That is funny debi! You're very right, etiquette in this country has gone to pots..it's very sad.
I asked the bride to call me today and she said she would when she got a break...I received a message on facebook. This is how it's been the entire time. Then I proceeded to ask about her RSVPs on facebook (since she's apparently too busy to call me)...said she didn't do RSVPs but everyone has called and she's only received one no. And that she's expecting probably more than originally thought. Seriously? She's either very popular to receive one "no" out of 300(I'm guessing I think that's the number she said she invited)..and I assume people are inviting themselves now if she's expecting more than she did to begin with? I'm so aggravated now I don't even know how to respond to that!!!!!
Ha! We must be doing a cake for the same bride! I just met with a girl (an acquaintance of mine) who has the same attitude. I think she is excited about getting married but couldn't care less about the wedding details. Her bridesmaids had to force her to try on dresses! She told me her colors are navy and yellow and that she didn't care what the cake looked like. I am the kind of person who needs a little direction. We met at Barnes and Noble so I gave her a martha stewart wedding cake book and told her to look through it. She figured out she wanted something really simple (white buttercream with white fondant dots) that did not include any flowers or her wedding colors. I had to talk her into a bigger cake. She wanted to only serve 100 even though she invited 300! So we're doing a wedding cake and a grooms cake. Good luck with your bride!
Oh my!!! haha that does sound all too familiar! I seem to have the opposite problem about the cake size! I'm trying to talk her down with all the deserts she's having. That's actually why I'm kind of stumped. If she's having a dessert bar, are people going to be that gluten(sp?) to eat that and cake? I mean I'm sure some will but hopefully not everyone! Although this is America 
That's crazy she didn't even include her colors in the cake! Good luck to you too, I'm definitely the same way when it comes to needing a bit of direction.
Stop making yourself crazy. If she's having a dessert bar then a 6-9-12 cake will be enough. Pick a design you are comfortable with and that won't take a lot of time. Incorporate her colors if possible. but don't stress out about it. She obviously doesn't care so just let it go and make a pretty cake.
Stop making yourself crazy. If she's having a dessert bar then a 6-9-12 cake will be enough. Pick a design you are comfortable with and that won't take a lot of time. Incorporate her colors if possible. but don't stress out about it. She obviously doesn't care so just let it go and make a pretty cake.
I know, I'm not usually the type of person to worry about things. I guess it's more her wishy washyness that is driving me up the wall. And I'm afraid she'll be mad if she's way short on cake (even though I don't think everyone she's thinking is going to show).
But I just messaged her and told her I'm going with the design, I'm done asking her so she's going to get whatever comes out of my head when I sit down to design it!
I think seeing as time is of th essance - i would be doing a 3 tier cake made up of white squares with Black Bows - representing 3 wrapped gifts.
If she isn't a girly girl as you mentioned - then you really can't go wrong - at least you can start making *square* cakes.
Hard to believe someone is so blazzzzzzae about their wedding cake
Bluehue.
I like this idea, but can I add something to the idea? If she isn't a girly girl, then how about the 3 squares in white, but instead of present type bows, do the bottom ribbon around each tier in black and done as a bow tie, then put a single white calla lilly, or some other type of flower on top. Simple, elegant, fits the color scheme.......
I think seeing as time is of th essance - i would be doing a 3 tier cake made up of white squares with Black Bows - representing 3 wrapped gifts.
If she isn't a girly girl as you mentioned - then you really can't go wrong - at least you can start making *square* cakes.
Hard to believe someone is so blazzzzzzae about their wedding cake
Bluehue.
I like this idea, but can I add something to the idea? If she isn't a girly girl, then how about the 3 squares in white, but instead of present type bows, do the bottom ribbon around each tier in black and done as a bow tie, then put a single white calla lilly, or some other type of flower on top. Simple, elegant, fits the color scheme.......
