Its Free Cake - Just Eat It And Shut Up!

Decorating By Mrs-A Updated 24 Feb 2010 , 2:10am by sherry_lyn

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herdream Posted 16 Feb 2010 , 8:17pm
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See, maybe it's the New Yorker in me, but I would just put my waste paper pail on a nearby table with a sign that says, "Cake comments may be deposited here", and after a week or two, I think you should be comment-free. JMHO icon_twisted.gif




That is TOO FUNNY!!! Love it! thumbs_up.gif

Better yet, put it near his desk. LOL

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indydebi Posted 16 Feb 2010 , 11:54pm
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But that is funny about you divorcing him. LOL!




The ex wasn't an engineer. He was just an idiot! icon_razz.gif

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sweetpea223 Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 3:52am
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But that is funny about you divircing him. LOL!

The ex wasn't an engineer. He was just an idiot! icon_razz.gif




icon_lol.gif LMAO!!!! I can't help it...
(now that you've quoted me, I just noticed I had a typo...I meant divorcing). I work with engineers but am glad I didn't end up with one! And I think you're right Indydebi... icon_lol.gificon_biggrin.gif

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AngelaM Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 5:31pm
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Next time bring him his piece of cake and tell him to choke on it.

Or better yet, how about, "If you don't have anything nice to say, then shut the f*ck up".

Sorry, I should bury my inner New Yorker too. icon_lol.gif

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tirby Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 5:50pm
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Anyone that ever says there is too much butter in their cake needs to be slapped, poked in the eye with a dowel, and had the entire contents of a Funfetti cake mix shoved down their throat. Dry.




FUNNY

seriously so tell him to make a better one and eat that. Isnt the whole process of making new cakes is to get opinions? ok so it wasent uniform but did everyone else like it? and something tells me hes the biggest pig in the bunch! des he live in his mothers basement!??
Not to be mean but stop sharing YOUR cake with him...

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CeeTee Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 7:34pm
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I honestly do not think the guy is trying to be rude. It sounds to me like he's trying to give feedback, just he's not doing it in a way you would respond positively to. Guys are blunt and straightforward. In his mind he's probably thinking he IS being nice and helpful, but while he's thinking "Constructive Criticism", you're thinking "Rude".

My DBF is the same way. When I try out things he's the first person I have try them, and he ALWAYS points out the flaws, and rarely highlights the positives. At first it cheesed me off, and I did ask him why he would eat it if he didn't like it so much. He responded "I DO like it. If I didn't, I wouldn't eat it, and I wouldn't have said anything." So since then I give him slack and when he doesn't like something I have him elaborate. It's been very helpful in the long run. (and for the record, he's a scientist, and his dad is an engineer. He's totally hopeless, but in a adorkable way icon_smile.gif )

So instead of cutting the guy off, ask him why he's pointing out the flaws and try to see where he's coming from. It can't hurt...

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cplfernandez Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 7:49pm
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Or... see if he is allergic to anything and just tell him every cake you make has that ingredient.

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cownsj Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 9:13pm
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I honestly do not think the guy is trying to be rude. It sounds to me like he's trying to give feedback, just he's not doing it in a way you would respond positively to. Guys are blunt and straightforward. In his mind he's probably thinking he IS being nice and helpful, but while he's thinking "Constructive Criticism", you're thinking "Rude".

My DBF is the same way. When I try out things he's the first person I have try them, and he ALWAYS points out the flaws, and rarely highlights the positives. At first it cheesed me off, and I did ask him why he would eat it if he didn't like it so much. He responded "I DO like it. If I didn't, I wouldn't eat it, and I wouldn't have said anything." So since then I give him slack and when he doesn't like something I have him elaborate. It's been very helpful in the long run. (and for the record, he's a scientist, and his dad is an engineer. He's totally hopeless, but in a adorkable way icon_smile.gif )

Excellent point
So instead of cutting the guy off, ask him why he's pointing out the flaws and try to see where he's coming from. It can't hurt...


