuddle with me only when it suits her. LOL Jacob is my little lap dog. Always ready to cuddle, prefers to be close to me, etc.

It won't be long before you've gotten into a routine and will savor those precious minutes that you have ALL to yourself. Then, when school is out, you can savor the precious minutes of each day that you still get to share with your little one!

Oh, I don't even want to think about it! My son is 17 months and I already dread his first day of school, getting on the bus and all of that stuff!

Hi flayvurdfun,

Don't feel bad about crying...we've all been there and know how you feel.

Please don't feel that he is leaving you, he's just growing and becoming independent.

He will have so much to share with you this afternoon.

Believe you me, he will always need you.

My two sons are grown and I still can't get rid of them. lol

And a big welcome to VA.

I REALLY feel old ,mine just started her 4th year of college.

Cherish every day they go by so quickly.

Sherry

My two oldest ones are in 2nd and 3rd grade its still hard when they go. After a few weeks though im ok and me and my little one have our new routine down. It does make it easier for me to get cakes and other things done. It will be ok flayv.

WOW my kids have been in school for 3 weeks now. I guess you guys on the east coast start alot later than we do.

Yes...I was in Florida on vacation and all the kids had already stareted school....From what I understand we also end later in June. Is it a weather factor? Who knows? But it was nice at Disney....not very crowded!!!

I feel for you! I know your pain! My son started the 4th grade this year. Every day when I drop him off he huggs and kisses me and tells me he loves me over and over again. This year when we went for sneak a peak (to find his class and meet his teacher) we were walking across the lawn at school and he let go of my hand and asked if it were ok for him to "walk normal" to the front door of the school. I 1/2 snickered and 1/2 wanted to cry! At least i'm still getting the love, huggs and kisses at the door when I drop him off.

Don't worry - they will always need us.

Debbie

I just sent my oldest of to school on the bus for the 1st time this morning! She had her first day of Fri., but had missed the bus, so Daddy had to drive her to school. I kinda understand. She was so excited to ride the bus, she didn't even think about me! She didn' even look back! I'm happy for her, but sad too.

Do like I did. My oldest is a senior this year. My baby is in kindergarten. I got to enjoy the oldest ,now I get to start all over again. My oldest STILL needs me. There is nothing like MOM.Be glad he wasn't clinging,It would have made you cry more. It's time to let him grow into the person you want him to become.

Flavurdfun,
Don't worry he'll always need you!!!! Even though he won't show you that he does!!! I know because I'd be lost without my mother, and I'm 24!!!!




Daniela

I am in your boat Flav.. Today was the first day of 3 year old pre-school. Mind you I have never left my child with anyone except me and my husband, and the occasional grandparent. The school I choose is at the university, and in a new facility. They have 1 professor and 6 student teachers-only 10 kids, so I feel like he will have alot of attention. They also have one wall the whole length of the room that is a one way mirror so I can see him and check in, but he can't see me. I was so nervous, but he did great! It made me feel good that he was so independant, and a little sad too.
I even left and went shopping for 1 hour BY MYSELF!!! We are going to be ok. It is a growing experience for us too.

You all are so very right!!!!! I knew I wasnt alone here, but I never thought it would be as "same".....you know what I mean.....
thanks again all!

becca0926 you sound like me. I have four children 21, 18, 16 and 2. Nothing like starting over when you are almost done. lol

For all of you sending your little ones off, chin up, the love and need for Mom never goes away but each step they take creates a new and more wonderful relationship between you if you let it. With them gone during the day your evenings with them are so much more fun with all the new things to share.

My sons too were the independant type and raring to start their new lifes at school with a quick wave from them and a pang from me. But I am so glad they became independant, self thinking kids and now Strong independant men who love me and have always let me know. Through the teenage years the hugging eased up but as each became a man the hugging came back and now whenever I see the older ones they hug me hello, goodby and inbetween.

As for when their older my youngest graduated HS a year ago and believe me he still hasn't gone away, in fact all it meant was now I'm mom to him and all his friends that also don't seem to go, feeding them all, cakes for them all, advise and laughter. When they were young I liked being the cool Mom cause they hung out here, so I new where they were and what they were doing. Once in awhile I wish I wasn't the cool Mom and had a quiet house then I hear some laughter or get asked for advise and know things are right in the world.

Besides that my oldest has given me three fabulous granddaughters that all call me Kuki, and I get to start all over with them without the role of parenting, just the fun parts and when I want.

Life is good
RaeMarie

Gosh I remember that first day of school and the school bus. Now my oldest is a senior and she is driving to school every morning. (But first she takes her sister to school, then goes the school. Gosh that's nice!) You know she may drive herself to school, but she still needs me. When we see each other at the end of the day, she talks to me about school, work and her boyfriend, plus she always asks me about my day at work.
I still tear up every now and then when my oldest kisses us good bye, walks out the door and drives off to school. Thanks goodness she wants to stay home and go to college here in Houston.

I know how you feel , I remember crying when I sent my kids off to kindergarden and then again to college.. It was especially hard when my youngest left for college.. I think I cried for weeks.. I finally thought I was over it and one afternoon { about a month after she had left} I went to the bank.. The girls at the bank said that my house must be really quiet without Christine... Well I started to cry right there at the bank.. I am sure they had wished they hadn't mentioned it..But years later one of the girls from the bank told me she knew exactly how I had felt because she had just sent her daughter off to college and she was really missing her. Then of course when they come home for the summer with all their dirty laundry in tow and mess up the house you are almost anxious for September..LOL
Liz

i get scared thinking about my little one going off to school i think that im gonna keep her here as long as possible ........

My son has always attended school, or so it seems, from age 2 1/2 on due to his special needs, so sending the oldest of my girls off to school wasn't too hard for me. However, two years later when it was time for my youngest daughter to go to school, I was upset for a few minutes, until my husband called me and invited me for lunch. PAAAAARRRRTTTYYY! (okay, the happiness lasted about a week, then I got lonely!). Now the baby is in school all day long and now I have to figure out something to do with my time..... so I guess I'll have to make cakes.

Debbi