Well that is one thing she said she didn't want was a square cake, so round it is! I thought about doing a ribbon around each tier, but I'm actually doing some tiers covered white and one black. Would it look better to have black and white ribbon or have one color ribbon on the whole cake with the alternating tier colors? I had real ribbon on my wedding cake and it was hard to cut through...is real ribbon the better way to go than a fondant ribbon? I want to do flowers, but she's got so many I'm not even going there!
Thank you for all of your input! Everything is greatly appreciated 
I get annoyed when I don't rsvp and then they call and say "so are you coming?" I'm like Duh...I didn't rsvp lol
Uh oh! Actually, RSVP means please respond, no matter what.
"RSVP means Respondez S'il Vous Plas, which is French for Please Respond.
This means the host would like a response as to whether you will be attending or not. This is important when planning parties to have seating and food for the correct number of people. "
I like to use RSVP with Regrets Only. That way it's obvious you need to tell me you are not coming or I assume that you are!!
...... She said she has about 300 invites, but requested a cake for 250. On top of that she's having a sheet cake for a groom's cake, a full dessert bar and no food, ......!
im sorry but what the heck! so its a sugar induced coma, please put your cheque or registry gift here and pay at the bar for drinks type reception????
i like that the bride has a almost zero care factor about the wedding because i hope that means for her the marriage is more important than the show.. but i would be embarrassed about doing so little for my invited guests
...... She said she has about 300 invites, but requested a cake for 250. On top of that she's having a sheet cake for a groom's cake, a full dessert bar and no food, ......!
im sorry but what the heck! so its a sugar induced coma, please put your cheque or registry gift here and pay at the bar for drinks type reception????
i like that the bride has a almost zero care factor about the wedding because i hope that means for her the marriage is more important than the show.. but i would be embarrassed about doing so little for my invited guests
I'm telling ya! Night weddings are supposed to be very formal events, and all she's doing is a dessert bar. I just don't get it, I was all about my wedding there's no way I'd have been so lax about ANY party of it! Guess all girls don't have that dream wedding.
just to add my little RSVP trick, especially for birthdays.. I leave off the time. This way, anyone who calls to ask about the time, is coming, those who don't call didn't even look at the invite.
Thank you guys!
Kaymc:
To be honest I have no idea how many actually showed. I have not spoken to her yet, she went straight on her honeymoon. In a way I don't even want to ask in fear that she was short of cake and is mad at me! lol I'm not sure what I should do, I'm also dying to know but I'm just so ready to wash my hands of this entire event I almost just don't care anymore! 
Nice job on the cake!
If I ever get someone that tells me they don't care at all about how the cake is decorated, I just ask them if there's anything they absolutely do NOT want on the cake. All too many times I've been told to do whatever, they don't care. Then they get it and say "oh, I didn't think you would do that. . ."
Nice job on the cake!
If I ever get someone that tells me they don't care at all about how the cake is decorated, I just ask them if there's anything they absolutely do NOT want on the cake. All too many times I've been told to do whatever, they don't care. Then they get it and say "oh, I didn't think you would do that. . ."
My reply to brides like that was "Oh good! That means I get to do whatever I want and you don't get to complain about it!" That usually got them laughing .... AND coming up with some ideas for their cake! 
I have a wedding cake for some very good friends due next Sunday. Neither the bride nor the groom cared very much about what the cake looked like, only that it was white and they were having comic book figures as toppers. So I just came up with a design, drew it out, provided a description in writing along with possible changes that might be needed and got their approval that way.
Now the bride and groom know what to expect on their wedding day (along with any changes that might need to be made to the design) and I'm happy with a set design to go by for shopping purposes.
Honestly, I was totally one of those brides. The details really didn't matter to me. I ended up with a HORRENDOUS cake and I didn't care. Now that I make cakes, I probably would pay A LOT more attention....but back then....I was just so happy to be marrying my husband.
My advice to anyone with these brides is to immediately come up with a super simple idea, ask "Is this okay?" and then go with it.
(What a pain I must have been for everyone who DID care!!)
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