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Evoir Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 10:09pm
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LOL I love the engineer comments my earlier post spawned. I should confess I am married to an engineer, who also has a very artistic side. Best of both worlds.

HOWEVER, it DID take me a few weeks when we first started dating to get used to his uber-honest way of communicating. Truly - it is one of his traits that I value the highest now. I know I can always get an honest answer to any question I ask. Its not that he is tactless...just openly truthful and honest. Its funny in this world we are surrounded by people who BS you at every opportunity, whether for personal gain or simply to 'play nice' (ie white lies). The engineer species offers a different perspective and encourage an examined life. I now embrace all nerds and geeks and engineers - lord knows we need them! I appreciate the honesty, even when it stings a bit, its only meant to be an unemotional appraisal.

Just don't ever ask one if your 'bum looks big in this'.

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antonia74 Posted 17 Feb 2010 , 10:52pm
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Give him this.......
LL

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Mrs-A Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 12:33am
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ok.... how would you take this???

yesterday i tried to bake my first rv cake. first cake was rising lovely and then i think i blew it by opening the door and having a peek and jossled the pan by accident and it fell. so i tried it again, and soon after black smoke was coming out of my oven, the tempreture was about 200C higher than what i wanted it to be, the fan wasnt working and yeah - burnt cake

so i try to turn the oven off.. and it wont turn off, we tried everything we could think of it was happily baking away at about 170c/360f when it was suppose to be off and eventually hubby had to pull some fuses at the power box to turn it off and im going out soon to buy a new oven

anyways, i email my office saying "sorry guys, no cake today as my oven died yesterday and i will be oven-less until i buy a new one"

and my serial complainer emails me back with: "A good tradesman never blames his tools."

i know im being sensitive but what the heck... sorry, i just needed to bitch

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sadsmile Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 12:37am
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ok.... how would you take this???

and my serial complainer emails me back with: "A good tradesman never blames his tools."

i know im being sensitive but what the heck... sorry, i just needed to bitch




How rude! Who does he think he is? I would print up his emails and that sign up there"Funny I didn't ask for your opinion." and put his email print out on the cake stand for the office to read. They'll take care of it for you. At the least he'll get embarrassed and everyone will know he has been a turd.

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denetteb Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 12:44am
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Now that reply from him was just so off-base.

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sweetpea223 Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 12:48am
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WT???? I don't think you were blaming your tool!!! you are actually in mourning for losing your oven!!! next time bring a pie with tons of whip cream and smash it in his face! I would love to see the look on his face on that... free whip cream!

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luvmysmoother Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 1:13am
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That guy just sounds like a jerk. At first I thought he was trying to offer honest criticism until the stupid comment re: the oven. I have the opposite problem. People NEVER critique my cakes and always say they all look and taste great no matter how deformed and dry they areicon_sad.gif I don't think I'd enjoy really harsh criticism (like someone saying "that cake you made today was just gross" but if they made honest comments of whether they liked a new cake recipe or not it would be helpful...thinking about it though it's really really hard to make a "polite" criticism of a cake? If someone said "I think the smores cake you made today tasted a bit dry and too sweet" it's an honest criticism but would make the person sound a bit ungrateful...no wonder why they don't criticizeicon_smile.gif I really do prefer honest criticism - I know I can't just make cakes that suit my own personal taste because my taste isn't necessarily representative of everyone else's.

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OMGitsaLisa Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 1:36am
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Yeah, that makes it clear that he's just a jerk. I would totally call him out on that, but I probably would have called him out a long time ago, too.

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Evoir Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 10:12am
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I always give folks the benefit of the doubt, but that last comment shows he is being just plain nasty. I'm sorry you have to deal with this poor character, Mrs-A.

You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".

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Melnick Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 10:50am
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You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".



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malakainrop Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 11:11am
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Mrs A - new recipe for next week.....JUST for your friendly cake critic -

Take 2 packets of Laxettes - melt and ice ANY cake!! - (before it starts to REACT go into the loos and GLADWRAP the toilet (under the seat!!)

Sit back and wait! reckon he won't be diving into any more cake for some time!

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antonia74 Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 2:21pm
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You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".


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....or how about, "Yeah, I've heard that one from your wife." tapedshut.giftapedshut.gif


Noooo, just kidding...don't say that, lol! It's a lawsuit, lol! Just fun to consider saying. icon_lol.gif

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psmith Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 2:29pm
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You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".


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ROTFL!!! That is the perfect reply. icon_smile.gif

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julzs71 Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 4:23pm
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You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".


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....or how about, "Yeah, I've heard that one from your wife." tapedshut.giftapedshut.gif


Noooo, just kidding...don't say that, lol! It's a lawsuit, lol! Just fun to consider saying. icon_lol.gif



That's funny icon_biggrin.gif
I really don't think it was mean. I think it's actually funny.
I also don't think he is trying to be rude with giving you his thoughts. I would actually like it. Then you could figure out which cakes are good or bad. Don't look at it as a personal attack. Ask him if there was anything you liked about the cake or if he knew of a really good recipe that he could give you.

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cakesbycathy Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 5:04pm
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You need to learn some snappy comebacks...eg, when he says 'a good tradesman never blames his tools', hit "reply all" with a message back to him saying "I didn't blame you!".


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....or how about, "Yeah, I've heard that one from your wife." tapedshut.giftapedshut.gif


Noooo, just kidding...don't say that, lol! It's a lawsuit, lol! Just fun to consider saying. icon_lol.gif


That's funny icon_biggrin.gif
I really don't think it was mean. I think it's actually funny.
I also don't think he is trying to be rude with giving you his thoughts. I would actually like it. Then you could figure out which cakes are good or bad. Don't look at it as a personal attack. Ask him if there was anything you liked about the cake or if he knew of a really good recipe that he could give you.




Sorry, I disagree. It's one thing if he's saying well the frostings a little sweet or this flavor tasted dry. His last comment was completely unnecessary. The guy is just being an a$$.

Whether or not he thinks he's being helpful is irrelevant. He's now become rude and needs to be called on it.

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miss_sweetstory Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 5:55pm
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Ok, I was in full support of the "engineer can be socially backwards" line of thought (I'm married to one... the most literal thinker ever. )

But the comment on the oven proves he is just a jerk. Some people just don't get that every single thing that crosses their mind does not need to exit their mouth! icon_mad.gif

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sadsmile Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 5:59pm
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Yeah... it turns into verbal diarrhea.

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Rosie2 Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 6:13pm
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Oookay...so, did he expected you to build a brick oven in the backyard and bake a cake??? he's a jerk!! you have a lot of patience...at this point I would not be bringing cakes for anyone in the office because of his smarta$$ss remarks! icon_mad.gif

My best critic is my daughter because she's very picky, but she's so sweet and always says---hmmm, this ons is not my favorite, but that doesn't mean other people won't like it----

I'm a begginer and I take good old contructive criticism but I'd be hurt if someone makes stupid remarks like that...

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rosiecast Posted 22 Feb 2010 , 8:05pm
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That guy is a jerk. The nerve of him!!! Once you get your new oven, don't give him any of your cakes. he's an idiot.

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akgirl10 Posted 23 Feb 2010 , 12:29am
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I'm married to an engineer too. He can be critical of my designs, but never the cake itself. If anyone in his office ever made comments like this jerk, that would be the end of free cake.

The last comment proves there is no good intentions behind his critiques. Definitely no cake for him. Sorry you work with a jerk.

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7yyrt Posted 23 Feb 2010 , 1:15am
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... my serial complainer emails me back with: "A good tradesman never blames his tools. ...



Three points:
1. A tradesman would be selling them the cake.
2. You aren't a man.
3. No one asked for his opinion in the first place.

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Renaejrk Posted 23 Feb 2010 , 1:35am
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holy crap I can't believe he went there! You REALLY have to say something to this guy!

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